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The expression of personal appearance and etiquette: speak politely

The function of polite language cannot be ignored. People should greet each other when they meet, such as "hello!" "How have you been recently?" "Long time no see, you are getting more and more beautiful!" "Nice to meet you" ... and so on. Although these languages themselves do not mean specific meanings, they are indispensable in communication. From here, we can see each other's cordial and friendly information, and at the same time show that we are polite, educated and graceful, thus forming a harmonious, cordial, friendly and enthusiastic communication atmosphere. Chinese characters in China are rich and colorful, and there are countless polite expressions in the country of etiquette. For example, the languages that show respect are: sorry, dare to ask, exploit the topic, ask questions, ask questions, teach, ask for advice, ask for advice, kick and so on; You can use it when interrupting: interrupting, disturbing, laborious, troublesome, troublesome, troublesome, eccentric, etc. If we use these words properly in language communication, communication and conversation, the etiquette of language is not much different. In any social situation, honesty and enthusiasm are the basis of conversation. Only by talking openly can people feel cordial and natural, and the atmosphere will be harmonious. You know, talking face to face with anyone is a mutually beneficial relationship.

Treat people with courtesy to show personal dignity and meet each other's self-esteem needs. Therefore, we should consciously use polite language anytime and anywhere in conversation, which is the basic quality that civilized people should have and the basic way to express respect. For example, the word "please" can best reflect respect for people. Don't forget to say "please" when you ask for something. If imperative sentences are needed, adding a word "please" will also ease the tone of the command a lot. When accepting any service from others and thanking others, don't forget to say "thank you"; If you have to leave or interrupt the other person temporarily, or you don't realize it everywhere, just say "I'm sorry". Someone concluded: "Three words from the mouth are the truth in the world." In the process of communication and conversation, polite expressions are commonly used, versatile and frequently used. Over time, they will be effective. The basic way of appearance and speech.

The expression of personal appearance etiquette: speed of speech, sound quality and politeness in tone.

The same sentence, said slowly or urgently, said softly or loudly, discussed tone or bossing, smiling or keeping a straight face, the effect is very different, and it should be adjusted according to the object and occasion. Speaking is an art. If you want to speak well and express your meaning correctly, you must first pronounce it correctly, clearly and easily, otherwise it will affect the expression of the content because of slurred speech and inaccurate pronunciation. Clear and easy-to-understand pronunciation can rely on usual practice, pay more attention to other people's conversations and read more books and newspapers; Overcome your nervousness when you speak, and take your time when you speak, and you will do this.

Secondly, you can't speak too fast or too slowly. Speaking too fast will make people feel at a loss, unable to keep up with the reaction, and easily make themselves tired of instrument etiquette. Some people think they can save time by speaking faster. In fact, the purpose of speaking is to make the other person understand what you mean. Besides, both the speaker and the obedient must use their thoughts. Speaking too slowly will also make people laugh, which will not only waste time, but also make the listener impatient and even lose interest in speaking. Therefore, it is most appropriate to speak at a medium speed, that is, about 120 words per minute. The last thing to pay attention to is intonation. People often reveal their true feelings when they speak, and intonation is a window to reveal this true feeling. Happy, disappointed, firm, hesitant, relaxed, depressed, ecstatic, sad and other complex emotions will be shown in the cadence and priority of the tone.

Intonation also reveals a person's social attitude, that kind of absent-mindedness, the tone of the monk chanting will never cause other people's emotions. Although intonation is very important, it is often ignored in conversation. We only pay attention to how funny the words are and how wonderful the content is, but forget how touching the tone is. In this way, the transmission of ideas is lost and the effect is also affected. In social occasions, in order to make your conversation conspicuous and decent, you must pay attention to the size, relaxation, height and speed of the voice, so as to get good results. For example, lowering your voice is always much more pleasant than raising it; Euphemistic and soft tone is always more touching than rude and blunt tone; A little slower pronunciation is more acceptable than rapid-fire pronunciation; The cadence is always more likely to arouse people's interest than the monotonous tablet ... but all this should pursue nature. If you put on airs and pursue the so-called cadence excessively, it will also give people the feeling of being flashy and acting. The natural timbre is also beautiful and pleasant to listen to.

The expression of personal grooming etiquette: the language should be fluent and easy to understand.

In other words, what you said is pleasing to the ear and can be heard clearly. Let people listen to hard and uncomfortable words, which will affect the interest in conversation. It will also make people doubt your actual ability. Even disgust and anger. Therefore, when choosing words and expressing them, it is best to be simple and natural, and use some plain spoken English. This is in line with people's habits, easy to understand and accept, and will not give people the feeling of showing off.

In addition, some people like to insert a little foreign language or dialect into their conversation, and its effect may be difficult to generalize, which mainly depends on the interests of both sides. If the interests are consistent, it is not surprising, otherwise it will be uncomfortable to welcome. Generally speaking, it is best not to use it when talking to more than two people. Because most people are not used to this "combination of Chinese and foreign" way of speaking. Of course. Occasionally, if one or two loanwords are used properly, it can also add color to the conversation, but it should be noted that the foreign language quoted should be suitable for the other party to understand. Otherwise, it will not only scratch the boots, but also "play the lute to a cow", which will also create a gap invisibly. If it is really necessary to say it, use it properly and pay attention to the correct pronunciation. If you are arrogant, nondescript or have a bad tone, you will inevitably be laughed at by people who know, so be careful.

Similarly, in social situations, everyone should try to speak Mandarin, in other words, we should try to avoid dialects. However, we should also realize that China has a vast territory and many languages, and the formation of dialects has its own geographical factors, so it is difficult to completely eliminate the language barriers between them. Therefore, for other people's local accent, we should have a magnanimity. In case of unclear words, you can ask more questions, and don't ridicule instrument etiquette to show your default.