There are men in society who are not close to women. Why?

A buddy is a Chinese medicine practitioner. 39-year-old unmarried, dating more than a year 100 times. Every time I go on a blind date, I will commit occupational diseases. Come up and feel the girl's pulse.

My good friend Brother Zhao is a physician in our local Chinese medicine hospital. Although he looks gentle and speaks with special self-restraint, he looks a bit like a male star at first glance. However, at the age of 39, she is "very old", not married, and even talked about her girlfriend.

Because Zhao Ge and I grew up in a factory compound, and our parents are retired workers in the same factory. They all started at the same time, with their parents-in-law and grandchildren wrapped around their knees to enjoy family happiness, while Zhao Ge didn't even have a girlfriend. Zhao Ge's parents are full of anxiety. Zhao Ge's mother cries for her mother-in-law every day and asks her mother-in-law to introduce a girlfriend to Zhao Ge.

Zhao Ge has no less than 100 blind dates a year, and the conditions for blind date girls are particularly excellent. They are either civil servants in institutions or white-collar workers in offices, but after each blind date, they have nothing. Once, even the angry blind date girl slapped him on the spot and smashed the cup.

Later, he was dubbed as a "monk" and even suspected that the reason why he was not close to women was: good masculinity. When my husband celebrated his birthday last year, Zhao Ge was invited to have dinner at home. Zhao Ge, who has always been a teetotaler and pays attention to health, actually drank two glasses of red wine. Later, I was a little drunk and cried with my husband. We thought he had encountered something difficult, but Zhao Ge's chatterbox opened and told the real reason for "not being close to women" in recent years!

Serious occupational diseases, blind date as consultation, give people a pulse as soon as they come up.

Because Zhao Ge is a Chinese medicine practitioner, he sits in the hospital every day and has the most contact with patients and hospital colleagues. Originally, Chinese medicine gave people the impression that it was serious and dignified. However, Zhao Ge has a baby face and looks particularly immature and unreliable. In order to give patients a more professional feeling, he specially equipped a pair of black-rimmed glasses, and he usually kept a straight face when he was hospitalized.

Maybe I have been a doctor for a long time and got a serious occupational disease. In order not to be embarrassed when dating, Zhao Ge tried to find a topic to talk about, and the content of the chat turned out to be about health, Chinese medicine, disease and cancer treatment.

Zhao Ge said that once his mother's neighbor introduced him to a girl who was a teacher in kindergarten. At that time, they made an appointment to meet in a coffee shop. In order to impress the girl, he arrived half an hour early. When he arrived, he saw that the girl didn't come, so he took out a Chinese medicine acupoint book and read it.

Later, when the girl came, he was a little disappointed at first sight, because the introducer said that the girl was 28 years old, never married, and never even talked about her boyfriend. But when he glanced at the girl, he knew that the girl was not simple! At least the age is definitely not 28! It's no exaggeration to say that she is 38 years old!

So, the two chatted for a while, and Zhao Ge suddenly took out a small pillow from his bag and put it on the table and said, "I don't think you look well. You should not have a good rest recently, and your eyes are purple. This is a sign of weakness of the spleen and stomach. Come on, I'll take your pulse. "

The girl heard it on the spot, paused, and hesitated whether to stretch her wrist. Zhao Ge kept a straight face for a long time and suddenly looked up and said, "Have you ever given birth to a child before? Was it not well conditioned at that time? Some liver and blood deficiency "

Scared, the girl quickly drew back her hand and nervously argued, "No! Don't! How can you have children if you have never been in love? What are you talking about? Do you look at it or not! "

"Ha ha, I am a doctor, how could I be wrong? And judging from the flabby skin on your face, I think you must be 38 years old. We have acupuncture treatment in traditional Chinese medicine hospital. Why don't we go to our hospital another day to get some Chinese medicine to recuperate ... "Zhao Ge adjusted her glasses and said solemnly.

"pa!" Before Zhao Ge finished speaking, the girl's eyes became red with anger. She slapped Zhao Ge in the face, grabbed the coffee on the table and threw it in his face. She broke the cup after cursing an ugly word!

Later, Zhao Ge told us that many girls' private lives are casual now, and blind date is not just for simple purposes. He just doesn't want to fall in love in a daze, so he wants to check with his professional knowledge first, and he doesn't know what to talk about. Seeing the person sitting opposite, he subconsciously thought it was a patient, so he unconsciously wanted to feel the pulse.

Ultra-low emotional intelligence, giving girls gifts on Valentine's Day, even sending Chinese medicine.

Zhao Ge's longest love is five days, just in time for Valentine's Day. The day before Valentine's Day, his girlfriend asked him with joy if he had prepared a Valentine's Day gift for himself. Zhao Ge nodded and said that he had prepared a unique gift in the world that his girlfriend liked.

Who knows that on Valentine's Day, after they watched the movie, his girlfriend asked him for a gift, and Zhao Ge happily took out an oversized gift box. My girlfriend can't be happy when she sees her eyes shining!

But after opening the gift, my girlfriend instantly froze! Zhao Ge saw his girlfriend holding a gift for a long time without talking, and asked doubtfully, "What's the matter? Are you happy and stupid? Unique, it took me a long time to come up with this gift, and I think you should need it more. "

"Ha ha! Really unique! Keep this gift to yourself and enjoy it! What a wonderful work! Break up! Don't contact me again. " His girlfriend threw him a present and turned away angrily.

It turns out that Zhao Ge has prepared a big box of Chinese medicine! There are various Chinese herbal medicines, such as Sophora japonica, Coix seed, Radix Angelicae Dahuricae, Radix Sophorae Flavescentis, Areca catechu, Radix Angelicae Sinensis, Radix Polygalae, Flos Chrysanthemi, Fructus Foeniculi and Radix Paeoniae.

Zhao Ge said that it was collected from books on traditional Chinese medicine that he had turned over for a long time. Every herb has its unique efficacy and significance, such as Paeonia lactiflora, which means "beautiful and moving, reluctant to part", and the roots of Paeonia lactiflora (Paeonia lactiflora) can be used as medicine. Paeonia lactiflora is bitter, sour and slightly cold, which can cure liver disease.

When Zhao Ge told us this, he was full of resentment and said that his ex-girlfriend didn't know the goods. What a good Chinese herbal medicine, not only can save lives, but also such a beautiful flower language, which actually hit his face and wasted his hard work. Fortunately, such a girl finally came, otherwise she would have to divorce after getting married.

After listening, my husband and I were speechless. Such a man who doesn't understand amorous feelings, it is estimated that there is no second person in China, and sending Chinese herbal medicines on Valentine's Day is also a classic.

A ridiculous concept of mate selection.

Zhao Ge has countless blind dates, dating girls in various occupations and jobs. But among all the blind date objects, there is only one occupation, and Zhao Ge is the most exclusive, and the blind date object is also rejected by him, even if the other party really has a good impression on him and wants to continue to get along with him.

Zhao Ge told her husband that about two years ago, an old professor in their department introduced him to a girl, a colleague and a highly educated doctor. Zhao Ge was very happy when he heard that he was a colleague. After all, there are * * * topics between colleagues, and chatting will not be embarrassing.

However, after Zhao Ge met the girl on a blind date, he understood the meaning of the sentence "peers are enemies"!

That girl is an attending physician in the endocrinology department of a 3A hospital. Because of busy work, she has no time to fall in love. She has been in love for many years, but she is not satisfied, so she is not married at the age of 30, and her parents at home are also very worried.

Zhao Ge listened to the girl's introduction to the "great achievements" of their top three hospitals, and was not to be outdone. He sneered and asked the girl, "Since western medicine is so good, why are some intractable diseases still valued by Chinese medicine?" Such as snake sore, cervical spondylosis and rheumatism. "

When the female doctor heard Zhao Ge say this, she moved out all kinds of professional knowledge, so she finally had a blind date and finally turned into a "dispute between Chinese and Western medicine". In the end, the two broke up in discord. After the blind date, they blackmailed each other and even blacklisted the hospital where the other worked. Later, Zhao Ge told people around him that if he introduced his peers in the future, if he was from a western hospital, it would be over!

Write to the end.

After listening to Zhao Ge's crying, we were also in distress situation. Later, my husband and I summed up some reasons why Zhao Ge was single and not close to women for so many years:

1, occupational disease. Because of the profession of doctor, no matter how many blind dates Zhao Ge has, he subconsciously treats each other as patients in the hospital, either taking people's pulse or sending them traditional Chinese medicine, even the most considerate girl can't stand it. Although it is convenient to have a doctor at home, you can consult at any time if you have any diseases, but if you confuse work with life, work will become a heavy burden in life.

2. Emotional intelligence is too low. Another reason for Zhao Ge's blind date failure is that his emotional intelligence is too low. It is not terrible that men have low emotional intelligence. What is terrible is that he proudly tells everyone that he is still proud of his low EQ, or that he still feels good about himself when his EQ is low, and he can give the Taoism of EQ to people around him. Although Zhao Ge has a high academic background and high income, he doesn't understand girls' minds and his emotional intelligence is worrying.

3. The concept of marriage is not good. Zhao Ge's delay in getting married is also due to his negative concept of mate selection and his control over the theory of marriage, hoping to find a "like-minded" partner. But fate is wonderful, and a "fairy couple" can't be met. Just an ordinary "Chinese medicine and western medicine" can make him argue for a long time. How to judge the "victory or defeat" in future marriage life?

I think both Chinese medicine and western medicine are good doctors as long as they save lives! There is no need to compete for the first place. Finally, whether we are close to women or not, we should respect their choices. Everyone has their own way of life and ideas. At the same time, I also wish brother Zhao to take off the order as soon as possible. If he doesn't take off the bill, it is estimated that he will become a monk in his life!