Whether a person is interesting depends on these 1 points.

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Text: Fat cat

Living with people who lack curiosity, it is only a matter of time before they get bored. But many people don't notice this at the beginning of the relationship.

If you think you are a person who is a little curious about the world, and if the other half you find is a person who lacks curiosity, then your constant growth needs will constantly contradict each other's self-restraint, which means that you can't appreciate the interest and fun of life, and finally breaking up is a high probability event.

Whether a person is interesting or curious about the world can be observed from the following aspects:

1

Chatting around

It is always something

The best way to judge whether a person is interesting or not is to observe the diversity of topics. I know a female friend. I have known her for five years. Almost every time I met her in the past five years, she told me that she was afraid of losing her present job.

There must be someone like her around you-you can't talk about anything new when chatting with her, or you are always complaining about your work or your partner, or you are always entangled in some old sesame seeds that have been talked about for hundreds of times.

It is particularly painful to chat with such a person, because her world is only one acre and three points. You will find that the topics you talk about will always be circled by her in the end, so three or two things that she is interested in.

This actually reflects that this person's topic and knowledge reserve are extremely poor, which is too poor to support a pioneering dialogue. People's topic reserve is gradually accumulated through curiosity in decades, which can not be changed overnight. Living with such people is a long prison.

2

"You know what's the use of this?"

pay attention to whether a person's mantra is "so what?" "Do you know what this is for?" 、“…so?” .

"I'm learning Spanish" —— "What can you do after learning it?"

"I've been studying Ming and Qing architecture recently"—"So, what's the use of studying this?"

These words are great killers of chatting, enough to put out any interesting sparks. Once "usefulness" is the only motivation for learning, minutes will kill all interest in new knowledge.

People with strong curiosity will dabble in a lot of "useless" skills-bartending, survival in the wild, handicrafts. This shows that this person's request for knowledge is not very utilitarian. People who lack curiosity reject all "useless" things and regard them as a waste of time.

Because of their lack of curiosity, they have no motivation to learn useless things at all. If you live with such people, your interest range will be hit and compressed, and you will gradually become a boring and "useful" person.

3

Don't read books

No matter the paper version or the electronic version

You might as well do a survey around you and ask when people around you last bought books. (within a month? Within a year? Can't remember? ), and then let the people surveyed quote the title of a book they have recently read.

The result is certainly not surprising: the people who can persist in buying books and reading for a long time are very few in the crowd. The vast majority of people, since leaving the campus, have completely stopped reading books, and no longer read any books.

The so-called thirst for knowledge is actually two sides of curiosity. Without curiosity about the unknown, it is naturally impossible to find interest in exploring the unknown.

Therefore, most people's learning period is very short for the whole life, and once they leave campus, they stop learning completely. So when you talk to her many years after graduation, you will find that she seems to be frozen in place, and she has not entered the size for many years.

people who love to buy books and read books are often people who can find some interest in reading, which is not a species in essence, and their three views will not be very consistent.

4

No

strong curiosity about "people"

Is there always a kind of person around you who can easily establish contact with taxi drivers, aunts selling vegetables in the vegetable market, or people you know on the trip? Let's talk about it in Kan Kan. The establishment of this connection stems from a strong curiosity about strangers. On the other hand, people don't want to know others at all, and rarely take the initiative to talk with strangers.

Ordinary China people are usually hostile to strangers, especially our parents' generation. Many people only associate with people they know all their lives and never attend parties with strangers. ?

In the Internet age, social software is actually an efficient way to screen interesting strangers. Just like Mo Mo used to say that I like it very much: there is always novelty around.

I found an interesting phenomenon very early: people with social software such as Momo on their mobile phones are usually easier to get along with. Because this is actually a kind of screening, she can pretend to be a stranger, which at least shows that this person has a need to communicate with others and has no great hostility and vigilance against strangers. It is usually relatively easy to communicate with such people. ?

at least one advantage of playing social software is that you can meet people who are very different from your class. Dealing with three religions and nine streams is the lowest cost of rural research.

5

When eating out,

always order only the food you have eaten

Eating is never a trivial matter. I find that many people seriously underestimate the importance of eating habits and tastes to a long-term relationship. You know, what to eat or not to eat is important enough for human beings to start countless wars.

Dietary taste reflects at least three things:

1. The brand of rich and poor left by family of origin;

2. Conservative degree of existing habits;

3. Willingness to try new things.

These three points are fatal issues in any long-term relationship.

It's just a sign that they never order anything they have eaten. The deeper reason is that they refuse to change in their hearts and are tough and conservative people. Another feature of this kind of people is that they have a strong sense of region, have a very paranoid identity with their hometown, and have a inexplicable depreciation of people and things in other places.

It is very tiring to associate with such people, because you will always cater to his habits, and he will not make any changes or adjustments for you.

6

Don't like to travel

Or have no strong demand for travel

There is a kind of person who usually only moves within a radius of one kilometer no matter which city he stays in. This is still the case in your own city, let alone going far away.

in the final analysis, travel, like anything else, has benefits and costs. People who think that the benefits outweigh the costs will be enthusiastic, and those who think that the costs outweigh the benefits will be rejected.

for a middle-income person in China, a week-long trip, air tickets and hotels often consume one month's income. Because these people lack interest in exploring other parts of the world, the happiness they can get from exploration is not enough to justify the travel fatigue and money consumption.

it's actually quite pitiful to lose the desire to explore the world. Trapped in one place without moving, this in itself will aggravate a person's existing prejudice, and over time, his mentality tends to become more conservative and stubborn.

You can observe your parents' generation. Are people who often go out and walk around in their old age easier to get along with? However, old couples who run around the world generally have a healthier and more relaxed relationship with their children.

7

I don't know foreigners and foreign cultures

and I have conflicts

I remember a foreign English teacher who once posted a post saying that although he grew up in the United States and his English is very good, being an English teacher in China is often severely undervalued because of his black skin color, because most parents in China think that white people's English will be better.

This is a typical example-in fact, most ordinary people in China don't know much about the world. Limited cognition is also full of mistakes and prejudices.

Although the Internet and information circulation have reached today's level, I find that the understanding and enthusiasm for foreign countries are still only possessed by the middle class in big cities.

whether a person is curious or not can actually be reflected by his interest in foreign countries, and the smaller the place, the more it can be reflected. Because there are few opportunities to deal with foreigners in small places, it is not necessary for ordinary people to master foreign culture. This kind of place can keep a long-term enthusiasm for everything in foreign countries, which can better explain a person's openness.

A person who is curious about the world will not be bound by his home country. They can look at other people in the world outside the thinking paradigm of China people.

8

? The ability to talk nonsense and make up stories

is basically zero

What is a big brain hole? The so-called big brain hole means that all the possibilities of the event can be considered.

A lot of nonsense you can see on the Internet, such as what Agasa Hiroshi/Richard Moore is the big boss behind the dark organization, and the robot cat's dark ending, etc., are all thought up by such interesting people with particularly big brains.

This reflects a person's strong association ability and the ability to discover the hidden connection between things. It's very fun to be with such an unrestrained person. Once you come into contact with such people, it is bound to be tasteless to face people who don't know how to discover in life.

the most obvious feature of boring people is that they have small brain holes and no brain holes, so they can only passively accept other people's brain holes. When reading, it is not profound, because traditional exam-oriented education can't measure divergent thinking, and can only evaluate people with standard answers, so there is no way to reward the creative ability of making up stories. So those who are boring and tasteless, but have a strong ability to recite textbooks, were selected.

This is why, from the perspective of making friends, education does not guarantee that the other person is an interesting person.

9

Slow, with poor sensitivity to changes in the surrounding environment

Have you ever found that those celebrities and business tycoons are often very old and know everything about new things? For example, an ordinary 7-year-old man may not be able to play smart phones, while a 7-year-old entrepreneur has a good grasp of the new trend of the Internet.

People with strong curiosity have an automatic online radar for the world around them, and their attention is easily influenced by the external environment. Therefore, such people are particularly sensitive to current politics and fashionable things, and they can quickly capture what has just begun to be popular.

Because they can detect the clue that the trend is about to change before everyone realizes it, such people often have inherent advantages if they go into business. People who lack curiosity often have obvious disadvantages in this respect. They are very insensitive to changes in their surrounding environment, and often a new thing is popular all over the world, and they still know nothing about it.

dullness is a kind of ability defect, which shows that the possibility of a person's life and the richness of life are very limited. Without curiosity, your information base will stop updating for a long time, lose your passion for life, and most importantly, it will make you miss many opportunities unconsciously.

1

People who are easily suppressed by authoritative voices

People who lack curiosity are incredibly cautious in trying and making mistakes. They are the followers of the rules, which brought them to today's middle class position, so they are very afraid of "making mistakes". Because everything they have is given by a powerful person, they have a priori blind obedience to authority (boss, government).

most of the time, authority is right. But once the authority and their interests diverge, these people's reaction time is several beats slower than that of another kind of people. Smart people can quickly realize that something is wrong.

Curiosity is characterized by constant doubts about what everyone takes for granted.

Because people like them don't have preconceived ideas about what has been decided, they keep an open attitude towards all new things. As long as the new statement can be justified, they will judge this statement and conclusion on the same footing, so it is more difficult for them to be brought into the ditch by the authority, and it is easier for them to form their own unique worldview, even their own fans and crowds.

Summary

How important is curiosity to human development?

It's easy for us to turn life into a fixed pattern. In this pattern, nothing new happens. Although there is a lack of novelty and excitement, it makes people feel strangely safe to spend every day with everything they are familiar with. It doesn't seem like a big deal to have no curiosity, but there are fewer places to visit and fewer friends.

But you know, curiosity seems useless, but it will subtly affect your whole mind. When thoughts change, actions change, actions change, habits change, habits change, personality changes, personality changes, and fate changes.

There are fewer opportunities here, less knowledge there, and fewer friends. Over time, it will eventually form a huge life gap.

for curious people, the world is like a big playground, and fun can always be found. People who have no curiosity will refuse, reject and even fear when they enter a strange environment and face strange things, and are unwilling to explore and try.

only by finding people who are also curious about the new world can you synchronize your new information at a similar frequency. Being with curious people can really avoid aesthetic fatigue.