How should a wife get along with her husband and how can she cultivate a good husband?

Many married female readers are complaining about their husbands' shortcomings. For example, when they come home from work, they only know how to eat, go to bed after eating, do not touch housework, and do not educate their children. It seems that this home is an express hotel for him.

I remember one of my married sisters saying this when chatting with me. She said that a married man is actually a blank sheet of paper, and the key lies in how you cultivate him.

If you train him well, then he is a responsible family man; If you don't train him well, then he is an irresponsible slacker.

In marriage, all feelings will set foot on a new starting point. For you, this is your first time as a wife.

For him, this is his first time as a husband, so it is normal to make some mistakes. The key is how you will deal with them.

If handled well, everyone will be happy; If it is not handled well, it is naturally a hotbed of contradictions.

How could I? Training? Be a good husband? 0 1), take the sister mentioned above as an example. She and her husband met through blind date, so they don't know much about some characters and conduct.

It was not until after marriage that my husband found out that he was a person who could not do housework, and as an only child, he didn't have the concept of doing housework in his mind, which was a difficult problem for marriage.

But my sister didn't choose to compromise. Her husband can't cook. Ok, she will do it, but if her husband wants to eat, he must wash the dishes, or he won't eat a bite.

Of course, my husband was dissatisfied and went back to his mother-in-law's house in a rage. My sister didn't care, but after a long time, my son always ran to his parents' house when he got married, which would make neighbors gossip.

So, after a while, my husband himself came back despondently and washed the dishes after dinner every day. Although clumsy, improvement is good for him.

In the first round, my sister won completely.

02), the next step is to do housework with him. You must wash your clothes yourself, or you will wear dirty clothes to work. If you can't wash clothes, your sister will teach him. He is not afraid of washing clothes, just washing them.

Of course, my sister will also give some encouragement when her husband's housework improves, so that his heart is not so resistant to housework, but full of vitality.

Slowly, the husband will participate in the housework at home. During the weekend break, the husband and wife will also give the family a general cleaning, and the husband has become a good man in the eyes of others.

A good man is not born with all kinds of beautiful qualities, but is slowly cultivated in marriage, consciously instilling family responsibilities in him and taking action for it.

So, so, women will be in marriage? Training? Be a good person.

? Training? Key point: Sunk cost effect When you spend money and find that the midway is not a good-looking movie, you will endure your inner unhappiness and finish the movie, because you have already paid the cost, and leaving halfway invisibly increases your loss.

Many people will choose to continue after paying the cost for one thing, because people are far more sensitive to losses than to gains, which is the psychological sunk cost effect.

In marriage, if a man begins to take responsibility for his family and pay for it, then he will not stop paying for it after that. In the process of giving, because he has devoted time and energy to the whole family, in his mind, it must be that the family is far greater than everything else.

The rose in the little prince's heart is nothing special, but it can occupy his heart. Because flowers have his contribution, they will attract his attention at the first time.

People are selfish, and the business model in marriage also follows this truth.

Women should study in marriage? Selfish? Most wives who complain that their husbands are irresponsible to their families have a common problem, that is, at the beginning of marriage, the concept that no responsibility is shared by two people.

Most of them do all the housework by themselves and don't let their husbands touch them. When they are really tired, they will feel that it is unfair to do everything by themselves.

However, it never occurred to them that if her husband was involved in family responsibilities from the beginning, life now is the warmth of playing the piano and singing, not the division of family responsibilities.

So, women should study in marriage? Selfish? Don't take all the responsibility on yourself, which will make family responsibilities and relationships unbalanced.

Instead, we should cultivate the husband's sense of responsibility, starting with the simplest things, even if it is simply to buy a bag of salt, even if it is to wash dishes after meals.

A good man in marriage is actually cultivated by a woman. Let them know that marriage is a business run by two people, and let them know that what one person has done is not love.