What is the marriage custom in Yichuan, Luoyang, Henan?

(1) Talking about marriage (taking and asking names)

In Luoyang, western Henan, a matchmaker is usually found for the man's family, and the matchmaker is invited to propose marriage to the woman's family and introduce the man's basic situation and economic situation to the woman's family. After the woman's family is satisfied, the woman's parents go to the man's "home", and it is generally agreed that after marriage, the matchmaker and both parties

Parents are going to hold a banquet at the man's house. At the banquet, after the men and women solemnly exchange birthday stickers, they will raise their glasses to celebrate and get married forever.

(2) Participation (Najib, Zheng Na)

That is, Naji and Zheng Na in ancient times. After a good omen, a matchmaker is sent to a woman's house to exchange invitations. First of all, "Geng Tie" is exchanged, and in addition, the man will give the woman a bride price, which is commonly known as "four-color gift" in Luoyang.

According to traditional customs, the four-color engagement ceremony is different from the four-color door-to-door ceremony.

The four-color engagement ceremony is a way for the man's family to formally propose to the woman's family through the matchmaker. The matchmaker takes "four-color gifts" (tea, rock sugar, canned food or fruit, cakes, etc. ) formally propose to the woman's house. When the woman's family agrees, she will accept the "farewell ceremony" and agree on the engagement date. Otherwise, refuse the gift. In some places, engagement is called "bride price", that is, the man gives the woman and her immediate family members, uncles and aunts, brothers and sisters a "four-color bride price". Some of them are converted into cash, and the amount ranges from tens to hundreds of yuan. They will also send clothes and mutton to the woman's parents, and the woman's family will hold a banquet to entertain the matchmaker and related relatives.

Door-to-door four-color ceremony, also known as four-box ceremony, also known as four-color ceremony. A piece of gift meat, usually pork belly, should be enough, at least cut 10 kg, not capped, the more the better; A bottle of good wine, preferably aged wine; A bag of candy and a box of snacks. Gifts with regional characteristics and customs, that is, four kinds of gifts, four colors for the four seasons, represent a year, which contains the meaning of perfection and happiness from beginning to end, and is the blessing of the younger generation to the elders. China has a vast territory, different customs and different contents of gifts.

The woman gave pen and ink, stationery and folding fans to the man, hoping to become a gifted scholar.

(3) Marriage

Usually we have to go through the process of posting, giving gifts, sending wedding dresses and getting married.

Post it. Also known as "good delivery". That is, after the two parties reach the age of marriage, the man should ask someone to choose the wedding date (commonly known as "good day"), and then write the selected auspicious day (good day) in the "book" to tell the woman this auspicious day and let her prepare for the wedding. If the woman agrees, she can accept the letter of appointment. Luoyang people often choose "auspicious days on the ecliptic" or the third, sixth and ninth days of the lunar calendar.

Gift. Half a month or ten days before the wedding, the man must give the bride a bride price, including clothes, shoes and socks, suits, cosmetics, jewelry, meat, snacks, pasta and so on. ?

Prepare a dowry. Preparing dowry is the main thing for a woman before marriage, which has always been valued by people. The amount of dowry often determines the future bride's position in her husband's family. Brides with good family economic conditions will prepare rich and complete dowry, while those with poor economic conditions will.

When the man is ready, he will carry it to the woman's house before marriage and then carry it back as a dowry on the wedding day. There are also cases where the man pays the woman to buy it.

Dowry is given on the day before or on the wedding day. Before the dowry, the man gave a plate of meat rice, commonly known as "leaving the mother and leaving the mother's meat." When the dowry is carried to the husband's house, the makeup artist will give the key to the groom's mother. ?