Qiyang marriage custom?

Etiquette custom

First, marriage.

In feudal times, the marriage between men and women in Qiyang was arranged by "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". The conventional engagement mostly occurs in the childhood of men and women. Since the Republic of China, only intellectuals advocated freedom of marriage and opposed arranged marriage, but few people fell in love freely. From engagement to marriage, the general procedures are "asking names, receiving gifts, Najib, inviting parties, receiving money, welcoming relatives" and "six gifts" Later, it was a bit cumbersome and simplified to "proposing marriage, giving gifts and welcoming relatives".

On the "wedding day", the man prepares bride price, sedan chair and drum music until the woman gets married; The woman has the habit of crying and marrying. When saluting, parents, elders and relatives of heaven and earth are worshipped first (that is, the ancient "temple fair"), then the husband and wife bow to each other, and then they are introduced to the bridal chamber for drinking. On that day, a big banquet was held to entertain three relatives and six relatives. The woman has a family of relatives to see her off, ranging from dozens to dozens, all of which are major events. Those who stay for a day and come back are called "Susan". That night, relatives, big or small, had sex. Three days later, the husband and wife go to the woman's house together to worship her parents. This is called "returning to the door", which is a kind of ceremony.

The man gets married; When a woman marries a woman, she prepares a wedding dress slightly, which becomes a dowry boasting a lot, and the wedding dress is full of boxes. Wood merchants along the river, gold and silver jewelry, pigs, cattle, sheep, geese and fish, tweed silks and satins, there are as many as 70 boxes. The bed has also changed from a lacquered Jin Peng flower bed to a fashionable Ningbo-style glass flower bed. Especially the woman, even if she is poor, she has to organize a "one store, one cover" wedding dress, and some of them are bankrupt because of this debt. Therefore, the poor are afraid to have children, thinking that they are "losing money." There is also a saying in society that "thieves can't enter the house of five women". This encourages the bad habit of drowning baby girls. If the poor can't afford to get married, they will marry more child brides.

1950 on April 3, the state promulgated the first marriage law, advocating free love. It is a ceremony for both men and women to register with the government and get a marriage certificate after obtaining the consent. On the wedding day, or treat relatives and friends with candy, and prepare one or two tables to save money and trouble and return to frugality. In recent years, the atmosphere has changed again, and weddings are full of ostentation and banquet. Women compete for bride price, and rural areas want shoes, woolen clothes, watches and sewing machines; The town needs 48 feet of furniture (bunk beds, wardrobe, five drawers, tables, sofas, etc.). ) and four pieces of furniture (tape recorder, color TV, washing machine, refrigerator). Others use public cars to March all over the city, advocating glitz and pursuing enjoyment. As a result, the debt is too high to be repaid for many years, or it is deviant because of insufficient conditions, and happy events lead to tragedy.