What do you think of the arrangement of picking up relatives the day before the wedding and the husband's family opening a cheap hotel room to marry the daughter-in-law and slam the door?

When it comes to the custom of marriage, it's really the same everywhere. Every place has various complicated rules, but it also shows that China people attach importance to marriage.

A friend of mine got married at midnight. In their place, the bride "can't see the sky" and the process of the man's marriage is like "robbing the bride". All the trips ended before dawn, and by day, the bride and groom had "two people". This custom is even unimaginable in some places.

When we get married, we will respect each other's customs, and our in-laws will sit together to discuss the details of marriage. For the sake of our children, we will try our best to resolve the contradictions or differences in our lives before marriage. People who marry their daughters want their daughters to be respected. Married a daughter-in-law, I also want my son to earn enough face.

However, some girls who are married far away are bound to bump into each other when they get married because of their long distance and great differences in customs. But it's better to discuss before marriage than to quarrel after marriage. All the misunderstandings can be discussed openly, and finally a harmonious model can be reached. But in essence, the premise of negotiation is to respect each other and their customs as much as possible.

I once heard a rumor that if a girl in Chaoshan doesn't marry, she will only find someone nearby. I think it's probably because parents don't want their daughters to marry too far and don't know when they will be bullied, so the older generation wants their daughters to stay with them. After all, only they can know the sufferings of the daughters who are married far away.

My parents are not around, my daughter has something to do, and my parents can't help in time. Therefore, parents will have a lot of worries about marrying far away, fearing that customs are different, that their daughters will not be respected, and that their daughters' families will be wronged if they are not around to rely on her.

Many years ago, there was a movie in which Michele Monique Reis played a gentle and demure rich second generation from Shanghai to Hong Kong. Even if she is as perfect as her, she is still called by her future mother-in-law, and her mouth is full of contempt. But fortunately, I finally won the respect of my mother-in-law through my own efforts and had a happy ending. It shows that not all girls who marry far away will be wronged, and sometimes respect and happiness depend on themselves.

If you can get the respect of your in-laws, treat you as one of our own, respect your customs, pay attention to your family, and ask your son to respect his mother-in-law and father-in-law. Where there will be any grievances, some will only be happy and loving couples. Although thousands of miles away, I can feel the warmth of home.

Xiaoxiao's parents always hope that she can go home early after graduating from college. The pressure of work in big cities is too great, so it is better to go home and find a job, get married and have children. But Mix never promised to go back, because after seeing the prosperity of big cities, the tranquility of small places didn't suit him. Therefore, she is determined to take root in big cities. Fortunately, the boyfriend she talked about after work is a local, with a house and a car, all of which can be achieved without too much effort.

Xiaoxiao's parents saw that their daughter had a boyfriend and her job was stable, so they let go and stopped forcing her to go back to her hometown. The topic turned into urging her to get married quickly. Helpless, in order to appease the parents of their hometown, Xiao Xiao and her boyfriend, a lovestruck couple, went to get a marriage certificate.

When you are in love, your boyfriend's parents don't care about rustling, but they didn't talk about marriage at that time, so there is nothing wrong with being so unfamiliar. However, Sasha Vujacic and her boyfriend got the certificate, which still caused a great storm in their home.

As the saying goes, "some people are happy and others are sad." Xiaoxiao's parents are of course very happy, knowing that their daughter can have her own place to live in other places, and she won't have to travel around because of renting a house in the future. However, Xiaoxiao's future parents-in-law are very unhappy. Knowing the moment of obtaining the certificate, they directly refused to let their husbands enter the house and threatened to sever the parent-child relationship.

But after a long time, I couldn't stand her husband's sweet words, so my parents-in-law let go and promised them, but her mother-in-law was not as polite to herself as before.

It was not until Xiaoxiao's parents urged him to react. Two people should put marriage on the agenda, and they can't get married in such a shady way. However, after her mother-in-law knew their thoughts, she directly said that marriage proposal would be exempted, and if both witnesses were accepted, the wedding could be held directly in the man's house, and then Xiaoxiao's parents would be taken over, so that both parents could meet one day in advance.

Although Mix has always wanted to get married from her own home, because the custom in her place is that girls can only be happy if they get married under the witness of relatives and friends at home. But when discussing with her husband, he said it was too far to pick up relatives from home, and it would take four or five hours to drive alone. No matter what consideration, Xiaoxiao's husband doesn't agree to start from home.

My husband suggested that I could discuss with the landlord and take my relatives from Xiaoxiao's rented house, but Xiaoxiao thought it would be too shabby to get married if she shared it with others. Later, after discussion, no solution was worked out. Xiaoxiao asked her husband to go home and discuss with her parents-in-law to see if there was any way.

Later, my mother-in-law said that she arranged a hotel for them, and then she could get married directly from the hotel. Rustling is relieved, thinking that starting from the hotel is also possible. After all, many people in the family are afraid of making a mess, and they also pick up relatives at the hotel.

The day before the wedding, the couple didn't meet. Xiaoxiao and her husband also follow this custom, so the reception is left to her in-laws. After seeing my parents off at the station, I thought of going to the hotel first, buying some balloons, and the arrangement of double happiness was a little wedding atmosphere.

However, when the parents-in-law sent themselves to the hotel, they realized that the hotel in her mother-in-law's mouth was the hotel in front of her husband's family, saying that the hotel was a compliment. Actually, it's a hotel in the 1990s, and the decoration seems to have a sense of the times. And when she came in, it was still a standard room, and her mother-in-law prepared a room for herself and her parents!

"In-laws, this is the room you prepared for us. Please, let's go to Xiaoxiao's hotel first. " Xiaoxiao's mother was afraid of her daughter's embarrassment and took the lead in giving her in-laws a step down, suggesting that this hotel is not suitable for receiving relatives. "This is it. We will pick up Xiaoxiao from here tomorrow." My mother-in-law ignored them and said simply.

"This place is close to our home. Tomorrow, the wedding team will drive around the community. You don't know that this wedding car is charged by the hour. Early use and early return can save some gas money, and a large group of drivers will have a lot of expenses. " Mother-in-law said as she paced up and down the room. "It's nice here. There are hot water, toilets and mirrors. There will be room for makeup and air conditioning tomorrow. "

Rustling and his parents have been standing at the door, unwilling to go in. "Mom, this place is not appropriate. After all, tomorrow is also a wedding. What will my relatives think of us when others see me getting married from such a hotel? " And there is only one room, how can I sleep with my parents! "Rustling has been a little angry. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to underestimate herself so much.

"There are two beds, aren't there? Why can't you sleep? It's all a family. It'll be all right in one night. One night in 80 yuan. Opening another room is a waste of money. Besides, you are getting married tomorrow. Can you sleep tonight? Just have a location. "

Xiaoxiao's parents have seen what is going on at this time. In order not to make both sides look too ugly, they advised Xiaoxiao, "It is convenient to stay at home for one night. If there is a traffic jam on the road tomorrow, it will be bad to miss the auspicious time. " Rustling is really full of grievances now. I turned to call my husband, but my parents stopped me. "Rustling, men and women didn't meet before marriage, so don't call you husband. We can also solve such a trivial matter. "

"I can't stay in this hotel. Let's go. " Rustling took her parents by the hand and walked out, but her mother-in-law stopped them at the door and wouldn't let them go out. "Why, I gave all my money. What's wrong with this hotel? I can't take a shower or sleep! You still want to stay in a five-star hotel! " Sasha Vujacic was asked by her mother-in-law, and an anonymous fire came up in an instant. "I didn't let your son come to my house to pick me up, and I have given enough face. I miss you and want to save money for your man and not bother you. " I don't want to stay in a five-star hotel, but you are willing to let me get married from a one-night hotel in 80 yuan! "

"My son if it weren't for a foreign daughter-in-law like you, I don't have to spend a dime. What's wrong with 80 yuan? I earned it hard, too I didn't ask you to pay, and you have no right to disrespect the East and the West. " Xiaoxiao's parents saw their daughter quarreling with her mother-in-law, and quickly persuaded them: "Xiaoxiao, it doesn't matter where you get married, as long as you young couple live a harmonious and beautiful life in the future."

Mother-in-law also have it both ways, following the rustling parents' words, said, "Yes, I chose this place not only because it is close to home. If you need anything at that time, it is convenient. You still dislike it, and you have no idea of the good intentions of your elders. "

Mix didn't expect her mother-in-law to say such grandiose things. She slammed the doors of 80 hotels and said, "Forget it, it's still kindness. You don't respect my parents and me now. Can you live a good life in the future? I'm not getting married. People like you are not worthy to be my mother-in-law. No matter how good your son is, I won't marry. " With that, rustling slammed the door and left, taking his parents with him.

A friend of mine who is engaged in wedding told me that she had seen many quarrels before the wedding. When the two sides communicated with each other, there were even fights at the venue. As a result, a good happy event turned into a farce. Marriage is a major event in life, and both sides should discuss it. Respecting each other's customs and habits is the most basic. You can't just consider your own convenience in everything, and you feel that you have suffered a big loss and fallen behind when you meet each other's requirements.

Xiaoxiao's mother-in-law knows that her in-laws attach importance to her daughter's marriage and should make reasonable arrangements. Even if it's not a five-star hotel, it should be a decent place at least. She can't just find a hotel and fool around.

As for Mix, if he needs to get married honorably, he can find a hotel and live comfortably and honorably with his parents, instead of leaving all the wedding matters to men and finally blaming him for his thoughtlessness.

In China, "a hundred miles of different customs, ten miles of different winds", the marriage customs vary greatly from place to place. I think when we get married, we should abandon some bad customs and combine the beneficial customs of both sides.

A daughter who marries far away comes at the expense of leaving her parents and familiar environment. The man can't disrespect the woman because she is married far away. Marriage customs should be respected, and they should respect each other on the basis of ability and conditions.

If you love each other, you should understand each other and respect each other's customs. After all, in the later marriage life, there will be more things that need to be discussed and solved by both husband and wife. Marriage is only a small beginning, and the future husband and wife life needs to be managed with care.