Huaihua Zhijiang wedding custom?

The unique marriage and love way of free friends and collective love prevails in Dong nationality. That is, after a long period of collective love, then enter the stage of unrequited love in pairs, and then decide on life. Generally speaking, with songs as the medium, men and women choose the right person by singing and comparing eloquence, and give each other tokens ("Ba Ping") for life. There are three forms of Dong marriage: one is marriage. Through free love, and the woman's parents are both satisfied, when they get married, they have to hold a banquet and make a big scene. The second is to escape marriage (that is, "elopement"). Both men and women are in love, but their parents don't agree, so they have to take the method of escaping marriage and go home after the popularity of the old man disappears. Dong people escape from marriage without discrimination and are treated warmly everywhere. The third is to rob the marriage. Both men and women have been married for life, and the woman's parents disagree. In order to get married, the man looked for an opportunity to take the woman back to get married. After that, the average woman should punish the groom to calm down. Dong people marry voluntarily and divorce freely. If the man does not want the woman, the man will return all the dowry and a certain amount of "money laundering" to the woman; If a woman doesn't want a man, then the woman's family or new husband will pay for the loss of the man's marriage. When they meet in the back, they still greet each other. Dong people have a "night marriage", that is, they usually get married in the middle of the night. "Three years but not more than five years", that is, within three to five years after marriage, the woman can freely participate in social activities without her husband's intervention. There is also the marriage custom of "staying at home", that is, "returning wine" to let her family celebrate the New Year, ranging from three to five years. During this period, her husband's family sent someone to pick her up, and she didn't stay in her husband's family for a long time until the woman was pregnant.

Dong families pay attention to "four generations under one roof" and "five generations under one roof". Nowadays, there are fewer and fewer generations living under one roof, usually consisting of a couple, one or two or three or four children. Many children are separated after marriage, and parents usually live with their youngest son. Equality, mutual love and harmony among family members.