The original wife tore Qiong Yao apart: The mistress also has to pay a huge price for love

In recent years, there have been many difficulties for Qiong Yao, a well-known Taiwanese writer.

First, we filed a lawsuit with Yu Zheng over the infringement of the adaptation rights and filming rights of "Plum Blossom Brand" by "The Palace". We fought for several years and finally won the lawsuit after many twists and turns. However, to this day, we still have not received the lawsuit. A proper apology.

Last year, due to the issue of whether husband Ping Xintao needed a nasogastric tube for his illness, he and his ex-wife were in a quarrel. They even wrote an open letter on social platforms, insinuating that Qiong Yao’s so-called affection was nothing more than When her husband became demented, he chose to give up his life.

Recently, Crown announced the publication of Ping Xintao's ex-wife Lin Wanzhen's new book "The Past", with the title "Fifty years of silence, finally speaking out", revealing how she infiltrated her ex-husband's family and then corrected it, public opinion There was an uproar.

Those who come out to fool around will have to pay back sooner or later.

As powerful as Qiong Yao, she had to wait for Ping Xintao for 18 years without name or distinction for love. It was not until she was 41 years old that she waited until he divorced and married her, finally giving her a title. However, at the age of 80, Qiong Yao, who was supposed to be enjoying family happiness, was pushed into the forefront of public opinion by her husband's ex-wife. Faced with many netizens and readers speaking out on various social platforms, some ridiculed and some Some were sarcastic, some were abusive, and some even went so far as to question her novels, film and television works, and personal values. It was simply miserable.

The once young Qiong Yao was an erudite and artistic young man who pursued an ideal life in which love came first, and she could do without anything else for love. That's why when she had money, prestige, and fame, she endured huge pressure from public opinion in order to pursue love and became Ping Xintao's mistress for 18 years. Although it ended with marriage, it was considered a success. But in fact, she paid a huge price for this.

She once struggled painfully because she touched the moral bottom line, felt helpless, and gave up. Finally, she chose to continue waiting. She waited for 18 years before she got a status, but a woman How many 18 years can she wait for, and which woman dares to wait for a man for 18 years? Maybe she missed a lot of better feelings and things; she used to work very hard and diligently, publishing several sets of high-quality novels a year, and won the crown The publishing house has been promoted from a small newspaper that was on the verge of bankruptcy to a well-known newspaper group. The most benefited from this should be the husband's ex-wife and their children. However, they always thought that these were what they deserved, and they were not grateful to her. ; In order to take care of her husband's feelings, she worked hard to cooperate and please her ex-wife for decades. Finally, when Ping Xintao became ill and could not take charge of the overall situation, the other party turned around and disowned him. This showed that her previous efforts were in vain; On the third day of her 80th birthday, her husband's ex-wife Lin Wanzhen published a book detailing several crimes against her for interfering in other people's marriages, confirming her name as a mistress... If she had known that she would go through so many things, I wonder if she would still have done it. Being able to choose to be a mistress for many years without hesitation for the sake of love.

From what happened with Qiong Yao, we can see that even if she is seeking the love of a married man, she is not that easy to be a mistress. Let's take a look at the price a mistress needs to pay for the love of a married man.

1. There is no right or wrong in love, but we have morals. Even if you can break through the moral bottom line and become a mistress, you will still be bound and condemned by morality in your heart, and you will not be able to truly feel at ease.

When the girl was in love with him, when she saw the pure and kind eyes of his beautiful and virtuous wife, would she dare to look directly into his eyes? When she saw his cute and cute baby who was not yet one year old, , will you feel guilty?

His wife did not feel sorry for anyone. She didn’t even know it, and she was still silently giving everything for this man and this family. How innocent she was. But when a girl intervenes in his feelings and tries to establish love with him, have you ever thought that this happy family may have cracks or even break up at any time because of this; the baby is still very young and ignorant, and is so innocent that when a girl When you get involved in his feelings and try to build love with him, have you ever thought that you might have to suffer the consequences of your parents' divorce or even losing your father?

Such a heavy love based on hurting innocent women and children, can a girl want it? His wife bore children for him, washed his hands and made soup for him, was filial to his parents, and cared for his relatives and friends. However, when the girl was having sex with him secretly, she thought of his wife who was waiting at home and who was crying for food. When you have a baby, will your conscience feel uneasy and guilty?

We are both women, so why make things difficult for women.

What’s more, the girl will not be able to explain to her parents who have worked hard to raise her. They raised the girl from a babbling baby to a Tingting girl, hoping that the girl would be happy in the future.

But the reality is that the girl gave her parents a slap in the face.

2. Even true love is not glorious. It still does not get the support and blessings of others. It is a love that cannot be seen in the light. Once the relationship is exposed, the girl's self-esteem will be trampled underfoot.

The emotional relationship between the two of them should be hidden as much as possible. He would not take the girl to go shopping and watch movies openly, nor would he take the girl to meet his friends. He could only date and meet in secret, and could not fall in love in the sun at all. Even if they meet by chance, they must pretend not to know each other, cannot speak, and cannot have intimate actions.

Once the relationship between the two comes to light, the girl will receive 10,000 points of harm from all directions. Not only will he have to face the bloody scene of being ripped apart by his wife, but he will also face a lifetime of hatred from his family and children. He will also face strange looks from his relatives and friends and pressure from his parents. He personally brought his dignity in front of everyone and let everyone trample on it.

There is an uncle I know. Because his daughter was a mistress and the man’s wife found out, he made a fuss and went to her house. He pointed at her and her parents and scolded her all day long. Leave, scold him as harshly as you want, and make the whole street aware of it.

My uncle and my wife are teachers who are about to retire, and they have always had a good reputation in the street. The two of them are married, and they usually love their daughter very much. This time, they were really angry, anxious and embarrassed. My wife couldn't hold back her anger at that time and had high blood pressure and was sent to the hospital. My uncle was also very angry. I broke off the father-daughter relationship with my daughter.

In the end, the 21-year-old daughter left her hometown and went to other places and never came home again. My uncle and my wife also had a lot of gray hair.

3. This relationship was not equal from the beginning, and it was not implemented into a marriage of daily necessities. It is so fragile that once there is a slight disturbance, it ceases to exist.

The girl gives her complete affection to him, and he is her only one. In addition to the girl, he also has a wife and children to love and protect. A girl has no right to complain. She has chosen her own path, so she can only put away all the unwillingness, grievances, sadness, and pain along the way alone and swallow it silently.

I know a friend who is 21 years old, young, beautiful, innocent and lively, surrounded by a bunch of suitors. Just six months after starting work, he unexpectedly fell in love with his boss, a married man, and worked hard to do it. She worked as a mistress for a man, and she stayed there for 5 years. When they last met, the young face she could still see was full of grievances, sorrow and pain, and was completely different from the lively and cheerful person she once was. She complained about her experience: This relationship is getting harder and harder to maintain. The feelings he gave her were more like floating in the air, and her friend had never felt at ease in her heart.

The two of them cannot see each other every day, cannot call each other every day, and can only chat a few words on WeChat every day. During the Chinese New Year and festivals, he would always be by his wife's side. He would often be alone, looking at each other and weeping until dawn. The most terrible thing is that she has to pretend to be sensible at this time and cannot get angry with him, otherwise the man will ignore her and disappear.

When a girl compares herself with her wife, she often cannot help but be jealous of her, envious of her, disdainful of her, and feel guilty about her.

The girl became more and more sensitive and suspicious, worried about gains and losses, and her whole mentality was distorted. The longer time went by, the more she wanted to desperately seize all the love of the man. However, how much love can a married man have for a mistress? She can only do this It consumed the man's patience with her, along with her own youth, and finally tortured herself into a person who even hated herself.

4. She is not qualified to control everything about him, and the two of them do not have the same future. His future has always belonged to his wife.

He is the only one in the girl’s emotional world, but in his emotional world besides the girl, there are also his wife, children, and parents. Those are his responsibilities and obligations. When something happened at home, at work, with his wife, with his parents, or with his children, he would always leave the girl behind to deal with these affairs. The girl had no right to stop him and could not stop him.

His wife and children are part of his life. Even if there is no love between him and his wife, they are still relatives. They have the same children, the same relatives and friends,* **Same marital property.

In his life plan, his wife, children, and parents were arranged, but there was no arrangement for girls. Because the girl is always an outsider, without the protection of a marriage certificate, when the risk comes, the relationship may also be unstable.

We can never guarantee that we will love someone consistently for decades. When the passion and goodwill subside, he can turn around and leave the relationship at any time and return to his family.

As for girls, as they grow older, they may eventually be replaced by young girls. This may be the final outcome.

5. A girl’s reputation is very important. One mistress experience is a lifelong stain, and this stain can often be fatal. It may make a girl miss better things and better people.

My former college classmate, Goddess She was the goddess in the hearts of many boys at that time.

When she was a sophomore, it was revealed that she had an affair with Mr. L, a very popular young and handsome assistant professor in our department. She was caught by Mr. L’s wife while checking into a hotel room, and the matter was quite big. Goddess X His family arranged for him to study abroad to avoid the turmoil. In addition to being detained by the college for observation, Teacher L later obtained his wife's forgiveness and did not get divorced as we had guessed.

Although there are multiple versions of the legend in the school, all indicating that the two of them came together because they admired each other and truly loved each other, but who would care? The realistic ending is that the two ended up in embarrassment, each retreating to their original positions.

A few years later, Goddess When her career was on the rise, Goddess The two soon developed into boyfriend and girlfriend, very much like a golden boy and a beautiful girl. They even met each other's parents, and at one point they were ready to talk about marriage.

We were about to prepare for the wedding, but life turned into a bloody mess. Just when the two were about to send out invitations to arrange the wedding, by chance, Mr. C learned about X’s experience as a mistress. Because everything went so smoothly and because he cared so much, he always cared about it, so that They had always been brooding over each other, and after several struggles they still couldn't convince themselves to accept such an experience, so the two finally chose to break up.

Goddess X almost committed suicide because of this incident. After she recovered, she refused to have new relationships for a long time.

I feel very sorry for these girls.

In fact, many girls are actually relatively simple-minded, and those who stray into this path are not for money or status. Sometimes love comes like a flood. They believe too much in their own feelings and think they have found the true love of their lives. , in fact, it may be an illusion, so even if they clearly know that this is not good, girls always want to indulge themselves and give it a try. The final result is that they mistakenly think that this is true love that they cannot help but cannot resist. However, if a married man really loves someone, he must first solve his personal problems or directly stand up and make the relationship public. How can he be willing to let her fight against the opposition of the whole world alone?

So, after experiencing so much grievance, sadness, pain, entanglement, disappointment, helplessness, struggle and even despair, some finally learned to stop losses, chose to give up, and started a new life. ; There are also some who can never let go, preferring to compromise and pursue that little bit of love in the most humble way. In the end, the girl may be lucky enough to succeed, but she may not be the final winner. If the joys and sorrows of life can be measured, then if we do the math, we will find that a successful girl may not necessarily gain more than she loses in the end.

We often say that love does not come first, which is true, but marriage does. If we are late, we are late. No matter how much we like it, it belongs to others. We must remember not to try to take it for ourselves, because the price paid is immeasurable.

Let go of one thought and feel completely at ease. We met the right person at the wrong time. Since the time is wrong, please try your best to restrain yourself first, then try to find a complete relationship, and then fall in love openly.

Always believe that if you can withstand the lonely waiting, the beautiful relationship that truly belongs to you will come sooner or later.