Why are you afraid of divorce?

The idea of "divorce" always comes to mind. Sometimes I can't figure out what's so good about him, and sometimes I feel that staying with him for one more minute will kill me.

Once the vows of eternal love have become a chicken feather, why are you still unwilling, afraid or even too lazy to divorce?

Today's two stories come from fans and friends of bags.

37-year-old Lu Xiaowen is 1.7 meters tall, looks average and has a good figure, but he is a little haggard. Her father works in an office and her mother does business. She was short of her parents' company since she was a child, but she was really short of money.

In the second year of high school, my mother died of illness and my father never remarried. After graduating from college, she went to Tianjin with her boyfriend Wang Licheng. Wang Licheng graduated from a key university, handsome and fashionable, but introverted. They met through QQ.

Wang Licheng's mother doesn't like Lu Xiaowen because she studies in an ordinary university and she is not beautiful. Wang's parents also wrote a long letter of more than 6,000 words to her father, asking him to stop his long-term marriage.

Wang Licheng disapproves of his parents' excesses, but he can't control them. In fact, Lu's father disagreed and promised to buy her a house, a car and a company, as long as she wanted to go home, but she wouldn't get married unless she wanted to.

Parents can't beat their children. In 2009, I got married.

After the marriage, Lu Xiaowen's father contributed 6,543,800 yuan as the down payment to buy a house for his daughter in Tianjin. Originally, the father insisted on buying before his daughter got married, but in order to show sincerity, he had to get Wang Licheng's certificate to buy a house.

20 12 gave birth to his son Lu. Seeing that it was a boy, my mother-in-law immediately moved over with big bags and small bags. Lu Xiaowen was furious when she saw her mother-in-law coming uninvited, but she loved Wang Licheng and had to endure it.

Originally, it was said that her mother-in-law would go home after her child went to kindergarten, but in a blink of an eye, her child was about to graduate from kindergarten, and she still didn't leave.

Lu Wenrang's husband said that he said, "I can't say it, but you must say it."

If you have a problem with your father-in-law, you don't apologize and communicate. Always let Liu talk. In this family, the mother-in-law takes care of the children and manages three meals a day. Lu Xiaowen is responsible for the children's food, clothes and family expenses. Wang Li is like a guest.

Wang Licheng earns tens of thousands of dollars a month, but he has his own salary card. How much is the year-end bonus? Xiao Nuan doesn't know. He said that his wife was responsible for the daily expenses, and he saved the money to marry his son in the future.

Lu Xiaowen's every income, even the birthday and Spring Festival red envelopes given to his children by relatives and friends, is clear to Wang Li-Chengdu.

Of course, Wang Licheng also has many advantages, such as not spending money indiscriminately, coming home for dinner on time every day, and not flirting with smoking and drinking.

Many times, I clearly think this man is not worthy of love, but in a blink of an eye, I think he is not bad. I'm afraid I can't find such a good one after the divorce.

She has a lot of dissatisfaction with her husband, but she doesn't say it, because she dare not say it, and he can't help it.

Recently, two people had a big fight because their father-in-law was moving in. Wen Wen listed his dissatisfaction with him one by one; Unexpectedly, his dissatisfaction is more.

Wenwen finally couldn't help it and said, "Divorce! I don't want to see you for a minute! "

With that, she packed her bags and went to the hotel alone.

Two days away from home, Wang Licheng turned a deaf ear. Lu consulted her relatives and friends, and many people suggested that she get a divorce.

However, on the third morning, Wang Licheng sent a short message: "Almost, come on, go home! I can't be wrong? " Her heart softened, and she said, "I have to go," but her hands were already packing.

She thought that when she got home, her husband would apologize, hug and even kiss, but when she came in, she and her parents were sitting at the table, talking and laughing, eating peanuts and drinking beer together. She didn't even take her running away from home seriously!

At that moment, Liu felt worthless. However, she never said "divorce".

When my father-in-law arrived, he was miserable without thinking, but Lu said, "If you come again, I really can't walk."

Hong Hong, a 36-year-old rural native, studied as a child and got a doctorate at the age of 26.

During her PhD, she had a relationship. Her boyfriend Liu Ge is older than her.

However, just when Honghong thought her partner was going to propose, she found that Liu Ge was married and her daughter was 3 years old.

This awkward relationship caused an uproar. Some people sympathize with Hong Hong and think that she has been cheated, while others think that she deliberately sabotaged other people's mistresses.

In order to stay away from Liu Ge, Honghong gave up her school teaching and applied to be a teacher in a foreign normal college.

Three months later, she got married.

Husband Wu is two years younger than her, with a bachelor's degree and an average appearance. He is the nephew of the leader of the Red Sect.

Wu ran after him, but he had no feelings for him. But seeing that he has a house and a car, and his parents have a pension, especially since he is a relative of the leader, he agreed to his proposal.

Wu's parents are also very kind to Hong Hong. Although this marriage is a bit hasty, Hong still wants to live a good life after marrying the other party.

In the second year after marriage, Honghong was pregnant. But when I was pregnant for 3 months, I had an accident.

It turns out that Liu Ge is divorced. She inquired about Honghong's whereabouts and tried to get back together, only to find that she was married.

Red, red, anger, anxiety. When he drove Liu Ge away, he accidentally fell down and the child disappeared.

As the past was a secret and a disgrace, she never mentioned it to Wu. Now that the truth has come out, we must come clean, apologize to Wu and swear.

Wu Shuo, this is her past. He has no right to ask. But since then, he has changed.

Honghong Honghong has many classmates all over the world and even abroad. Wu doesn't care whether his classmates have been here or not, and he doesn't care whether he has attended the reunion. Now, whenever she meets anyone, she must report to him and explain the identity of the other person.

Sometimes Wu doesn't believe it when he meets a female classmate, so he has to follow it and witness it with his own eyes. Red is ashamed and tired.

After the child accidentally miscarried, she kept thinking about getting pregnant again, but Wu didn't want to. Every time he lives as a couple, he wears a condom. The reason is that if one day Liu Ge comes to you again, what will he do?

I can only sigh at Hong's nonsense. She once talked to her in-laws and Wu's uncle and confessed her past, hoping that they could convince Wu. The elder understood very well and asked her to move on.

Wu flew into a rage when he learned that she had done so, which made him lose face.

Red, red, red said he wanted to live a good life with him, but he didn't listen.

Wu used to say that what he cooked was delicious, but now when he picks up chopsticks, he says that he has no appetite. Sex life is getting worse. Every time Wu finished playing, he would ask Hong, "Who is better than me?"

Slowly, once a month, then once every two or three months. Every time, Wu took safety measures. She asked him if he wanted a divorce. He said that no one loved her more than he did.

At the age of 33, Hong Hong was named as an associate professor. With the help of her brother, she bought the first suite in her life.

Fortunately, the misfortune of marriage is not written on the face, there are poems and books on the stomach, and there is a natural beauty. The red figure and face all look mid-twenties.

There are handsome guys who pursue small fresh meat, and there are also successful men who show their kindness, but she always avoids and refuses.

Is Hong worried that divorce will offend the school leaders and affect his career? No, there are several schools that want to poach her and are willing to give her a better position and treatment.

For a woman with both education and ability, there must be a man who doesn't mind her past and just wants to spend the rest of her life with her; There must be a happy fate waiting for her, but the red color stops here.

Do you love Wu? She cried and shook her head, saying that all his practices chilled her. Every time before coming home from work, she would linger in front of the door for a long time before opening the door.

Why don't you leave? Are you worried about Wu's reluctance or revenge? Rhett shook his head again. She doesn't know what she is afraid of.

Obviously, it will be more and more difficult to go on, but after the divorce, there will be a vast sky, but I still insist on one road until dark.

It seems incredible, but for the parties, it is better to live a familiar and numb marriage life than to be a ge.

Because, for them, sleepless sleep is also "sleep" and cannot be disturbed; A tired marriage is also a marriage and can't be told what to do.

In fact, many people are afraid of divorce, which has nothing to do with whether they have feelings for the other half.

Anonymous powder is in a state of divorce. The ex-husband met her first love, rekindled her love, resolutely divorced her, cleaned herself out of the house, and then went abroad with her first love. This girl asked me, if my ex-husband broke up with her first love, is it possible to return to her?

In fact, before the ex-husband cheated, the two were a little separated. It's not how much she loves her ex-husband, but that she found her life very difficult after the divorce.

Marriage, because the life circle is relatively closed, there is no suitable candidate around, and the single age is much younger than her, which makes her feel unreliable; Everyone of school age has a family and she doesn't want to be a third party.

She is not used to being alone and wants to have a family, even if it is a marriage in name only, at least she has a companion. So, she wants her ex-husband back.

This female powder is after 70, and her thinking is more traditional. She is ashamed of divorce and feels that she has entered another category in the eyes of people around her. She also doesn't accept the model of "only love without marriage" with the little German shepherd.

To tell the truth, many people, especially men, can get a better marriage after divorce, but there are also many people, especially women, who are getting worse. This is not sexism, but a cold social reality.

Hard life is not terrible, what is terrible is that people will be trapped in ideas. The dilemma everyone faces is not that life makes you desperate. After all, everyone has no way out. However, ideas can drive people to the wall.

People who commit suicide in depression are prisoners of certain ideas.

Everyone who is tortured by an unhappy marriage and unwilling to divorce will have their own reasons and will be subject to certain concepts.

Lu Xiaowen may be afraid that he can't find a better one after leaving Wang Licheng; Perhaps, regardless of the parents' opposition to marriage, I wanted to live for the sake of face.

Red may be hurt by the gray relationship in the past, which creates a shadow. She doesn't have the courage to face the next marriage. In her opinion, Wu is actually kind to her, at least he has real feelings for her. Another person may not accept her past, and may be worse for her than Wu!

Perhaps, you will think their ideas are ridiculous, but don't forget that since they think so, they will definitely do so. Because no one wants to do something that his own thoughts don't recognize at all, there will be unknown fears.

For example, no baby can divorce, but some women must take care of their children after divorce, for fear that their children will be hurt by their father and stepmother. However, many men are unwilling to raise children for others, which leads to a sharp reduction in the choice of remarriage for women with babies, and may not be as good as their ex-husbands. Then why did they divorce?

For example, after divorce, you can only fall in love but not get married. As long as you have money, you can find a little German shepherd as your boyfriend. But some women don't want to live this life, and they are still willing to maintain the traditional family. Tell them not to do this and be smart, but it will make them uneasy.

However, a painful marriage does make people pay too much. Some people can't stand it and get divorced, but they still cling to the original concept of married life, which leads to greater difficulties after divorce and the result is regret.

You know, the reason why you think marriage is painful lies in the irreconcilable conflict between your marriage view and real life. If you don't change, you will still make the same mistake in your next choice. And because of the divorce status and child restrictions, it will make your choice more difficult.

Therefore, instead of suffering, it is better to change our thinking. As for what concept is transformed, it depends on everyone's own preferences. Think carefully before you consider whether to divorce, and you will have more initiative in your future life.