How should you respond when people often say "If you don't drink, you won't give me face" at the wine table?

For nearly ten years from 2003 to 2012, I was often drunk. Among them, I drank with an old man. When drinking, he often said two words on the corner of his mouth:

1. Without me, you wouldn’t be where you are today. You have to be good to me. Otherwise, I will tell you to get out one day.

2. If you don’t drink, you won’t give me face. If you are happy, get drunk!

I was deeply poisoned by him and alcohol, and I can still remember it vividly. The first sentence is because when I graduated and first arrived at my company, I shared an office with him and took care of me. Two years later, he introduced me through his ex-wife (his wife was the human resources director of my current company at the time). Now at my company, So, he was a big help to me, coming up with that line while drinking.

The second sentence: If you don’t drink, you won’t give me face. If you drink, you have to have fun and get drunk. It can be said that during those 10 years (June 2003 to September 2012), I got drunk twice on average every month, and about 20 times a year, and two-thirds of them were with him and his Friend gets drunk.

Because I don’t drink and don’t give face, I have to get drunk every time. Moreover, I have no self-control. When I get drunk, I lose my mind. I often do things that I feel ridiculous afterwards.

On September 17, 2012, I got drunk and had a huge quarrel with my wife. I almost lost my marriage and wrote a tearful letter of guarantee to save my marriage. But I understand that if I continue like this, my life will be completely ruined. I can't go down anymore, I want to give myself a life.

I completely woke up, so I decided not to drink anymore. Every time, he asked me to go, and I could go, but not to drink. Get drunk and make a fool of yourself, no matter what you say, just don’t drink.

In 2014, I had a child. One day, he called me and asked me to come over. I didn’t go because my parents came to take care of the child for me. When the family got together, they always called some My friend was having dinner and had almost eaten. He asked me to pay, which cost more than a thousand. This time, I decided not to go. I wanted to accompany my parents. He drank too much and said loudly on the phone that if I didn't go, he would tell me to get out of the work.

When my father heard this, he was very unhappy and said, "Who is so powerful and capable to let you go?" This time, it completely hurt my bottom line, and I stopped interacting with him completely.

Later, he called me several times, but I didn’t answer, and we stopped talking to him. In March of last year, about four years later, I was eating in a restaurant and met someone with whom I had a good relationship before. After chatting for a while, he said, Brother X (a word in his name) passed away, did you know? I was surprised that after four years of no contact, I felt very sad to hear such news.

After getting to know her, I learned that he later divorced his wife and went to his hometown to find a new one. At the beginning of last year, I was diagnosed with liver cancer and passed away just over 40 days ago.

In August last year, his ashes were transported back to this city for burial (my father and sister were in this city). I went to attend and saw the young photos on the tombstone, smiling and smiling, and I burst into tears. After that, hey, life is like this, going back and forth, walking away, infinitely sad. I plan to visit him during Qingming Festival this year.

Speaking of drinking to take advantage of others, there are indeed many cases.

I once met a person, there were about ten people at a table. This person was a little older than me, but not familiar with him. He was holding a wine glass and asking for drinks. I was taking medicine for stomach bleeding at the time, so I refused. I drank alcohol and explained that I was taking medicine, but he refused to let me go. He insisted on asking me if my buddy was interesting enough. I had no choice but to say "yes," but he said that since my buddy was interesting enough, let alone alcohol, he would also drink dichlorvos. , I was so forced that I had no choice but to call the waiter and tell him to give me two ounces of dichlorvos. This big brother and I wanted to drink dichlorvos because I wanted to drink it. The waiter’s face turned pale with fright and he kept saying sorry that there was no dichlorvos in the store. I asked him The man spread his hands and said: I'm sure it's interesting, but there's no dichlorvos in the store, so don't blame me.

This guy ran out of power at that time...

Don't be too busy trying to persuade me to drink. I remember that in "The Grandmaster", Ding Lianshan, played by Zhao Benshan, said: "In this world, some people live their lives as face, and some people live their lives as lizi." If you want lizi, you can't lose face. If you want to save face, you have to lose it.

I am allergic to alcohol. The doctor said that you should not touch a drop of alcohol in your life. If you take even one sip, you will be hospitalized. You will first go to the gastroenterology department for gastric lavage, then go to the hepatobiliary department for detoxification. Finally, if you hurt your brain, you will have to go to the neurology department for hospitalization.

I asked the doctor, how long will it take to be discharged from the hospital? The doctor is holding a wine glass, yes, it is as big as the wine glass you are holding today. One cup, at least three months, more than that may not last a year. The cost of medical treatment starts at 500,000.

I drank today and will have to be hospitalized tonight. You want me to drink this cup. If I don't, I won't give you face. I do it. If you do it, it will give you face. I lost my dignity by giving you face. Here, I would like to trouble you to make up for the leveling.

(Kill it in one go)

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I have often encountered this question at the wine table before. I would like to share my experience and opinions for the reference of all drinking friends.

Twenty years ago, this sentence was often heard at the wine table, in several situations.

First, there are some old classmates whom I haven’t seen for a long time. They hold up a glass of wine to toast me and in front of a table of classmates, they say that if they don’t drink, they won’t give them face. There’s no way, just drink. After the first one, there will be a second one. If it is the same, everyone has to give face. After a round, I basically fainted. The general atmosphere at the wine table at that time was to see who had the ability to knock whom down. I He was also an honest person and a good drinker. Fortunately, he had enough alcohol at that time to be able to withstand it.

The second is a friend I met in society, who is younger than me. I feel very comfortable when they call each other "brother", and then they give me a toast to save face. A brother who is older than me said that I am more capable than him and wanted to give me a toast to show my face. I had no choice but to drink it.

Third, when the leader proposes a toast, you don’t need to tell him to give him face. Do you dare not to drink it? I remember that I was transferred to the superior department to help for half a year. When it was time to return to my original unit, the leader of the superior department said that we would throw a farewell party for you tonight. I drank a lot at the wine table, and the leader finally raised his glass to toast me. I really couldn’t drink anymore, so the leader said this: If you don’t drink, you won’t give me face! What else is there to say, drink it! I was so drunk that I heard the leader say that you have done a good job and I will have a chance to transfer you in the future.

I also want to quarrel with them, but let’s see which one can succeed? Later, a senior drinking friend taught me a trick: drink first but don't swallow it. Pretend you can't stand it, wipe your mouth with your sleeve and take the opportunity to spit the wine on your sleeve. Most people won't notice. I tried it several times and found that it worked well. It not only gave the toasters enough face, but I also drank less.

In recent years, the atmosphere at the wine table has improved a lot, and fewer people are toasting. Instead, people drink casually, without forcing themselves. If you drink as much as you can, you rarely drink too much. occur. The most important thing is that people's health concepts have changed, and they are paying more attention to their health, especially those who have entered middle age. They are fighting for the whole family and do not allow for any slight slip-up in their health.

Let us drink healthily and drink in a civilized way!

I don’t have the capacity to drink. I get drunk as soon as I drink. I can only drink about two drinks (100 grams). Later, everyone basically knew about it, and gradually they stopped advising me to drink. When some of my close friends were together, they simply wouldn't let me drink because they thought I was a bad drinker. Before they even noticed, I was already lying on the table because they thought I was in the way. But in the end, I took on the task of driving people around for decades.

There are a lot of things to pay attention to at the wine table. Often you can’t help but drink too much. Unless you don’t go, as long as you get to the wine table, everyone at the table is drinking but you are not drinking. It doesn’t make sense, so I have to " It’s better to hurt your liver than hurt your feelings.”

Let me tell you a story. Twenty-five years ago, I was working at the grassroots level. At that time, I could not drink, and I never drank alcohol at all.

One time during the Chinese New Year, colleagues from the work unit got together to chat, and the topic of drinking came up during the chat. They said that so-and-so was a big drinker and could drink one bottle, and that someone was a poor drinker. He climbed down after two glasses of wine. . After a while, the talk came to my head. They asked me if I could drink it, and I said no. They kept irritating me with their words, until I couldn't sit still. I was young and bold at that time. I said, what are you doing? How much can you drink? I don't believe you are drunk. If you are capable, let's find a place to try it now. A colleague invited everyone to sit at his home, just in time to wish him a happy new year.

So everyone went to this colleague’s house to pay New Year greetings. This colleague was actually the one who jumped the highest just now. His drinking capacity is one of the best in the workplace. When he arrived at his colleague's house, his wife brought a large plate of pickled sour cabbage and put it on the table before going to stir-fry. A colleague brought me a box of Yili Tequ. It was a large package at that time, and there were twelve bottles in a box (500 grams of wine bottles). I thought at that time, one person would have one bottle, and we would blow on the bottle together. If we don’t get drunk after drinking one bottle Move on to the next bottle, it's more fair this way, I don't believe they are drunk.

After telling them the rules, I asked them to drink together first. I was afraid that I would get drunk first and they would stop drinking. I supervised them to drink first, and then they looked at me before drinking. At this time, one person suggested drinking from a bowl. People in Xinjiang drink milk tea in large bowls. A bottle of wine can fit into one bowl. There were twelve of us. My colleagues brought twelve large bowls. After filling all the wine, they all picked up the bowls. After drinking it all, I saw that these guys were all calm-faced and didn't blush, and I thought: This is over. At this point, I had no choice but to drink it. I picked up the bowl of wine and poured it into my stomach. At first, there was a taste of wine in my mouth, but in the end, my mouth and tongue could no longer feel it. It was like drinking cold water. After taking the last sip, My body slid limply from the stool to under the table, my face and lips were numb, my glasses couldn't be opened or closed, and I couldn't speak, but I knew in my heart that I was drunk.

This is the difference between the amount of alcohol and the amount of alcohol. People who have the capacity to drink can drink even one bottle without getting drunk. I just can't do it if I don't have the capacity to drink. My colleagues would be fine if they drank the same bowl of wine, but I would immediately turn into a pile of mud.

It is best not to persuade others to drink at the wine table. The person being persuaded cannot avoid it or cannot drink, so they can only find reasons to leave the wine table. It can also cause stiffness, so if you can't or don't want to drink, it's best not to go there.

Personal experience.

I have not drank for many years. I encountered many situations like this, so I decided to "quit the world." In addition to this, there were also physical reasons. I suffered internal injuries from drinking.

Years ago, because I loved to play, I met a mixed bag of people at the wine table, and I can’t remember how many times I met them.

To be more direct, this is what I said:

My close friends may have drunk too much, their consciousness is a little blurry, and their biological father doesn’t even recognize him. Don’t say such things. Care. I said: I can only drink so much. If you drink me to death, how can I play with you? Then the other person suddenly becomes sober, so do something appropriate.

Another time, when I met someone I didn’t know, he pretended to be the boss at the wine table and stole the limelight. I said directly, I drink based on people, and I will risk my health to drink regardless of everyone. That’s how it works. Be confident, don’t drink it and fall down.

Let me talk about why I am so quarrelsome. Many people think that this way will not make friends, but I don’t think there is any use in having so many friends and drinking friends. We are brothers at the wine table, and when we are sober You know how you feel in the other person's heart. Of course, there are people who have feelings for each other through drinking, but those are the ones that really "love each other". The two of them have a lot in common and they are willing to drink. If you pretend to accompany others to drink, first of all, you are not sincere in your heart. Is it still necessary?

Sometimes when you drink too much, the other person may not mean it, but he insists on drinking, which may require some high-EQ counterattack.

At a class reunion, a friend with whom I had a close relationship got drunk and persuaded him to drink. Several people who were not good at refusing also drank with him. As a result, no one could drive.

I said half-jokingly that you are still as enthusiastic and friendly to everyone as before. This has not changed. I should toast you. Then I looked at the other people, so they said, indeed, thanks to you tonight You stir up the atmosphere, and I'll toast you too. Several people came forward one after another. This guy changed instantly. If everyone had a drink, I'm sure he would lie down immediately and feel guilty.

To sum up, this trick is to take advantage of the team, praise the other person first, and then let others praise him again. After you praise him to the sky, let him fall down. Once he can't bear it, he imagines that he is very Hurry up and have a party. Others must be the same. For people with a bit of conscience, just be polite. If you encounter someone who makes trouble, don't be too polite. You can fight with them how you want.

Be brave enough to be yourself, why should you let other people’s unreasonable demands threaten your health? Drink if you can. In life and at the wine table, be true to yourself and treat others with sincerity. There is no business that can only be solved by drinking. If you need to drink, this kind of cooperation is irrational, whether you or the other party.

Personal experience is for reference only and may not be suitable for everyone. But I think the most important thing is to be yourself.

We Shandong people are big drinkers. I am not afraid of others toasting me, but I am afraid of not being toasted. Drinking alone is boring.

I remember when the Bank of Jiangsu was established, I was at Lianyungang Commercial Bank. The president was from Guanyun County. He invited his classmate who was the deputy mayor and a fellow villager to drink with me. I was at each of the five tables that day. I propose a glass of Tianzhilan (a glass of red wine, 2 taels per cup), and then drink foreign wine. I never say that if you don’t drink, you won’t give face, and no one dares to say in front of me that if you don’t drink, you won’t give face.

Generally speaking, old classmates, old colleagues, and good friends know each other’s drinking capacity. I often help my boss drink for me. People who say they don't drink mean they don't give face. They shouldn't be classmates, colleagues or friends. They should be people who meet for the first time, meet on business or at the dinner table, have a low level of education, or are the ones who made a lot of money from contract work. If I meet him and he dares to say that if he doesn’t drink, he won’t give you face. I will say, I don’t know you, why should I give you face? If he refuses to let go, drink two glasses of wine and drink him down. I can get a beer cup, four ounces, and drink two cups in a row.

In this situation, I suggest you ignore him. This kind of person is not worth keeping company with.

In fact, two ounces of 52-proof liquor basically put me down. And the most terrifying thing is that I am a sommelier, and they don’t believe that I can’t drink.

So generally speaking, there are two ways for people to persuade people to drink. The first one is to give in. This one is really useful. I gave in at the beginning and kept it till the end, and the sommelier is also a very useful sign. I want to protect my taste buds, so I can't drink. In fact, this is also true. I never drink wine when tasting wine, which means I can’t swallow it. After tasting wine, they spit out the liquor. Because over time, it will indeed affect my taste buds, which is a fatal blow to me. It will ruin my career.

The other method is even simpler. Drink a pot first, then throw it away and ask who else is there. If anyone wants to persuade you to drink, drink a pot first, and we will drink one pot at a time. Let’s drink! Usually when you encounter something like this, everyone will be relieved, because you have already overwhelmed them in terms of momentum and scared them away from drinking with you.

Therefore, I think these two methods are good ways to protect yourself.

Although I make liquor, I sincerely advise everyone to drink in moderation, drink healthily, and live to be 99!

In 2015, I once participated in a competition organized within the group. Our leader said that if I won the award, he would treat me. If I didn’t win the award, I would be the host. I said OK. After the competition came back, I After winning the third prize, the leader didn't say anything or ask. One of our old comrades said, "Boss, didn't I just say that so-and-so won the prize, you're treating me to a treat." When the leader heard this, he asked me to get the certificate.

When he saw it, he said that when he was doing skewers at night (at that time in Niujie Street, Beijing), our chief engineer always said that I didn’t drink and brought up old scores. I happened to sit next to him that night. Later that day, I and I He drinks Yanjing (commonly known as the Big Green Stick), and I usually drink up to three. That night, I had the mentality of going to the hospital for gastric lavage, and drank ten drinks with our chief engineer in a row. Later, he stopped drinking, and I drank one drink. Come on, he only took a sip, I said, lead us to drink and we are all done, why don’t you wait for me to feed you a drink? Although I am not a girl, don’t worry, I won’t feed you to the wrong place. Later, he never mentioned my refusal to drink again. He also overturned in the gutter and got into trouble.

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I once tried to ask for a bill, but the other party refused for two years and didn’t say anything. I didn’t say I wouldn’t give it, so I had no choice but to fly over in person. During the dinner, we discussed this issue. The other party was very cheerful and said that since he came over, he would clear it out for me today. I didn’t expect it to go so smoothly. He said thank you very much, and after a while he asked someone to bring out 35 beer glasses, and then asked someone to bring 25 bottles of Bamboo Leaf Green, and then filled them all up. Finally, he said a cup of 100,000, and I would drink as many cups as I wanted. How much, 35 cups here is 3.5 million a day, the difference is 3.1 million, the extra 400,000 will be used as interest, the time is limited to half an hour, fuck his uncle, I was shocked, how could this be possible, I don't We agreed, fought hard, and finally the other party agreed that the two of us would drink. There was nothing we could do about it. Firstly, they had a lot of money, and secondly, the money would definitely be gone when we returned. The first three drinks were okay, but they went down quickly, and then it became painful. I swallowed it while crying. The two of them drank until they didn't know how to get back to the hotel. They vomited into a mess, and they asked for 2.1 million back. This was the most painful and expensive glass of wine I have ever had. I feel like crying when I think about it now, and I still hate Shanxi people.