Distant relatives eat wedding banquets. Why don't they treat wine with courtesy?

If one day, I have to choose between face and feelings, I don't know what choice most people will have.

Exquisite and versatile people, people who laugh it off and have a straightforward temper may not be so easy to talk to.

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Mr. Zheng has a relative who is his contemporaries, but he is not young and single, and everyone calls him.

Outsiders all know that Laojiu's parents are very capable. They did business in their early years and their families were very rich.

But the two of them couldn't control the son, which made him develop an idle temper.

Laojiu grew up in such an environment.

I once had a wife, but because he was idle when he was young, when his parents were old, he almost ate well by himself.

His wife divorced him.

Laojiu didn't consider repentance, but he still went his own way. His parents can't help him, so they can only be sons. I left a sum of money and took my family to live in other provinces.

The quality of life in Laojiu is declining. But where did he stand this kind of suffering? He didn't study hard and didn't have the ability to make money, so he had to think of some crooked ways.

What method? He thinks there are many relatives in his family. Although we haven't contacted each other for many years, our parents had a good relationship with them in those years, and Laojiu also ate one by one on this basis.

Relatives are embarrassed to drive people away, but they know that Laojiu's life is very bad. Because of his parents' original relationship, they provide him with delicious food.

Laojiu had no money, but he was embarrassed to leave empty-handed, so he chose some big and worthless things as gifts in the village canteen.

Laojiu's mouth was still full, there was no meat on the plate, and there was no wine on the table, so he pulled a long face and refused to eat.

Helpless, relatives had to add wine and vegetables, just want to send the grandfather away quickly.

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Mr Zheng is also a relative of Laojiu.

They are the same generation. Theoretically, Laojiu should call him cousin.

Mr. Zheng didn't know he had such a brother-in-law if he hadn't brought home a case of wine.

Laojiu put down the wine and talked for a long time. Mr. Zheng called his parents-in-law, only to know that this untidy person in front of him is really his relative.

Mr. Zheng said that your cousin was not at home, and no food was prepared at home. She wants to go out and buy some. You wait for me by watching TV here.

Laojiu waved and said, you're welcome, as long as there is meat and wine, but don't drink the wine I brought. Keep it for yourself.

Mr. Zheng was surprised and didn't ask much. He just went out to buy some cooked food.

On the way, the old aunt in the canteen called: Has anyone been to your house? Don't drink that wine. I want to throw it away. If he must buy it, I'll ask him for ten dollars.

Mr. Zheng was very angry and it took a long time to calm down.

I wanted to buy something delicious, but I was not in the mood. I just processed some cold dishes and went home.

Just arrived home, I found that Laojiu had set the table with a bottle of wine hidden on it, and I don't know where he turned it out.

No sooner had Mr. Zheng put the food on the table than Laojiu frowned: No meat.

Mr. Zheng said: The butcher is off duty.

Laojiu had no choice but to open the wine and drink with Mr. Zheng. He killed more than half of a bottle of wine with an unknown address, boasting about how good he was and how many good things he ate.

I finally sent him away. Mr. Zheng is relieved that he won't come again.

Unexpectedly, in less than a week, this brother-in-law came again, with his head on one shoulder and nothing.

Mr. Zheng has heard about his "ability" from other relatives, saying that he can't be entertained because he has something to do when he goes out today.

Laojiu this just muttered away.

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Several years have passed, and Mr. Zheng's daughter has reached marriageable age.

At the wedding reception, an unexpected guest came, Laojiu.

According to Laojiu's blood relationship, it is not his turn to attend his daughter's wedding banquet, but I don't know where he came from.

On the big day, I couldn't catch anyone, and my in-laws also arranged seats. Laojiu sat down casually and didn't give a red envelope.

There are wine and cigarettes on the table. Laojiu is not at all. He picked up a cigarette, lit one and put the rest in his pocket.

All the relatives who know him have gone to other tables.

The ceremony went smoothly, and both the guests and the host had a good time, but when it was time to propose a toast, some people were unhappy.

The in-laws took the couple to a table in Laojiu to propose a toast.

Laojiu, who was already drunk, stood up unsteadily, raised his glass and said, "My niece is getting married, so you have to prepare this wine? Do you despise us?

In-laws are a little worried about their faces, but because they are relatives of their daughter-in-law's family, it is not easy to have an attack.

The daughter-in-law shook her head and said that she didn't know this uncle at all.

Laojiu swearing, a few people dare not stop.

Mr. Zheng rushed over when he heard the sound. When he saw Laojiu, the fire broke out.

He grabbed Laojiu's cup: Did I invite you? Did you get the red envelope? Do you have the face to sit here?

Mr. Zheng's wife also rushed over, saw that this was Laojiu, and sneaked away to let her husband have an attack.

A group of relatives gathered around and accused Laojiu and Laojiu of being invincible, so they were very angry and wanted to serve.

At this time, Mr. Zheng has found several strong young men, waving: carry them out!

Some young people moved their arms, some raised their legs, and some covered their mouths with napkins. Too many chefs carried Laojiu out of the hotel.

Laojiu sat on the side of the road and scolded loudly for a while. Nobody paid attention to him, so he got up, patted the dust on his body and staggered away.

Since then, no one has seen Laojiu for a long time, and I don't know where he has gone.

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Laojiu's story is over, leaving us with some aftertaste.

Relatives are related by blood, but the degree of closeness depends on their status in the heart and daily communication.

More importantly, when encountering difficulties, do they reach out to help, or stick out their feet to stumble, or close their eyes and pretend not to know.

In good times, there are usually more close people. How many people are willing to associate in a recession? They should be very close people.

And "relatives" like Laojiu, probably just hung a trace of blood, with the mutual affection of the previous generation, only some people are willing to entertain.

And he didn't know how to communicate, regardless of occasion or depth, and finally exhausted the last trace of mutual affection and broke through the bottom line of his loved ones. It is also reasonable to end up like this.

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People need boundaries to get along with each other, and so do their relatives.

Although some people are related by blood, they don't know each other, and some people are closer than relatives who are not related by blood. These are all different boundaries.

People who are close, with far boundaries and many topics, can work together to overcome more difficulties.

Alienated people who are close to the border will only come and go, and things that are easy to cross the border will only bring embarrassment.

When you get along with people, you should pay attention to some boundaries. If you are not sure, using blood to do something beyond the boundaries will only consume the original feelings faster.

If you want to go further, you can only pay sincerity, treat each other with sincerity, do good deeds and send blessings, help difficulties, expand the boundary between the two and make the relationship closer.