[Am I a "dual personality"? 】 the performance of dual personality

Editor: I usually don't like unhealthy trends such as going through the back door in society. I have a problem. Young people should rely on their own strength to do business. But when I was assigned to graduate, I saw some students with poor grades contact the ideal unit through the back door. I am indignant at this. I hope my father can also contribute to my work. Father insisted that he couldn't use his power to find someone to arrange work for me. I had a big fight with my father, saying that he lacked the affection between father and son, and he also criticized me for having a dual personality, which I couldn't figure out. Am I a "dual personality" as people often say?

Ming Jiang

Wujiang:

Judging from the letter, you and your father lack understanding of "dual personality". Dual personality means that there are two contradictory personalities in the same person. We can often see that some people have lost their integrity and unity, thus splitting into two personalities, which dominate their behaviors and activities. In daily life, there are three main manifestations of dual personality: non-morbid psychological dual personality, morbid psychological dual personality and moral defect dual personality.

The biggest feature of non-morbid psychological dual personality is that a person is completely changed, sometimes even completely changed, because of personality split. For example, Tigress in Camel Xiangzi hates Si Liu, the owner of the car factory, and shows a pungent and rude character; But Xiangzi, an honest and strong driver, is gentle and considerate, which is completely different. So her personality characteristics are contradictory and conflicting. Tigress's personality is a typical dual personality of morbid psychology. From this case, we can see that the non-pathological dual personality is caused by two different personality phenomena appearing alternately in the same person, showing two completely different personalities or personalities, which are not caused by physical diseases, but by psychological pain and trauma. A careful analysis of Tigress's tragic life, experience and experience reveals that it is many psychological factors that make Tigress have a dual personality, which is acquired and can be changed. That's exactly what happened. Later, after Tigress and her beloved Xiangzi formed a family, her personality was no longer dual.

The main feature of morbid psychological dual personality is that one forgets everything in the past because of personality split. For example, hysteria patients, who have lost the memory connection between their two personalities, often lead two completely different lifestyles. When they live in one way, they will have no memory of the life experience in another way, and they don't know what just happened. They are in a mental state in which consciousness and memory are separated from each other.

Moral defect dual personality refers to the split personality, which makes a person duplicitous and morally corrupt. For example, in the movie The Legend of Tian Yun, Wu Yao posed as a gentleman outside, but when he got home, he showed his dirty face. A slap in the face knocked his wife to the ground, spitting blood. But then he knelt down and begged his wife not to report him. Wu Yao is a double-faced hypocrite with split personality and a typical dual personality with moral defects due to greed. This dual personality is manifested in that when personality is related to ideological issues such as political stance and moral concept, it is obviously dominated by world outlook and outlook on life, mainly restricted by social factors. The reason why Wu Yao is like this is obviously different from Tigress, so we should not regard people like Wu Yao as "weirdos" but as "sinners". Similarly, people like Tigress should not be regarded as "weirdos", but should sympathize with such "unfortunate people".

Thus, dual personality is a psychological obstacle. The reason of psychological disorder is that they have two different motives at the same time. They are often in a state of contradiction and conflict, and over time they will form dual personalities. It is precisely because the two contradictory motives coexist and are incompatible with each other that they show inconsistent behavior under the control of different motives. To treat and correct dual personality, we should start with "healing" to make up for it and keep it in a complete and harmonious state.

So, what kind of personality do you belong to? I don't think you belong to "dual personality". Because you haven't reached the level of split personality, but your personality is immature. Because of your lack of knowledge and life experience, you have not formed a scientific and correct outlook on life and world, so the phenomenon of separation between knowledge and practice and inconsistency between words and deeds mainly belongs to ideological understanding, not moral quality, nor is it caused by morbid psychology. But for you, at present, you are in the youth of pursuing truth. You should strive to dominate your words and deeds with a unified and harmonious personality, so as to achieve a perfect and noble personality and maintain mental health. Now that you have realized that young people have to do their careers on their own, you should firmly believe in putting them into action, no matter what external interference. Practice will prove that honest people will not suffer after all.

Sun Changling, National Institute of Educational Science