Have you ever experienced men and women sleeping together when traveling abroad? How to avoid embarrassment between opposite sexes?

In 2005, I traveled by car from Sichuan to Tibet. On the first day I entered Tibet, I met a beautiful woman asking for a ride on the side of the road. We originally planned to take the bus to Linzhi, but after we got on the bus, we learned through chatting that this was a strong donkey, and he was a Chinese who had settled in Switzerland. My hometown seems to be in Zhejiang. She told me that after graduation, she would only work for half a year every year, and spend the remaining half year traveling around the world. The woman is knowledgeable, cultured, and has rich life experiences. So very talkative. I had a great chat with her along the way. On the first night of my stay, I told the boss at the bar that I wanted two rooms. Unexpectedly, this woman was very open-minded. She directly told the boss that she only wanted one standard room, and then told me that she already knew that I was a good person, so don't waste money. I was a little embarrassed when I went to bed that day, but she didn't care. Very talkative, we chatted until one o'clock after taking a shower. We shared a room that day and the next six days, and we didn't touch her on the first night. Because she had so many experiences, I was afraid of getting sick, and the hotel at that time did not provide condoms. By the next afternoon I felt something was wrong. All the expenses along the way were waiting for me to pay. This girl had never taken the initiative once, so I felt a little disgusted with her. Originally, I was willing to let her take the ride, but I was mentally prepared to pay for all the expenses. But at least you have to be polite to me. We have nothing to do with each other. You spent my money so confidently. This made me feel uncomfortable, so I felt a little disgusted with her. So I didn't touch her until we separated. But she did a great job with the other logistics, even when the car got stuck in the mud one day. After negotiating with the local farmers, she called five or six people to push the car out.

On the seventh day we arrived in Lhasa. I asked her where she wanted to live? She said it was closer to the Potala Palace and could watch the sunrise the next morning. So I found a hotel near the Potala Palace to drop her off, and then told her that I was leaving. She was stunned for a moment and asked if I wouldn't stay here? I lied to her that I was going to meet a friend and stay at her friend's house. She stayed for a while and then told me. She went to open the room and asked me to help her get her things into the room. After leaving her, I felt much more relaxed, thinking that I would never meet strangers again in the future. I visited Lhasa for three days. On the third day, I accidentally found a stack of two thousand yuan and a note in the passenger compartment. The note recorded in detail the gas money, food, accommodation and tickets spent in the past seven days, totaling more than 3,900 yuan. . . . . .

I hurried to the hotel where she was staying, but unfortunately I was a little late. She had already checked out at eight o'clock in the morning, and we didn't leave any contact information with each other. I owe her an apology all this time!

When traveling, you often meet travel companions who share the same route. Many people choose to share rooms in order to save room fees and facilitate accommodation. If there is nothing wrong with people of the same sex, embarrassing scenes will inevitably occur between people of the opposite sex. So how to avoid the awkward atmosphere caused by opposite-sex room sharing? Let me share with you two experiences of sharing a room with someone of the opposite sex during my travels.

In 2015, my wallet was stolen while traveling in Nha Trang, Vietnam. Cash, ID card, bank card and camera were also stolen. Fortunately, my passport was kept in the hotel, otherwise it would be very troublesome to return home. This encounter affected my next itinerary. Because I had booked a flight ticket from Ho Chi Minh to Hanoi in advance, I planned to take the New Cafe bus to Ho Chi Minh for two days and then fly to Hanoi to return home.

There were six or seven people traveling with us on this trip. In the first half of the trip, we all followed the same route, so we ate, drank and went shopping together. In the second half, we went to different destinations and everyone went their own way. It happened that a girl also arrived in Ho Chi Minh. She expressed sympathy after hearing about my experience. She booked a five-star hotel for two nights. She originally planned to share a room with another girl, but the girl changed her schedule and now she is the only one left. One person. After some discussion, she said she could accept sharing a room so that the room fee could be shared.

The five-star hotel is very luxurious, with all the room facilities. The hotel has a gym and an outdoor swimming pool. The food in the restaurant is also super delicious. In the evening, she went to the top-floor swimming pool to enjoy the wind for a while and then came down. She said she was a little sleepy, so they went to wash up and go to sleep. There were two beds in the room, each sleeping in its own place. I didn’t think much about it at the time, and fell asleep after taking a shower.

I heard her coughing until midnight and was tossing and turning, unable to sleep. She said she felt a little uncomfortable. I tried it with my hands and found out that she had a cold and a fever!

I hurried downstairs and asked the front desk for cold medicine. I thought that such a big hotel would have regular medicines, but the front desk told me that there were no more! I ran out to find a pharmacy for her around one o'clock in the morning. It was still drizzling outside. After many twists and turns, I finally found a pharmacy that was still open.

Later, after I returned to China, I went to Guangzhou to hang out with her. She invited me to eat delicious food and visit tourist attractions. Later, I heard that she was having an affair with a married male colleague in her company, which almost caused a divorce. She is one of those very shrewd women, probably from a science background, and she always gets to the bottom of everything! Sometimes even small things can be magnified and scrutinized by her infinitely, which is a bit intolerable to her. Twice we stopped contacting him because of disagreements! Two months later, I looked up and they actually deleted me! Several years have passed and now there is no contact.

In September 2016, I hiked the eastern route of Kanas with a friend. We carried tents and dry food on our backs and hiked heavily. We passed through virgin forests, glaciers, villages and no-man’s land, and finally arrived at Kanas Scenic Area. . On the way, I met a man and a woman. They were not lovers, they were acquaintances on the road. The four of us took the same route and started walking together.

We originally planned to camp in the Xiaohei Lake area, but when we arrived, we discovered that it was extremely cold. We were tired and hungry in an environment of more than 20 degrees below zero. There was no mobile phone signal here, so we brought compressed dry food. Feeling like vomiting after eating, I saw a Kazakh yurt not far away. After some discussion, a few people decided to go inside and have a hot meal and stay for one night. It was too rough outside.

The Kazakh yurt is a large yurt, but each person has a quilt. The conditions here are difficult, there are no lights and no signals. After dinner, the Kazakh grandmother lit candles for us to light up, and the four of us gathered around Light the fire and chat. Because it was too cold, we didn't take off our clothes when sleeping. After all, we were in no man's land. For safety reasons, the three of us boys let the girl sleep in the middle, and my friend and I slept on both sides. We slept like this all night. It was absolutely impossible to think too much in such an environment. My biggest wish at that time was to eat hot food and drink hot water!

Many times people share rooms purely to save room fees or for the convenience of accommodation, without much thought. Because the route was the same, they were destined to walk together for the same journey. After dawn, they separated at the next intersection and went their separate ways. Regardless of name, age, or occupation, we are just passers-by.

I went to a certain city before. Two men and four women were colleagues. We had just three rooms. In the evening, we drank and ate on the first floor of the hotel. After finishing the meal, a female colleague said she would go back first, and we continued drinking the rest , but my buddy inadvertently drank too much and vomited, and then everyone said that we should rush back to the room together. After arriving at the passage, a female colleague opened the door with the room card first. At that time, I thought she was opening the door for us, and I held the buddy without thinking. I helped him in as I thought, and it turned out that the room was the room where the female colleague and her who had returned earlier were. I saw something I shouldn’t have seen. It was embarrassing. Finally, I helped my friend out again. Our room was in The one next door.

I travel with friends of the opposite sex and live in the same room, but we are pure." What is the most hurtful thing in a relationship? It should be knowing that something will hurt the other person's heart, but still I did it without any guilt.

Today is the fourth day of Tiantian’s trip. Tian Yu was lying on his bed at home, staring blankly at the ceiling. That’s right, Tian. Yu did not accompany her girlfriend on the trip. Now she is with Tiantian, her best friend of the opposite sex.

Although Tiantian looks as sweet as her name, her personality is not quiet at all. She is very kind. She is a carefree and carefree girl. She has many friends and likes to make friends. Even if you just met, Tiantian can chat with her for hours. This is how Tian Yu gradually gets closer to Tiantian. A year ago, he succeeded in becoming Tiantian's boyfriend.

At first, when Tian Yu knew that his girlfriend was traveling with friends of the opposite sex, of course he was very reluctant, and he didn't know Tiantian at all. I have never met that friend before.

The two people went from discussion to argument, from argument to cold war on this matter. Finally, Tiantian couldn't bear it anymore and came to Tian Yu to have a big fight.

"I am your girlfriend. Of course I only love you. This time I am just hanging out with friends. Why can't you be more sensible? Am I such a dirty person in your heart? ?" Tiantian said this and set off with her friends of the opposite sex the next day.

But Tiantian never thought that a person's generosity and tolerance did not mean that he would forget the hurt, but that he chose to shut up in order to protect love.

During the few days of travel, Tiantian took the initiative to contact Tian Yu, asked for his forgiveness in nice words, and repeatedly promised that she would never have anything to do with friends of the opposite sex, and promised Tian Yu After Yu returns, she must be obedient. She can do whatever Tian Yu asks her to do.

In order to reassure Tian Yu, Tiantian took the initiative to call and chat with him every night, sometimes until late at night. His girlfriend tried her best to prove her innocence, which made Tian Yu feel relieved about Tiantian, and the relationship between the two gradually reconciled.

But one time when Tian Yu was browsing Moments, she discovered that her girlfriend had posted a new set of photos. In the photos, Tiantian was behaving intimately with her friends of the opposite sex, and she didn’t want to pay attention to her behavior as she said. But after Tian Yu refreshed, the photos disappeared, and the ones that were reposted were Tiantian’s solo travel photos. Tian Yu knew that his girlfriend had blocked him in the circle of friends.

Tian Yu tried his best to see his girlfriend’s complete circle of friends from Tiantian’s friends. The group of intimate photos with friends of the opposite sex had not been deleted, and there were many travel photos that Tian Yu had not seen. Tian Yu even discovered that the two people lived in the same double room.

This time Tian Yu did not take the initiative to contact his girlfriend, and did not answer any calls or messages from Tiantian. In the past few days, Tian Yu was lying on the bed, recalling the past between himself and his girlfriend over and over again in his mind. Every time he quarreled, Tian Yu took the initiative to admit his mistakes. No matter what Tiantian wanted, he would try his best to complete it.

Some women are well aware of men's contributions, while some women are not satisfied even if men give everything.

After Tiantian returned from traveling, she once again took the initiative to apologize to Tian Yu, swearing to God that she had never had anything happen to her friends of the opposite sex. Those intimate photos were just taken by many tourists who followed the trend. Tiantian also told her friends of the opposite sex that she had a boyfriend and told him not to have any inappropriate thoughts.

Seeing his girlfriend’s aggrieved face and tears welling up in her eyes, Tian Yu’s heart immediately softened. However, after recalling the things that had hurt his girlfriend in the past, he still cruelly broke up with her. .

As for whether his girlfriend had done anything with friends of the opposite sex behind his back, Tian Yu no longer cared. Because he knew that the moment his girlfriend agreed to travel to a friend of the opposite sex, he was no longer the most important thing to Tiantian.

The ideal relationship between a couple should be balanced on both sides. If one side makes itself humble, the balance will be unbalanced and the love will deteriorate accordingly. There are actually many men like Tian Yu. He loves his girlfriend and is willing to do everything to protect her, but not all women's requests must be tolerated. To love someone, you must first respect yourself and speak your mind honestly.

When you choose to shut up because you are afraid of hurting her and losing her, in fact she no longer belongs to you.

In the autumn of 2008, the company sent five of us to Chongqing to inspect the project. Afterwards, take a cruise from Chaotianmen Pier to Nanjing. After boarding the ship, four colleagues stayed in the second-class warehouse for the convenience of playing cards, while I took the initiative to go to the third-class warehouse where there were more than ten people. When I walked in, there were three people besides me, a couple and a dark and skinny little girl. I don’t know why, but when I went back after dinner, the little girl was the only one there, and I didn’t see the young couple back until dawn. It was just the two of us for several days. We didn't say a few words for four days. We just smiled and said hello when we met. But every night when I go to the boat to enjoy the scenery or go ashore, the little girl always follows me closely, but never speaks. My colleague joked that she had attached to me. When the boat arrived in Nanjing, we got off the boat and so did the little girl.

As soon as we landed, she suddenly walked up to us, smiled and said to me, thank you for taking care of us all the way! I'm confused. I just stayed in a warehouse for a few nights. I have nothing to be grateful for. See me puzzled. She just told the truth. It turned out that she was working in Chongqing and had an emergency at home. She had money with her and was very scared. Later, he saw that I was more honest, so he never left my side along the way. At this point, I realized that I had become a good person again.

I prefer to travel by bicycle and post information online to travel with my riding friends. On the way, everyone might stay in a youth hostel, with separate beds for men and women, or in mixed rooms. Sometimes there are no rooms, but there are men and women sharing a room.

There were a few times when we were in Datongbu, and our cyclists slept side by side, and the girl slept next to me. Of course, there was a quilt for each person. . Everyone is very simple. There are no complicated ideas, because everyone has to team up with each other and help each other along the way. . Everyone queued up to take a shower, and everyone chatted until they were sleepy before going to bed.

Last year, I was riding around Qinghai Lake. On the last day, a female college student and I were the only ones left. I originally wanted to share a room, but the girl insisted on living with me, saying she was afraid of being alone in the room. Since the girl trusts me so much, I have to protect her. Later, I kept in contact with this girl on WeChat. Such a simple friendship is good...