My boyfriend and I are in free love and now we are engaged. His father said that they would not give money when they were engaged (Qihe, Shandong), but when they got married.

Sister, getting married is a lifetime thing. I am a bystander, and I will be more sober. You are a girl, and he wants to marry you. It is normal to ask you for a dowry. Or if your's relationship is really good enough to get married naked, then even if you don't get anything and money, you should make it clear that you can get married if you love each other, and you don't pay attention to your performance and excuses. Under normal circumstances, even if their family is poor, they should make it clear from their parents why they don't give you money and things.

If you are so neglected before you get married, you still have a long way to go after you get married, and you will suffer more grievances then. Grief comes step by step and accumulates over time. By the time you really regret it, it may be too late.

My suggestion is that if you want something, you must get it. If you don't give it to you, your parents must give you an explanation. Now there is a saying that the more a man gives you within his ability, the more he cares about you. Although marriage is not a money transaction, money can at least prove how much he values you.

If there is no statement in the end and there is a dowry, I suggest you consider whether this person can accompany you to the end.

I wish you happiness.