Phoenix male husband suspects that my parents travel to star-rated hotels, and his parents live in homestays. Is it wrong for my parents to spend their own money?

You must be right. You can spend the money you earn at will. This is your freedom. It is wrong to be too jealous, too greedy and dissatisfied. Moreover, the hotel conditions are good enough that many people can't afford to live if they want to.

First, it is forbearing to take your in-laws out for a trip. Stay in a star hotel, shameless. Under normal circumstances, after marriage, the man makes money to support his family, and the daughter-in-law has no reason to pay. The script should be that the husband takes his wife and parents to travel. That's right.

If the daughter-in-law has money at home, then after marriage, the daughter-in-law is willing to take her in-laws to travel at her own expense. That is to take the initiative to get on well with your in-laws. This is a good intention. In-laws don't say anything, but respond with heart. At the very least, we should satisfy them and attach importance to their daughter-in-law.

But after the tour, Lulu's in-laws didn't know who to listen to, saying that Lulu took her biological parents out to travel, but they all stayed in high-end star-rated hotels. As a result, a jealousy that rose from nowhere made the in-laws add fuel to their son. After listening to his parents' complaints, the son angrily turned to Lulu's theory:

"Why do my parents live in ordinary homestays when traveling, while your parents live in high-end hotels? What does this mean? "

Hearing this, Lulu only felt that her kindness was taken as malice, so he didn't good the spirit replied:

"My parents live in star-rated hotels and have their own pensions. I'm just a tour guide, and all kinds of expenses are paid by myself. I took your parents out for a trip. I paid for the hotel and all kinds of expenses alone, and no one reimbursed me. "

When this was said, Lulu's husband naturally lost his temper and was speechless.

Second, men should take responsibility, and husbands should shelter their wives from the wind and rain. People like Lulu's husband may unconditionally put their parents first, regardless of their wives' feelings. It is clear that his wife did something good, but he came to his wife indiscriminately to get angry.

In this way, when Lulu's efforts are not answered or even trampled, she will divorce sooner or later.

Even her husband doesn't believe in himself, let alone making money to feed her makes her happy, and even her initiative to be nice is questioned and misunderstood. This kind of life really can't go on.

I have to say, sometimes it's really important to be appropriate. Otherwise, due to different family backgrounds, different concepts and different cultural backgrounds, the common topics between husband and wife will be less and less, especially the family communication between them will be more difficult, and the self-esteem of the one who has no money will be more sensitive and fragile, which will hurt the other party carelessly.

If two people insist on crossing the threshold of "being suitable for each other" and choosing to get married, then both men and women should show more tolerance and understanding, integrate into each other's lives with more positive communication, make each other's three views fit and make each other's families harmonious.