What's the matter that children's birthdays are more grand than weddings?

When a child has a birthday, he wants all his classmates to visit him at home. He timidly told his mother that if he didn't invite his classmates, he would smile and say, "I can't afford a birthday."

It happened to be the May Day holiday, and many parents had to decline it at short notice, and finally invited two children and their mothers. Unexpectedly, my mother was embarrassed before the birthday party started.

A little boy holds a talking and laser-emitting Transformers, and the price is at least 3,000 yuan. Another little girl's mother brought organic fruit. A small box of strawberries costs more than 60 pieces, and it's a big box! Her family only prepared cakes and cheap Mickey pens that her son bought for his friends from Hong Kong Disneyland.

The other mothers were shocked by the mother's "sincerity" and said politely, are you okay? Is everything all right at home? Do you need our help? Why are we the only ones here? Have you ever offended someone's parents in your class?

They told the mother that the first birthday child in her class took the whole class to an equestrian club for a birthday party.

Since then, the "war" has been escalating. At the second child's birthday party, the parents hired a children's theater to perform a pantomime for the children; For my third birthday party, I went to a five-star hotel and rented a huge inflatable castle. For my fourth child's birthday party, I rented a single-family villa with a big lawn and hired a public relations company to organize the venue, including clowns, hosts, dancers and barbecue parties. ...

These mothers said that some parents in the class would not celebrate their children's birthdays in the class because of economic conditions, so the babies invited to the birthday party would bring such expensive gifts to their homes.

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Yesterday, the reporter interviewed some parents and listened to their real feelings when attending their children's birthday party.

The scene is too grand.

Ms Liu's son is in primary school. She said that since the first grade, every year the children in the class will invite them to celebrate their birthdays. Gifts are more expensive every time, from small erasers to imported toothpaste, toothbrush and schoolbags.

"What impressed me most was that there was a child's birthday in my class. Parents specially hired a planning company to charter a car and sent more than a dozen children in the class and their parents to a hotel. This place is particularly like a fraternity. Parents also specially customized many clothes that children like to wear. The scene was very grand, which made our other parents feel embarrassed at once, because we thought it was a very simple birthday party, and everyone didn't bring exaggerated gifts, which was a bit embarrassing. "

Ms. Liu said that the parent never invited other children in the class to spend their birthdays with his children again.

A while ago, Ms. Liu saw the circle of friends sent by this parent. "It is roughly said that his daughter is going to have a birthday soon, because this parent has changed a way to celebrate her child's birthday before, and the form of birthday has also been done a lot. I don't know what to do this time, and I am worried about how to give my child a birthday. "

Ms. Zhou said that her son's kindergarten was "slightly better".

"Many children in the class have a very special way to celebrate their birthdays. A child in my son's class celebrated his birthday and invited many children and parents to the Kerry Center for a buffet. "

Ms Zhou's son is in a big class. Last year, for his birthday, she booked a coffee shop and invited friends to have dinner with their children.

Ms. Zhou said that a child had a birthday before and invited almost all the children and parents in the class. Everyone put the gifts together for the lucky draw. As a result, there are some high-end gifts and some cars that children have already played with, so parents must have ideas in their hearts, and parents who have got toys used by others also have gaps in their hearts.

Birthday parties were supposed to promote friendship, but now they have changed.

Yesterday, a public primary school teacher said that she was also very distressed. First, my son's birthday is coming. Do you want to hold this party? Second, the party style in the class is getting stronger and stronger. How can we stop it?

Some children hold birthday parties in five-star hotels, and some eat at home, so children will inevitably fail to keep up with the competition. It's really not a good thing to plant such seeds so small.

There is a girl in the class who held a birthday party in the second grade and spent 500 thousand to 600 thousand. In a five-star hotel, we packed a huge box and hired a professional team, including makeup artists, dessert chefs and stylists. That night, the birthday girl changed four or five sets of clothes, each of which was specially customized. A stage was also set up at the scene. Because the birthday girl likes dancing, she walked on the runway and danced.

On that day, more than ten children in the class were invited to attend. When they came, they signed in at the sign-in desk first, and everyone got a gift in return. The birthday girl greets friends, cuts cakes and dances. The photographer followed him all night.

"What can I say? Maybe others don't have such a grand wedding, but this birthday will have many processes. " The teacher said that birthday parties are especially popular among young children. This party was originally intended to promote friendship, but now it has changed.

"I don't know if children can be invited to do public welfare together on their birthdays. For example, how many hiking trips have been completed through some institutions and a set of books has been donated to mountain schools? Is it better to celebrate another year? "

What kind of birthday party do other parents feel comfortable attending?

May 12 is the 6th birthday of Ms. Ren's son. She invited her son's friends who grew up in the community to come home, and arranged the venue downstairs and bought balloons and tableware, all of which were arranged by Ms. Ren herself. She handled all the cakes and meals at the birthday party by herself.

"This is the tradition between our friends. Parents have a good relationship so that everyone's children can participate. Children's birthdays don't need to be staged. The parents of other students in my son's class are actually not very familiar with each other. On the contrary, there will be nothing to say together, and everyone's values and economic conditions are different. The scene will be awkward, so we will buy a cake and share it with other children in the class. "

Ms. Yan's son is studying in a private primary school and is usually very nervous. Students seldom get together for birthdays.

"Our son's primary school pays more attention to learning, and so do parents. So children will not come to class on their birthdays. Sometimes I will invite a few good friends to get the children together and make an agreement not to give gifts. If they send it, they can only send books. " Ms. Yan said.

Teachers have the responsibility to guide children and parents.

"At this time, teachers' professionalism and educational wisdom are needed. Especially in public kindergartens, teachers are more authoritative. They have the responsibility to guide their children and parents. The child is still young and has no concept of many material things. They can't have a comparison mentality in kindergarten. Don't let parents' comparison mentality affect their children. " Teacher Kong, who has been engaged in kindergarten teaching for 27 years, said.

"Some parents will invite teachers, but I don't recommend attending. You attended one of them. Do you want to attend all the other parties? What do other parents think? This degree is difficult to grasp. "

After teaching for 27 years, Mr. Kong has only attended a student's birthday party once. "It has been in KFC for many years."