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Once I thought I wouldn't breast-feed in public, now I will breast-feed even if I feel a little embarrassed. Will breast-feed in public, but not in public.

Lactating mothers are great!

Tell me a personal experience: when my baby was two months old, it was 35 degrees in summer, and I took him to the suburbs of Chengdu for a business trip. Because of the other party's responsibility, I took my children to do business and took a taxi back. After becoming a mother, nothing is more important than children! After getting on the bus, he began to cry. I knew he was hungry, but I didn't feed him because he had no shady place to feed him. So I got up the courage to say to the master: Master, can I breast-feed? At that time, I mainly thought that milk might dirty the car. Then the master said, Oh, nothing. I have children too. Don't worry!

Before I decided to breastfeed, I was still very uneasy. One is afraid that the master will disagree, and the other is afraid of embarrassment. But after the driver answered me, I felt natural at once!

Since having children, it is inevitable that there will be some accidents when going out. I usually feed it before going out and try not to go out for more than three hours. But even so, all kinds of accidents will happen after going out.

With the improvement of public facilities, it is more and more convenient to take children out. Just, after all, in public, in order to avoid embarrassment, I suggest that Ma Bao can do the following three things:

First of all, don't panic when the baby cries.

Some mothers are accused by others because they are worried about their babies crying, so they will feel nervous about their babies crying. When the baby is crying, don't panic and worry, to avoid confusion because of panic.

On the train, the baby cried. We need to appease the baby first, and then find a suitable place to feed.

Secondly, get familiar with your environment in advance.

I later observed that there was a very large toilet for the disabled in a subway station, which could be used as a nursing room. Then I often choose this site as a stop for my return trip. I can feed milk and change diapers here. If you have a general understanding of where you are going, there will be no shortage of suitable places to feed.

For example, on the train, there are restaurants and bathrooms, and you can breastfeed.

A third nurse's suit or something.

When I go out alone, I wear a nurse's uniform. Now there are all kinds of nursing clothes and towels on a treasure, and they are not expensive. The key is that they are very convenient. In this way, even if you sit in the office cubicle and feed, no one can see your breasts.

I saw a news on the internet the other day: a mother was breast-feeding on the bus, photographed and accused of being uncivilized. I was angry at that time. Fortunately, most netizens are on my mother's side!

In fact, the public should be more tolerant of mothers who take their children out.

I don't really want to take my children out, but sometimes I still have to take them, get an injection, have a check-up, go to the hospital … I have to do something!

Everyone has his own needs, especially for Ma Bao! So please be tolerant and see innocence!

Breastfeeding is an embarrassing period. No matter how careful you are, you will inevitably breastfeed in front of others.

When my little Bao was young, I always tried to take the child out after feeding him. Once I was in a hurry to go out and forgot to feed my children. Not long after going out, the child began to cry. Worst of all, I wore a skirt and played in the square that day. In desperation, I found the Plaza Management Office and asked the administrator to lend it to me for a period of time. The administrator promised me happily, but in the process of breastfeeding, someone broke in and was embarrassed to death.

Also, on the bus, children have to feed when they cry. I usually hold my bag in front of me, so I don't care. If you really have no choice, just pretend that others can't see it.

It's a long train ride, and breastfeeding is certain. Ma Bao should be fully prepared.

Once, I wanted to take my children by train for more than 20 hours and bought a soft berth. No matter how few people there are, there are still people. Especially for children who lie down and feed various arches, it is easy to have various embarrassing scenes.

I prepared the baby's thin blanket in advance and covered the baby and myself when feeding. No matter how the baby tossed, it was wrapped tightly and relaxed all the way.

In fact, when nursing, Ma Bao should be prepared every time he appears. Putting a thin and small blanket in the bag will not take up too much space and save embarrassment. Unnecessary people will say something unpleasant to avoid being seen by others.

Yes, as long as you feed in a crowded public place, you will feel embarrassed, which is the trouble of every mother. But if the baby is hungry, won't you feed it? So most mothers are embarrassed to bear it, because that kind of maternal love can't be stopped. This is the greatness of maternal love.

I swore to my husband at that time that I would never breast-feed outside when the baby was born, but I was embarrassed and felt like streaking. As a result, the maternal love in the body becomes irresistible as soon as the child is born.

It's the first time I breast-fed outside. Although I tried to find a hidden place with my back to the crowd, I was embarrassed when someone passed by occasionally, and I felt that everyone was watching me.

When the baby just cried, I also said, stop feeding. Come on, go home. However, the child is crying, which makes me very uncomfortable and distressed. I remember that a counselor said before that if the baby was hungry and didn't breastfeed at the first time, the baby would have the fear of death, so I couldn't care about anything at all and breastfed outside.

After the first experience, the second time and the third time are not so embarrassing, and I get used to it slowly, but it is still impossible to be completely embarrassed. My son is two years old now and has not been weaned. I definitely won't breastfeed outside, but I still felt embarrassed when I breastfed at my relatives' house yesterday.

One is the embarrassment of breast-feeding, and the other is that at such a big age, I continue to breastfeed, and my relatives are also embarrassed. Therefore, breastfeeding is an embarrassing thing no matter how you feed it, unless you can't see it at home.

As mothers, children are safe and healthy, children are happy and happy, and children bring us happiness. Compared with these, the embarrassment of breastfeeding is actually nothing. Because we all love our children. Moreover, the power of maternal love in women is really too strong, and everyone knows who is a mother.

It must be a little awkward. After all, the train is a densely populated area, and feeding many people in public places will still be seen with colored glasses. Generally, the quality of people who take the train is also uneven, and it is inevitable to be criticized and embarrassed. In order to avoid this, I suggest you contact the conductor and go to the conductor's lounge to breastfeed.

In fact, as our country's high-speed rail pruning is getting better and better, many people will choose high-speed rail to travel, and many of them have just given birth to a baby. We can really call on the relevant departments to set up special nursery on the train, like many hospitals and shopping malls, to facilitate mothers to breastfeed.

In addition, there are special feeding clothes for mothers to wear during breastfeeding, which can prevent her from running out.

There must be embarrassment, but the child is hungry and it is not embarrassing to feed the child.

Any breastfeeding mother is unwilling to breastfeed in public, and she will choose to breastfeed in public only if she has to. It takes a long time to take the child out to work, and the baby is just hungry, so the mother can only choose to breastfeed the child. Although we have to choose this way, we should try to avoid the crowd and minimize embarrassment. We can do this:

1. Go to the mother-infant room to feed the baby. Nowadays, many public places have maternity rooms for the convenience of nursing mothers, and there should be one on the train.

2. Go to the restaurant to feed. There is a dining room on the train, where there are few people. You can find a hidden seat when you get to the dining room.

3. I have been to places where there are few passers-by feeding. There are few people at the junction of train carriages, so when there is really no place, you can choose to go there to feed.

4. Cover it with things you carry with you. When there is really no feeding place and you can only feed in public, you can cover it with your carry-on bag or your child's strap. People with children can understand the difficulties of breastfeeding, and it is ok to hide and relieve embarrassment.

When we take our children out to other places, we should also be prepared to prevent them from starving in the car, which is not convenient for breastfeeding.

Viewpoint: For most mothers, breastfeeding in public will be more or less embarrassing, especially on the train, where people are close at hand, and embarrassment will naturally occur. But the most embarrassing thing should be those "Notre Dame" who wear colored glasses and blindly accuse their mothers.

My Dabao breast-fed to 1 year and a half, and Bao Xiao breast-fed to 2 years old. When they are young, they don't have to go out for a long time. After all, it is inconvenient to carry a lot of diapers and water bottles and not take care of crying children at any time. I believe most mothers are like me.

But it is impossible to stay at home all the time. There are always some things in life that need us to go out, such as giving our children a physical examination, visiting relatives, going back to our hometown, or other things, and so on. We all need to take care of the children.

Children who eat milk powder are fine. In addition to diapers and other supplies, it is enough to add water cups, milk powder and bottles. Breast-fed children seem to save trouble. "Rations" are all brought by my mother, so milk powder and bottles are not needed. But when it comes to "eating", it is difficult: it is very pleasant for a baby who eats milk powder to swallow it in one gulp; Breastfed babies will cry because their mothers are embarrassed to breastfeed in public.

Some people may say, let the baby drink milk powder! However, for a baby who is used to breastfeeding, breast milk is the best delicious food in his heart. Milk powder? What is that? I don't drink, I don't drink! Even if you put the bottle in his mouth, he won't spit it out after one sip. At that time, my two babies wanted to add some milk powder because their breast milk was not enough. Many attempts ended in failure. For children, the mother's breasts are warm, the milk is sweet, and the cold bottle is completely incomparable, which is naturally unacceptable.

Therefore, it is unrealistic for breast-fed children to go out and feed with milk powder.

So what can a mother do to a crying child? Keep the baby crying? Which mother is willing to give up her child and cry? Besides, there must be a "virgin bitch" accusing the mother of not caring for the child, and the crying of the child bothered him.

Then, only breast-fed children, children eat sweet breast milk, will stop crying and stop making noise. When the children are satisfied, the world will be calm and others will no longer be disturbed. This is the best and only way.

There is a news that on the Guangzhou subway, the child was crying with hunger, and the mother had no choice but to breast-feed the child and the child calmed down. I didn't expect someone to sneak a photo and send it to a circle of friends. The sketch said, "Dare to undress in public, show your chest, shameless?" Even if you want to breastfeed your child, won't you choose the time? Shame on you "

Breastfeeding children in public has become "shameless", and this person's behavior has been angered by netizens: Didn't you feed them like this when you were a child? What did you eat to grow up? There are also many netizens who have expressed their views. "True respect is not seeing evil." "The cry of the child will disturb everyone, and breastfeeding is nothing. As long as you are right, don't blame a conscientious mother for no reason. " "As long as protective measures are taken, it is understandable to feed in public." ...

Above the status of mother, mother is also a person with freedom, privacy and shame, but in order to meet the baby's right to life and health, they chose to give up their privacy. Their behavior didn't hurt anyone, only she was affected. For others, there is no right to restrict this behavior, and mothers can breastfeed their babies in any way they think fit on any occasion.

As a netizen said: "If a woman shows her breasts topless, I will watch it because I am a man;" If a mother breast-feeds her baby, I will turn my head and look away, because I am human. "When a mother is breastfeeding, the correct behavior is to take the initiative to avoid her own sight, and express respect, understanding and respect for her mother's breastfeeding in this way, instead of voyeurism and sneak shots, and stand at the highest point of morality to scold and criticize.

Therefore, when a mother breastfeeds her baby, those who really need to feel embarrassed should be those nasty people, those who are grandstanding, those who steal photos and invade her privacy, and those who come up with a set of standards that violate human relations and are shameless enough to claim to be civilized.

Anthropologist Catherine Daetwyler said: In most cultures around the world, breasts have no sexual meaning to men or women. Sexual behavior does not include breasts, which have only one function, that is, to feed offspring.

Breastfeeding a child is a mother's birthright, and no one can deprive it. But for many mothers, breastfeeding in public places always makes them feel embarrassed. At this time, we can also take some measures to enable us to feed our children more generously and confidently.

1, prepare the "lactation artifact" in advance.

The breastfeeding artifact can be a breastfeeding towel or a piece of clothing, which can block the line of sight.

When I used to take my baby out, I used to cover it with a piece of clothes when I was nursing. When I fell asleep, I could cover it on my baby and make a small quilt.

Don't cover the baby's head directly when you cover it to prevent it from blocking the baby's sight. If the baby is crying, you can hold the baby with one hand and lift the clothes slightly with the other hand, just like a barrier, blocking the sight of others.

2. Feed the children in advance

Breast-feeding children is more frequent, so you can breast-feed your children before going out to prevent them from crying when they just go out, and at the same time reduce the number of breast-feeding outside.

3, maternal and infant room feeding

Nowadays, many public places, such as shopping malls and railway stations, have maternal and child rooms. When it is convenient, you can breast-feed your child in the maternal and child room, and your mother can completely relax, regardless of the surrounding eyes.

In fact, for mothers, listen to the baby's needs. As long as you are crying and hungry, you can breastfeed anytime and anywhere. Breastfeeding in public is not a "choice" but a "must". Whether in front of strangers or relatives and friends, it is up to the mother to decide whether or not to breastfeed her children and how to breastfeed them!

I don't think it will be embarrassing.

I. My personal experience

When my child was about 8 months old, I attended a colleague's wedding with my husband. I just want to take the children out for a walk, so I packed up the necessary things for the children to go out, and we set off.

Halfway through the wedding reception, the baby wants to drink milk. I walked around the hotel and couldn't find a separate room where I could nurse. Next door to the wedding banquet hall is an open dressing room. After making sure there was no camera, I chose to nurse in the locker room.

I chose a corner, with my back to the door, sat in a chair, lifted my clothes and breastfed the child. In fact, I am also worried that someone will come over at this time, but there is no way to bite the bullet and feed.

Fortunately, a few people suddenly came in on the road, but seeing my movements, I probably knew the situation and went out soon.

Second, the particularity of breastfeeding

For Ma Bao, every period is very difficult, and lactation is a special period.

Because breast milk is the best gift for babies, all qualified mothers try their best to breastfeed their babies. However, the lactation period is long, and there is no guarantee that there will be a relatively private environment every time breastfeeding, especially when traveling. On the train, car, shopping mall or other possible circumstances.

Before I got married, I even thought pregnancy was shy, embarrassing and full of big bellies. But after having a baby, the embarrassment and shyness I once thought gradually left me. I spend most of my time thinking about what my baby needs and what I need to do.

Third, the current social phenomenon.

1, public facilities

It has become a very popular phenomenon that Ma Bao takes his baby to travel, travel, go shopping and eat, especially today when two children are open and breastfeeding is advocated. It is suggested to set up a nursing room or a mother-infant room in public places, so as to provide a convenient place for nursing mothers and babies as much as possible.

2. Public attitude

Lactating mothers are very hard. Out of love for their children, they have to breast-feed their children even if conditions do not allow them to go out. So please treat them with understanding and tolerance.

If you see baby mothers breastfeeding in public, please understand their necessity and consciously be see no evil, which is also a kind of respect for ourselves.

Fourth, Ma Bao should prepare the corresponding items when he goes out.

Ma Bao should check the baby's belongings before going out. If there is a maternal and child room or a nursing room, it is the most convenient place to go; If not, do a good job of shielding when feeding outside to reduce interference with people around you and words.

Once Dabao was ill, I had no choice but to carry Bao Xiao and take Dabao to the hospital for registration. At that time, Dabao was waiting in line for blood test, and Bao Xiao began to cry. I know that Bao Xiao is hungry, and I want to wait for Dabao to draw blood before going to the maternal and child room of the hospital to nurse Bao Xiao. But the little guy couldn't wait to cry louder and louder. At that time, he was really anxious. When Dabao was still ill and needed a blood test, Bao Xiao was hungry again. There were a lot of people at that time, and in the end I didn't care so much, so I had the cheek to sit on the stool next to me and nurse Bao Xiao.

Since having a baby, it's really troublesome to go out. When the baby is hungry, he wants to eat, but if he can't eat, he keeps crying. Every mother can't bear to watch her baby cry, but if she breastfeeds in public, she will still feel embarrassed. After all, not every place has a place suitable for breastfeeding.

1. Take out the milk powder.

When the mixed feeding baby wants to go out, prepare enough milk powder and warm water, and feed him milk powder when the baby is hungry.

2. Wear clothes suitable for breastfeeding and go out.

There are all kinds of breast-feeding clothes on the market now, and the styles are also very fashionable and beautiful. Ma Bao can avoid embarrassment by choosing the right nursing clothes when she goes out.

3. Take a nursing towel and go out.

Breast-feeding towel is really useful, which can effectively block the sight of others and avoid a lot of embarrassment when the baby breast-feeds.

Yes! Mom is also a normal person, how can she not be embarrassed to lift her clothes in public! I took my son on the train three times before weaning, and he made a fuss about breastfeeding. I have to breast-feed in public in the sleeping car, so I understand mothers who breast-feed with their children very well.

1. Wear nursing underwear and clothes when going out, and wear cardigan with buttons or zippers for the coat. This kind of "equipment" will make the child unbutton his coat quickly when he wants to feed, and then he only needs to feed the child from the feeding port.

2. Some treasure moms also choose nursing towels when breastfeeding in public. But this should be divided into children. Many children don't like to be covered with nursing towels and cry. So this trick should be used with caution.

3. Prepare some snacks that children can eat. Unless it is the kind of child who is a few months old, the child can add complementary food after 6 or 7 months. You can bring some fruits and spoons to your child, and then use a spoon to dig some fruit puree for your child to eat, to temporarily appease your child. Wait until there are not so many people around, and then feed. However, the premise of using this method is that children can still endure hunger. If the child is already hungry and crying, it is necessary to overcome the difficulties and feed him in time.

4. Look for obstacles within your ability. For example, when nursing, lean on your side. If you are in the sleeper, turn your back on the passenger. Or go to the upper bunk to feed, the upper bunk can guarantee privacy, but the premise is: to ensure the safety of children.

If you are sitting in a hard seat, please ask your family or some female passengers next to you to help cover it, which can also alleviate some embarrassment.

It's not easy for lactating mothers. I hope the society will give them more care and convenience! !

"Li Nainai on Parenting" Share: No matter where you are, you will feel embarrassed to breast-feed your child in front of everyone. But "being a mother is just." If children need breastfeeding, they should still breastfeed their children, but in order to avoid this situation, we can do the following efforts to avoid embarrassment.

If the mother wants to take the child out of town, it is best to feed the baby at home in advance, so that the baby can eat and drink before going out. Try to reduce the chances of breastfeeding outside, which will better avoid the embarrassing situation of opening clothes and breastfeeding outside.

If a mother takes her child by some means of transportation, she can first find out whether there is a special mother-infant room where she can breastfeed. Breast-feeding in the mother-infant room can avoid embarrassment, and it can also have more space for children to easily eat breast milk, instead of feeding at will in crowded seats.

If there is no maternity room when traveling, you can feed it in the following ways to avoid embarrassment.

It's winter now, and mothers can wear some loose and fat clothes when they go out to take care of their children. When feeding, if they open their clothes, they can also let the children avoid it to avoid unnecessary embarrassment caused by the exposure of key parts. When choosing clothes, it is best to choose some pure cotton clothes, and don't let children feel uncomfortable when they come into contact with them.

When going out, it is best for mothers to prepare a special nursing towel in their bags, which is easy to avoid when nursing, and people's eyes can also feed their children comfortably, reducing others' staring or looking directly at them when nursing, which will bring many unnecessary embarrassing situations.

When you are on the train, if you are embarrassed to breastfeed, you can choose the seat in the back row, or change places with others, and then measure your body when breastfeeding, so that others can see breastfeeding as little as possible. Although this may be a bit overwhelming and can't be avoided well, it can also greatly reduce some embarrassing emotions.

Through the above sharing, I hope to give some reference opinions to mothers. When traveling abroad, you must pay attention to preparing related items in case of emergency. If you need breastfeeding, you'd better prepare the necessary items first, so that it won't be too embarrassing when breastfeeding your child.