My husband and his mistress stayed in a hotel for half a month and nothing happened.

Question:

In 2001, my husband and I got married. He has no house or car, but he has a bunch of brothers and sisters. The youngest brother is my husband and he helped me through college. My husband is very hardworking. He started from nothing and won everything. We are where we are today mainly because of him.

My family situation is better than that of my husband, but when my husband and I got married, I had some conflicts with my family. In the first few years of my marriage, I did not communicate with my family. My husband has always had a problem with this. He felt that my family looked down on him, so he took a gamble and made some achievements for others.

In 2009, my husband started a business in partnership. His sales connections in the business, as well as what he learned from his previous bosses, came in handy. His start was unexpectedly smooth, and his husband earned his first pot of gold. From then on, he got out of hand and devoted himself wholeheartedly to his career. I warned him that business was risky and told him to be more conservative, but he made so much money at the time and didn't listen. As a result, the next year, I was deceived by my partner, who absconded with the money, leaving a pile of mess and debt for my husband to clean up. That period was our most difficult time. My husband became angry due to stomach and liver problems and was hospitalized one after another. I was the one who stayed with him, took care of him, comforted him, and walked through this period of time together. I was also looking for help, asking my mother's family, parents or not, to lend us emergency funds.

After my husband got through that period, he became calmer and less aggressive. And after that failure experience, he insisted on keeping control in his own hands and no longer give the capital flow to others. I also resigned and started helping him take care of some things in the company.

Having said so much, I want to say that looking back on our journey, it is really not easy. The two of us experienced hardships, blessings, and strong winds and waves, but they could not defeat us and put our marriage on hold. However, I didn't expect that because of that woman's appearance, my husband and I would now regard each other as enemies.

My husband does not admit that she is a mistress. The woman was recruited into the company by her husband. Her business ability is indeed good, but I instinctively dislike her and feel that this person is not decent. She was dressed very provocatively. In winter, she had to open her coat collar and wear a low-cut coat. She wears heavy makeup every day and smells like perfume. As far as I know, not many women in the company like her, and all the men admire her. My husband also likes her very much and will take her with him when discussing important projects. In July this year, during a bidding process, my husband brought a helper from the company to work overtime for more than ten days. Finally he took her to bid and the bid was successful. My husband gives all the credit to that woman. After that, that woman had no respect for anyone else, not even me.

In September, there was something wrong with the enrollment of the school our children came into contact with. I rushed to deal with this matter, but I didn't go home for more than half a month. As a result, after the matter was settled, I discovered that my husband didn’t even return home while I was away, but stayed in a hotel, and the woman also booked a room in that hotel during that time. Moreover, the two discussed the project in the same caliber. The company does have projects, but which projects require discussions day and night, and between two people alone?

This is obviously cheating. I made an excuse to have a tryst, but my husband refused to admit it, saying nothing happened, and blamed me for being suspicious and looking for trouble. I really felt that both of them took me for a fool, especially the way the woman looked at me and her obvious winner's attitude. Did she lie to me? But her husband just refused to admit that he was wrong, let alone fire her.

We have been arguing about this matter for nearly three months with no result. Every time my husband gets annoyed, he says no and gets a divorce. Why should I get a divorce? Will divorce make him and that woman happy? I want to know the truth now and just want him to give me an explanation. We are a couple in need, and the past cannot just be ignored. In the past days, I was the only one with him. In the future days, I can only be with him and not with others. Can the teacher give me some advice?

Answer:

Admitting to cheating in marriage means bearing corresponding responsibilities, including compensation in the event of divorce. Of course, your goal is to keep the marriage and separate the third party.

Put this aside for now. But you'd better keep a piece of evidence of his cheating. After all, everything must be prepared with both hands.

As for why he didn’t admit his fault or admit his mistake? If you think about it for a moment, you will understand that such a strong man would be willing to be scolded by you with something in his hand? It can be seen that you are also a very thoughtful person, otherwise you would not be so determined to survive when your life is hit hard. If two strong people live together for a long time, there will be a lot of conflicts and frictions. When we are in trouble together, you will not be tit-for-tat, but when things are going smoothly, you will inevitably point the finger at Maimang. At this time, a woman who obeys him in everything, worships him, and admires him appears, and your emotional relationship will be in danger.

Why do all the men in the company have a soft spot for that woman? It shows that she understands men's psychology very well, what men need and how to express them will make them happy, but women will not have the desire to approach such a "heartthrob" who is too explicit. Women will remain vigilant and vigilant and stay away from such "heartthrobs." What about her? Nor does she need friendship between women. She can benefit from a man with a little ambiguity. Now, if you are pretty sure that her target is your husband, then you need to figure out what exactly she wants from your husband. Then, figure out how to break her mind. However, beware of her being too demanding. Some young mistresses will engage in various dramas with their husbands, including giving birth to children, committing suicide, and will not give up until they achieve their goals. Don't simply think that a sum of money can send your mistress away. Some women would rather be scolded than be lovers. What they are interested in is that a man can bring her more added value, such as status and vision.