Oral: I had an affair on a business trip, and my wife cheated at home.

I met my wife on a business trip and cheated at home.

Dialogue: Luo Gang, a 40-year-old professional manager.

Luo Gang's figure is well maintained, tall and thin, without the belly of a middle-aged man. He is well dressed and exudes the charm of a mature man.

Key sentences 1

My daughters call me "Fei Dad", and my wife often says: "Finding a husband who is on a long-term business trip is equal to being single".

Key sentence 2

I always thought that a 40-year-old man had experienced everything, so what was there to be confused about? But this time I'm really confused.

Key sentence 3

She said excitedly, "He has done much more for me than you. When I encounter difficulties, my first thought must be him. " . Because he will arrive the first time, and you are always out of reach. "

There are fewer meetings and more quarrels.

People say rhapsody in July is a flower. Indeed, a 40-year-old man has neither the recklessness of young people nor the vicissitudes of old people. He has everything he needs, including his career, family and children, and looks like he has unlimited scenery. However, forty is also the most stressful age. In the workplace, there is no such thing as spring breeze. There may be a smooth road ahead, but always worry about the pursuers behind you. After all, the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead.

I cherish my present job very much. After ten years in this industry, I finally got the position of business manager, and the salary is quite generous. The only drawback is that I have to travel a lot. 365 days a year, I have 300 days to fly between cities. Even my daughter calls me "Fei Dad", and my wife Hui Hui often says, "Finding a husband who is on a long-term business trip is equal to being single". I feel guilty about my wife and children, and I don't care enough about them, but I am also helpless. How easy is it to find a better job again? So as long as I have time, I will take them to the park to play.

But even so, Hui Hui and I often quarrel. Somehow, we have less time to meet and more time to quarrel. We were classmates and fell in love before we got married. She was a reasonable, gentle and virtuous person at that time. Now she is guarding the house alone, taking care of the children and facing many problems.

Her parents died young. My parents are in poor health and live far away. I can't help her. I often advise her to hire a housekeeper. She always says that people are dangerous now and are afraid of bringing unnecessary trouble. She does everything herself. It's really hard. I often bring her some gifts, but her temper is getting worse every day. Now we often quarrel over trifles, and sometimes I'm really afraid to go home and face her nagging.

I ran away as soon as I entered the room.

In March this year, as soon as I stepped into the house, Hui Hui lost his temper with me: "What are you doing back? It is better to stay outside and not come back! " I'm confused. Seeing the water all over the floor, my home was in a mess. It turned out that the faucet at home was broken, so Hui Hui took a pair of pliers to repair it himself. Maybe the method was wrong, and the water gushed out at once. When the property manager came, the furniture was flooded.

Hui Hui looked at everything in exasperation. As soon as she got home, she cried and yelled at me: "You are not allowed to travel again. If this continues, home will not be home. " I also know that she is sad. I let her lose her temper and tidy up the room. In the evening, I took her and her daughter to a restaurant and had a delicious meal. Hui Hui's anger finally subsided. Just at this time, the company called me to go to Qingdao for a meeting the next day. Hui Hui suddenly lost his temper: "If you go again, don't come back."

The next day, I left home with my luggage. I felt relieved the moment the plane took off. I sit by the window, the sky is particularly blue, white clouds are floating leisurely in the wind, ever-changing, and the clouds are so close that I can reach them.

After four busy days of meetings, the organizers specially arranged a three-day tour. I want to go home early, but I think Hui Hui is still angry on the phone. If I go back now, it will be noisy. After flying from one city to another for so many years, I always come and go in a hurry and never have time to enjoy the scenery. It's better to enjoy the beautiful scenery of Qingdao this time and relax my nervous mood during this time.

In the evening, I stood in front of the hotel window and enjoyed it quietly. The night in Qingdao is quiet and beautiful, which is different from the bustling Shanghai.

Heroes can save beauty without drinking.

The next morning, the weather was bad and it rained in Mao Mao, which inevitably disappointed everyone. At this moment, I heard a girl's hearty voice: "Everyone says it rains a lot when you go out, so it seems to mean everyone here." Everyone laughed, and she smiled, and then said, "I'm Xiaoqing, the tour guide in charge of your trip to Qingdao." After the wonderful opening remarks, she began to introduce various scenic spots in Qingdao. Her voice is loud and clear, and she speaks clearly.

Travel is easy to get familiar with. In less than half a day, we have played a joke with Xiaoqing: "Xiaoqing, do you have a boyfriend?" Do you want us to introduce you to one? " Xiaoqing said wittily, "Well, I heard that men in Shanghai are the best, especially men among men. I really want to try my luck! " With laughter in the car, the lonely journey became relaxed and happy.

I began to pay attention to her. Xiaoqing's eyes are clear and bright, her skin is tanned and shiny, and her round face always has a sweet smile, which is natural and beautiful. In particular, she is well organized and neat, and the whole trip is arranged reasonably. She never takes us to some shopping malls like other tour guides, and always reminds us not to buy things easily, which is easy to be deceived.

The day's trip was rich and enjoyable. At dinner, everyone raised their glasses and drank. Xiaoqing is eating the tour guide's three dishes and one soup on a small table. I don't know who said, "Xiaoqing worked hard today. Shall we propose a toast to her? " Everyone began to boo: "Good, good."

Xiaoqing's personality is straightforward, and she drinks whenever she wants, so that her face turns red after a few drinks. I watched anxiously and quickly got up and gave way: "Xiaoqing will be our guide tomorrow." Wouldn't it be disappointing if I drank too much and couldn't get up tomorrow? " In this way, I helped her drink this cup. "

This group of people is not easy to fool: "Ronaldinho, you know that heroes save the United States." That cup is not enough. Come again. "When I finished drinking, my feet were a little floating. Then I forgot how to get back to the hotel. I only remember that someone helped me to apply towels and give me hot tea in the middle of the night.

The tide rises and falls, and the mood is rippling.

In the next few days, I feel that Xiaoqing and I have an unspeakable tacit understanding. We were in the same car when we took the cable car. I looked at her and said nothing. The wind was blowing leisurely. It feels so good. I think this is what I want. I wish I could ride it all the time. The cable car has arrived, and I'm still unfinished, just feeling that the time is too short.

Many people suggested going to karaoke in the evening, but I was not interested. A man came to the seaside and suddenly saw Xiaoqing catching crabs barefoot. Her feet are soft and slender, and I seem to be taken there, rolling up my trouser legs and catching crabs with her. The water was a little cold. After a while, she shouted, "I caught it!" " Got it! "She jumped up happily, with a pure and bright smile on her face. I'm infected. Laugh and scream with her.

When she was tired, she leaned on my shoulder and said, "I have been working since I was a teenager, and I have been looking forward to having a shoulder to lean on and give warmth to my family." My heart was pounding and I smelled a faint fragrance from her long hair, so I held her hand tightly.

Back at the hotel, someone sold us the kind of cups with photos printed on them. Xiaoqing said, "Let's take a picture as a souvenir." I didn't refuse. At the ebb and flow of the tide, we left a beautiful photo.

Although I have been away for so many years, I have never cheated, and I have never been seduced by any girl, but I really like her this time. Feelings are hard to say.

I always thought that a 40-year-old man had experienced everything, so what was there to be confused about? But this time I'm really confused. If I can, I want to ignore the past and the future and only focus on the present.

Feelings return to life again

After coming back from Qingdao, the days are calm, but Hui Hui will still nag me about my daughter's disobedience, messy home and unhappy work. I still travel back and forth between cities, but no matter which city I am in, Xiaoqing will send me a message and call me. I cherish the feelings between us.

One day, when I came back from other places, I saw Hui Hui and her colleague Xiao Li walking together very affectionately. In the evening, when I asked about it, Hui Hui was not surprised, but publicly said that Xiao Li liked her very much. Seeing that Hui Hui was right, I slapped her angrily.

Hui Hui said excitedly, "What qualifications do you have to hit me? He has done much more for me than you. He always helps me when you are not at home. When I am in trouble, I must think of him first, because he will arrive at the first time and you are always out of reach. We care from the heart, not as nasty as you think! " I was silent. For so many years, I have really paid too little for this family. The daughter is desperately crying: "Mom and Dad, stop arguing."

My heart made her cry, and the long-term separation between the two places caused inevitable friction between my wife and me. When I asked my wife if she wanted a divorce, she said, "I never wanted a divorce. I just want a complete family and a man who loves me and takes care of my family. I have a good impression on Xiao Li, but I don't love him. Moreover, I don't want my daughter's young mind to be hurt, and I don't want her growth to leave a shadow. "

This touched my heart. We talked for a long time that night and said all the words accumulated in our hearts for so many years. That's it, we found that we still love each other deeply, but we haven't communicated for too long. We hugged each other and cried, and agreed to start our lives again.

The next day, I sent a message to tell Xiaoqing that she and I just met by chance, and we would sail on our own route after all. I have my family and she has her life. Xiaoqing has never called me since then, but every night on a quiet night, I always make a cup of coffee, look at the people on the cup and meditate on Dai Wangshu's heart: that is the sadness of lonely autumn, that is the acacia in the distant sea. If someone asks me what's on my mind, I dare not say your name.

I spend more time at home and am actively applying for permanent residence in Shanghai to the company. I'm trying my best to prepare for the worst, and I'm trying my best to warm up my relationship with Hui Hui. I don't know whether it is right or wrong to do this now, let alone what will happen in the future.

-this review marriage needs conscious love.

When a person gets married, he must bear the responsibility for his family, and the sacrifice and dedication to his family is not unilateral. Family life is mostly composed of small things that accumulate over time, and the ups and downs of them must be experienced by yourself.

For most of the year, Hui Hui undertakes family affairs alone. What she subconsciously needs is her husband's conscious love in return, not only material, but also emotional and linguistic communication and consideration. People's psychological distance is closely related to their spatial distance. Feelings need to be together for a long time to become strong, and marriage needs two people to live together for a long time to last.

Everyone wants wealth, but if it is at the cost of long-term separation between husband and wife, then there must be many people who would rather not have wealth. Fortunately, you have realized this and actively applied to the company for permanent residence in Shanghai. I sincerely hope that your wish will come true.

Understanding, consideration and hope

I'm glad to see that you can consider the problem from the wife's point of view and understand her. I appreciate your efforts to improve the relationship with Hui Hui.

Usually, husband and wife are separated, and understanding, consideration and hope are indispensable for maintaining a long-term marriage. Understanding is that you understand that it is inevitable that she will bear the hardships of family and child care alone. Thoughtfulness refers to returning home, making more compensation, and letting the wife get some relaxation; I hope it is to show your wife the purpose of your long stay in Shanghai.

From your talk, you can find that your understanding of your wife is passive, lacking in consideration and working too late. Take consideration as an example. Do you take the initiative to take care of your wife's usual housework and faucet every time you go home? You can find out in advance as long as you work hard at ordinary times. I believe your wife will understand you as long as you are considerate.