What is the circle of friends of a truly dignified person like?

I have read this sentence:

"A nation cannot do without a kind of foundation and tolerance. A person cannot do without spirit and pattern." ”

Indeed, we often use a person’s size to judge whether he can achieve great things in the future.

But what exactly is the pattern? What does a truly dignified person look like?

It’s actually very simple, just look at his circle of friends.

Moments are like a person’s facade, recording a person’s personality, hobbies, and behavior, and hiding a person’s truest side.

A truly well-organized person has these characteristics in his or her circle of friends.

The older I get, the more I realize that no one’s life is smooth sailing. There are many ups and downs and few wishes.

So you can often see it in the circle of friends, others complain about social injustice and the difficulty of fate.

But to be honest, all living beings are suffering, and no one is moving forward without a heavy burden.

Complaining may win sympathy at first, but over time it will only make others laugh.

On the contrary, what everyone admires more is another kind of person: one who can accept the worst results calmly and still be grateful for life.

The proprietress who used to open a shop downstairs in her home, every time she opened her circle of friends, she would always see healthy and delicious food, family short trips, carefully tended flowers and plants...

Every time I apply it, I feel full of warmth and light.

But those who are familiar with the boss lady know that she has not had a good life in the past two years.

The proprietress originally worked as an offline product agent. Although she was affected by online sales, her profits were still relatively flat.

Last year, a sudden epidemic caused many physical stores to suffer losses, and the proprietress was no exception.

But she only posted this paragraph on WeChat Moments:

In fact, everyone has bad moods, but not everyone can wake up from the long night.

Complaining blindly about life will destroy your own will, and finally stay at the bottom of life forever.

British writer Thackeray has a famous saying: "Life is a mirror. If you laugh, it will laugh too; if you cry, it will cry too."

Complaining cannot solve any problems. If you want to win the respect and dignity of others, you must first change your own vision and mentality.

Learn to be grateful for all the blessings and sufferings life has given you, and also have the courage to accept the facts and the ability to deal with things.

Over time, under the influence of the positive energy magnetic field, suffering will eventually pass and become wealth.

When people reach middle age, everyone has accumulated a certain amount of savings and connections.

When chatting with people, I always like to talk about how difficult it was before and how many houses and cars we have now.

Even in the circle of friends, when recording life, they will not consciously show off, lest others not know their achievements.

But you and I both know that people who like to show off in their circle of friends may seem famous and profitable, but in fact they are very small.

An old colleague of the company bought a house in the city, which was originally something worthy of congratulations.

As a result, this colleague live broadcast the entire process from handing over the house to decorating and moving in on Moments, which quickly aroused the disgust of others.

Other colleagues always nudged him to treat him, but he was embarrassed to refuse, and his wallet bleeds a few times.

What made him complain even more was that his relatives were eager to take action after seeing it. They either came to play for a few days at a time or asked to borrow money.

Borrow it. In fact, you are also burdened with a mortgage. If you don’t borrow it, you may become estranged and estranged if your relationship with relatives is not good.

He just wants to show off, but this kind of showing off not only fails to add glory to himself, but also affects his interpersonal relationships.

But it’s not just about socializing, whether it’s showing off wealth, knowledge or connections.

When your abilities are not strong enough, showing off frequently will only bring trouble to yourself, and problems will happen sooner or later.

I don’t know that Zhai Tianlin from “HowNet” once published his notice from Peking University, confirming that he will go to Peking University as a postdoctoral fellow.

As a result, when answering the question, he said "I don't know what CNKI is", which caused a heated discussion.

In the end, netizens found out that the paper was plagiarized, and he is still scolded by many students to this day.

Tongzhuo showed off in the live broadcast that in order to get into a good school, he secretly falsified his student status during the college entrance examination.

Later everyone knew that the results were canceled and the relevant personnel were directly punished!

As the saying goes, when the rice is ripe, the ears are low, and when the people are ripe, the ears are low.

In fact, if you carefully observe the truly capable people around you, most of them are humble and peaceful.

Because the more capable a person is, the more he knows how to behave and do things without bragging or showing off.

No matter when you are, treat others with gentleness and courtesy, and be steady and soft in your behavior.

When you are successful, you are more respected for your humble demeanor.

When you are wealthy, you are more likely to win people's hearts because of your low-key behavior.

Today, with the rapid development of social information, many people use Moments as a window to build their own image.

In a sense, every post is a reflection of a person's emotional intelligence and cultivation.

Netizen @老王 shared a very realistic story.

For a while, the Internet was abuzz with news about interns earning a salary of 2,000, but driving luxury cars to get off work.

Someone in his circle of friends immediately forwarded it, with a comment: Driving a luxury car at such a young age must be unseemly.

Someone explained below: The hotel business run by the girl’s family has opened many chain stores.

Not to be outdone, the man immediately replied: Then check her family, there are not many rich people who are clean nowadays...

Netizens said that he later silently The other party deleted it. Anyway, I am destined to have little interaction with such a quarrelsome person.

The most taboo thing in the circle of friends is to judge others without knowing them.

But there is a type of people in life who always like to publish some controversial content to show their uniqueness.

When I heard about the double reduction policy, I sneered, "It should have been like this a long time ago. In the 1950s, there were no people to make up classes, so there were a lot of talents."

When I see a medical incident happening, I gloat, "The black-hearted hospital charges so much money and it still can't cure it, so it deserves it."

He also thinks he knows hurdles better than Liu Xiang and knows piano better than Lang Lang...

Whenever something happens, he must express and show his own opinions.

This is actually a disease, and the cause lies in the small structure.

There is no high degree of unity between knowledge and vision, no clear-headed cognition, but always possessing an inexplicable sense of courage and pride.

The circle of friends is by no means a place for free speech, and people who are truly organized are not eloquent people.

On the contrary, the higher the level of people, the more they know how to be cautious in their words and actions.

Don’t argue or argue, be sober to yourself, and be gentle to the world.

Throughout the ages, those who achieve great things must have a big picture.

The pattern is not illusory, but hidden in every detail of the circle of friends.

Don’t complain, have an open-minded and calm mind, and always be grateful, and blessings will come naturally.

Don’t show off, have a broad and vast understanding, focus on your own life, and accumulate more power.

Don’t comment, have a far-sighted vision, and have the ability to think long-term, and the world will naturally change for the better.

I hope you and I can become people of character and let the whole world help us.

Author | Xiaowei

Pictures | Visual China