What should my girlfriend do if she is having an affair?

1. Stay calm and avoid impulsive behavior.

Anyone who has an emotional breakdown will become emotional. This is not a simple breakup, but a change of heart. Many people can't keep calm. That's understandable, but it doesn't mean you're going to lose your temper. For the sake of affection, the relationship between two people is on the verge of breaking up. If you are guided by emotions and directly affect your behavior, it is likely to become extreme directly. Feelings will not only be irreversible, but also more and more inevitable.

It is absolutely unacceptable to argue endlessly, keep asking questions, entangle with right and wrong, turn over old scores, and even swear at each other and threaten and intimidate. Not only will the relationship between two people not get better and better, but it will directly stimulate each other's lives, and they will think that you are a horrible person and are not suitable for being together, and they will firmly decide to break up.

The first thing is to calm your emotions. Don't panic when the other party breaks up, give both parties time to calm down. At the same time, this period of time to maintain the normal life of two people, don't involve others in your break up, lest the situation become complicated. Take time to sit down with your girlfriend and have a good talk, objectively analyze the problems existing in your relationship and find the most critical factors.

2. Try to live a good life and create attraction.

The mutual attraction between the two sides in love can cover up many small contradictions. When your own value is constantly improving, you will find that past failures are only the lack of effective communication and correct guidance. When you master the correct communication skills and show your value, it will be much easier to manage love.

First of all, we should improve our attitude in love and face life with a positive and optimistic attitude. Secondly, cultivate positive and healthy hobbies, so as to find opportunities for communication. Finally, in the process of contact, inadvertently show her your high value after transformation, such as sense of humor, leadership and enterprise, and take the initiative to understand her needs. When you are good enough to appear in front of her, I believe she will see your change and be attracted to you again.

If you want to save love, you must learn to "attack the heart." The attack here does not mean that you have done anything earth-shattering, but that you should understand a woman's heart, her situation in love, her psychology and emotions, and correspond to her behavior. After you are familiar with women's emotions, what you need to do is to make corresponding feedback according to women's psychology, know what women want, know their own weaknesses, constantly reverse their image, and lay a solid foundation for future reunion.

3. Clever use of external force to save love

Women who cheat in love don't really love you, but they certainly don't get enough love and care in their relationships. Outside, there are very competitive opponents. Women are likely to lose their way under all kinds of psychological fragility and family torture. Under such circumstances, many women are not really cheating, but are confused by men outside. You need to let women know that they are just taking part in accidental amusement and satisfying their own selfish desires, and women will naturally come back.

At this time, don't go to your rival in love regardless, or even fight. Make a scene in front of your rival, even go to the other company and home to harass, and spread the story of your rival seducing your girlfriend everywhere. This kind of behavior is extreme, not everything can be solved directly by violence, and emotional things can never be alleviated by a fight. Your attitude towards your rival in love will make your lover feel that you are irrational, worried about your own safety, and even less likely to give up the decision to break up.

Rival love is not terrible, it is just an external cause, so you must know yourself and know yourself. You should be good at investigating the situation of your rival with the help of external forces, and then create opportunities to let her know and see his true colors, let her know his bad ideas, dispel her illusions about this relationship, and re-recognize that you are the best person and her harbor. Only in this way can lovers realize their mistakes and return to your arms.