Wedding Notes

Wedding Notes | Meeting your parents for the first time, code quickly!

First, the parents of both sides meet for the first time q &；; A

1. When did parents meet for the first time?

When two people decide to get married, they can arrange for their parents to meet. This meeting is mainly to discuss marriage and put it on the agenda. There is also a saying called "recognizing relatives".

2. Who should propose the first meeting?

It is usually proposed by the man. Of course, after privately deciding to meet, the man's parents formally proposed to meet and entertain.

3. Where should the meeting be held?

If you are in the same city, you can book an old-fashioned hotel/high-end restaurant recognized by local elders. If you are in a different place, you can make a reservation at a restaurant/restaurant where the woman is well-known or has a good reputation. Generally, the parents of the man visit the city where the woman is located.

4. Who needs to attend? Can I bring my relatives?

Generally speaking, it is not recommended to bring relatives, but they will be tied up. There are many problems, only parents and children, grandparents at most. You can invite relatives to the engagement party later.

5. What should I call you when I see you?

Parents usually don't change their minds when they meet for the first time. Younger generations can call each other's parents: uncles and aunts. Both parents can be called: mom and dad. If the two families are familiar, they can also be called in-laws or in-laws.

6. Do parents give red envelopes when they meet for the first time?

If this is the first time for a child to meet the other parents, or if he has not given a red envelope before, parents can prepare a red envelope for the child, depending on local customs.

7. Do parents have to give bride price when they meet for the first time?

The purpose of this meeting is to get to know each other, confirm marriage and recognize each other. There is no need to give it. If we have discussed and solved this problem privately before, this meeting can be used as an agreement.

8. Do you want to give a gift?

It is basic etiquette for children to prepare gifts for their parents.

9. What did parents talk about when they first met?

Talk about family, get to know each other, talk about bride price or marriage customs (if engaged, you can talk about it). Talk about wedding preparation and date selection (if engaged, we can talk about it).

10, who will pay the bill?

If it is the same city, it is usually the knot of the man. If the man's parents come to the woman's side, it is usually the woman's knot. In order to avoid conflicts, the young couple had better settle accounts first, and don't let their parents do the math.

Second, why are parents not embarrassed to meet?

Young couples should make full preparations before meeting.

1. Introduce the basic information of parents/family members, such as occupation, temper, hobbies, taboos, etc., to prevent inappropriate offenses from being mentioned in the chat and find topics for parents. Praise each other and parents appropriately in front of their parents. When their parents meet for the first time, the young couple should visit each other's parents more often, so that they can recognize and like you and be friendly to your parents when they meet.

Before meeting, young couples should introduce their parents and family.

During the meeting, parents are advised to start with the old family. If parents are talkative, don't worry too much. Parents will have their own way of chatting. If they are not talkative, you can start a conversation.

3, can talk about topics (if the atmosphere is cold, you can talk about these and drive the atmosphere).

Weather, different places can talk about local attractions, characteristics, food and other occupations, work situation, hobbies, children's interesting things, praise each other's children, wedding date and form, children's thoughts on the wedding (if engaged), wedding customs (if engaged).

Remind parents never to talk to themselves.

The needs of the wedding should be discussed and measured, and should not be decided without authorization. Respect each other's living habits and wedding customs, don't be too partial/flattering to your children, and don't belittle and criticize each other/your children. If you disagree on something, don't say something unpleasant to your face and don't look bad. After going back, we can discuss it, and the young couple can communicate through consultation and express their parents' wishes.

Third, how to talk about the bride price without embarrassment? If it's an engagement party, we can talk. )

1, young couples must discuss in advance.

If you don't want to be embarrassed, don't really spread it out at the dinner table. It's easy to collapse. It is best to meet before, and the young couple communicate with each other about their parents and their own ideas, and then arrange to meet after reaching an agreement through consultation and there is not much difference. After meeting, confirm and communicate the details.

When meeting, it is best for the man to speak first and take the initiative to remind his parents not to say these words.

Change one's mind temporarily, change one's mouth temporarily: it will appear insincere. We think 10w is not enough, at least 15w.

Tough attitude, non-negotiable: if you want to talk about the rhythm of the collapse, my family will be 6w, and more depends on you.

If you give yourself away and lose your face, you will definitely anger each other, and you don't have to marry!

Don't talk about too detailed problems.

If you speak too carefully, it is easy to cause an argument. Parents can talk casually and discuss the details privately.

4, the scene is wrong, stop it in time.

If parents disagree, children must stop it in time. Parents, uncles and aunts, let's eat first. The food is getting cold. We'll talk about it later. There's no hurry.

Remember: considering meeting on the premise of marriage, the meaning of parent-teacher conference is to go through the motions and express approval. When the young couple get married, all serious matters related to the wedding are discussed behind closed doors with their parents, who will give you a bottom line. Then there is the engagement party! Principle: neither supercilious nor supercilious, respect each other, have business and quantity!

Fourth, a list of gifts for other parents

Fresh fruit: cherry, kiwi fruit, fruit gift box.

Wine: Maotai, Wuliangye, Dream Blue, National pits and red wine.

Cigarettes: China and Su Yan (please ask your girlfriend in advance for boys).

Health products: American ginseng, bird's nest, honey, fish oil and donkey-hide gelatin.

Health care products: foot bath, massager, latex pillow.

Food gift boxes: nut gift boxes, cake gift boxes, milk and scented tea gift boxes.

Tea: Pu 'er, Longjing, Tieguanyin and Jin Junmei.

Jewelry Accessories: Pearl Necklace, Earrings, Scarves, Shawls.

Skin care and beauty: skin care suit, lipstick, mask, perfume, hand cream.