The man wants to decorate the wedding room with dowry money first, but the woman says the bride price will not be given, and the man wants to earn 50 thousand first. what do you think?

I remember learning an English text in junior high school, telling the story of pedestrians and camels. Pedestrians appreciate the camel's hard work all the way. They are afraid of freezing it when camping at night, so that it sticks its head into the tent to avoid the wind and is finally kicked out of the tent by the camel.

The story of pedestrians and camels is similar to that of farmers and snakes, Mr. Dong Guo and wolves. They all take advantage of the kindness of others, push your luck, and even bite the hand that feeds them.

Although the hero of the story asks about people and animals, there are many such people in real life. They often make a sad face, gain sympathy from others, then make full use of it, push your luck, and finally take others' sympathy for him for granted.

Lin Tong and her boyfriend Yang Ping met when they were working together, and finally came together. At first, Lin Tong's family was very opposed to their marriage, but Lin Tong was carried away by love at that time and always thought that his parents opposed it because they didn't like Yang Ping's poor family.

In fact, Lin Tong's parents opposed their marriage not because Yang Ping's family was poor, but because when Yang Ping came to the door for the first time, he turned out to be empty-handed. At first, he thought it might be that he didn't know the way of the world, but later in the conversation, he found that he was not ignorant, but too sophisticated. He is worried that if Lin Tong's parents don't agree with their relationship, the shopping trip will be in vain.

How can parents believe that such a calculating man will marry his daughter?

02

Lin Tong's parents were really worried, and the two families broke up after discussing the bride price. Lin Tong's parents thought that the bride price must be given, but Yang Ping's parents said that their family had spent all their savings to buy a house, so the bride price would not be given.

Considering the actual situation in Yang Ping's family and the good relationship between them, Lin Tong's parents made it clear that they want a bride price of 50,000 now and give him 65,438+10,000 when they get married. Unexpectedly, Yang Ping's family insisted on having no money until Lin Tong's parents got up in a rage and pulled her away, and Yang Ping's family let go.

Through this incident, Lin Tong also felt that Yang Ping was a bit unreliable, but she couldn't give up this relationship. Besides, her parents loved her very much when she was a child. Seeing her like this, her parents agreed to their marriage despite their reluctance.

After the engagement, Yang Ping's family began to decorate their new house, and Lin Tong also waited for the arrival of a happy marriage with great joy. What makes her feel a little unhappy is that Yang Ping has been crying in front of her every day since the house was renovated, telling her how much money she spent today, and their family is about to be squeezed dry for their marriage.

In fact, at first, Lin Tong felt uneasy about it. He always felt that it was because of himself that Yang Ping's family was in trouble, so he took pains to comfort him every day and told him that as soon as he got married, his parents' 654.38+ 10,000 yuan would be given to the family immediately to ease the economic pressure.

But with the passage of time, Lin Tong vaguely felt that something was wrong, because the scheduled wedding day was getting closer and closer, but the renovation of the new house was progressing slowly. More importantly, Yang Ping doesn't seem to be in a hurry.

03

Finally, Lin Tong couldn't help worrying and began to urge Yang Ping to speed up the progress. Yang Ping agreed, but in fact the action was not positive.

Seeing this situation, Lin Tong's parents are not in a hurry. They told Lin Tong that this must be Yang Ping's small plan to marry him with 654.38 million yuan. In the past, Lin Tong wouldn't believe it, but in this case, she has no confidence to refute her parents' statement.

Just when she was dubious, a message from Yang Ping gave her a "reassurance".

Yang Ping told her that because of the money, the renovation progress is seriously behind schedule. If this goes on, it will inevitably affect the wedding date of the two. It is better to let Lin Tong take out a dowry of 65,438+10,000 to install the house first.

After reading the information, Lin Tong realized that his parents were right at the beginning. She feels that she has a crush on a man like Yang Ping. "Not only blind, but also blind." The promised bride price of 50 thousand has not been given yet, but she began to think about her dowry.

Lin Tong fully understood Yang Ping's calculation, so he answered him, "The bride price must be given on the wedding day, but it is just a bride price. Shouldn't it be sent earlier! "

Yang Ping and her lingering for a long time, but Lin Tong insisted on giving the bride price first. Finally, she simply told Yang Ping that if she wanted to get married, my family had to watch the bride price first. If you really have no money to buy a house, don't get married.

Seeing this, my feelings are actually the same as Lin Tong's parents. I still don't want to get married, and I don't recommend getting married without a bride price.

Because I can't see the shadow of love in all the behaviors of Yang Ping or Yang Ping's family. It is full of routines and calculations. How long can a marriage without love last, even if it is married?