Meditate before that wisp of smoke

? Originally, I wanted to use the knowledge and thinking before the cremation furnace as the title, but I still couldn't get past my psychological barrier and changed it to this obscure title.

Second, there is no place to come.

? My father died at 0: 65438 on February 2, 2020 at the age of 90. He walked peacefully in his sleep. I don't have too much pain and regret. Everything is like a natural bloom, with autumn harvest and winter storage.

? Although my father stayed in bed for half a year, he lost his ability to take care of himself for a while. Last month, something amazing happened. Some wounds that have not healed in the past six months have been repaired this month. I left without any wounds. Because my father has been suffering from diabetes for many years, the horror of diabetic wounds must not be cheap to search for pictures. It is entirely his own blessing that my father can live such a healthy, complete and decent life. His kindness and education, as a child, naturally do their best to be filial. In particular, the younger brother and wife work day and night, and the younger brother and sister manage it. As the eldest son, what he has done is the least, and it is not a shame that can be expressed.

? This is the only definite ending of life, and it is a sad but not painful farewell. When people are gone and I can't tell my friends and relatives calmly, I send messages through my circle of friends. The influx of condolences, those who haven't contacted for years, have all left messages.

? At that moment, I suddenly realized that as the greatest potential energy of our ordinary life-death; This is really a complete solution.

Third, to live is to face everything.

? Facing death, the ethics of modern society is different from tradition, which requires more written proof and more procedures. At this age, we are used to parting, especially in recent years when our elders or peers die or life is impermanent. The essence is to leave.

? When you are distracted and faced with these strange firsts, you need the following list:

? 1, man, you need a doctor, a friend or a lawyer, because most of the dead are in the hospital or at home at the moment. The professionalism of doctors and friends and the warmth of friends are the best support when you panic. Similarly, the lawyer's rationality is also your best armrest.

? 2. Things are naturally the aftermath. Inform relatives and friends and set up a mourning hall. Now all the routine work is provided by professional interest organizations, and courtesy can only be done by hand, so be sure to make a list and don't be rude. Have no scruples about telling the story of death. As the saying goes, the deceased is great, and this is the truth.

? 3, specific things, be wary of compensatory psychology and the last psychology and ignore the reality. It is said that a thin filial piety before death is better than a thick burial after death.

? First, the mourning ceremony of the mourning hall, the size of the mourning hall, the length of the lease, the types and grades of ceremonies and ceremonies hosted; Grades of mourning clothes, coffins and urns; The level of cremation, the star rating of the "Grand Hotel" before burial and so on.

? Second, the specifications of the cemetery, the cemetery is generally 20 years, far higher than the living price. Because he/she can sleep, this is definitely a long-term expense. Fortunately, my hometown has roots, so I don't have to consider this.

? Third, the solution of dirty wine, this is the gratitude of the dutiful son and grandson to those who came to see him off. Every place has its own customs.

? Fourth, make a list, remember the numbers, do things according to the book, and the numbers belong to the numbers to save face. This is a ceremonial activity of filial sons and grandchildren, but it is a daily affair for some institutions.

Fourth, the final farewell and ending

? Scheduled time, scheduled final farewell. Farewell a thousand miles away, meet for a hundred years, and finally say goodbye.

? I'll go to the crematorium and scan the code to confirm it again. I confirmed my father's name through the sealed glass window. It's really the last time. . . . . . Even that wisp of smoke is just a poetic imagination.

V. The wisp of smoke in front of meditation

? This is the most silent waiting, although the midday sun is still no match for the chill. The farewell people hurried to work because of their busy work, and the last ceremony of the journey was to eat a dirty banquet. Relatives and friends go to the villa to eat first, and my brother and I, as dutiful sons, stay quietly and wait for the final conclusion.

? No.1 boiler, from the farewell crowd, looks like an old cadre, two buses, with the words of government agencies printed on the body, and more than a dozen private cars.

? XX courtyard, suona sound, funeral home music, see a yellow storage bag in the courtyard, even a thin coffin, no one crying, a few days later, one person holding a small bamboo hanging a yellow road guide, one person as a companion. Go home too.

? At this moment, the world is silent and the wind blows through the evergreen trees; People are also silent, but what they see and think before they happen, compared with what they feel when they speak, everything is empty after they die.

? This is a difficult thing to write, one is taboo, and the other is especially related to the departure of his father. The scribbled list seems unfriendly to readers, or this is Wang's true character. In contrast, I imagined prosperity, simplicity and loneliness.

The so-called decent, the so-called aftermath, in the final analysis, is it still a confession of stereotyped writing?