Why are most of the Chinese wives married by Americans not beautiful?

Many times, when we praise a woman, we will use words such as "gentle", "beautiful", "elegant" and "cute". The word "talented" is rarely used to praise a woman.

In recent years, I have often thought about a question: Is it a virtue for a woman to have no talent? After consulting relevant classics, I found that this sentence comes from Zhang Dai's "Public Sacrifice to Mrs. Qi" in the Qing Dynasty: "Mei Gong said: A husband with virtue is a talent, and a woman without talent is a virtue. This statement is not accurate." Chen Jiru, late Ming Dynasty Zhi Yu said: "Women who are well-literate and can understand the true meaning are certainly virtuous, but they are rare; others like to read novels, stir up evil intentions, and even dance with literary tricks to do innocent things. It is better not to do anything." Literacy is the best way to stay humble. It can be said that a woman has no talent. "

In ancient times, women were raised in a boudoir before they got married, and they were also raised in a boudoir after they got married. The husband and the children are at home. Women don't go out to work, so untalented women appear to be very well-behaved and sensible. Without knowledge and insight, it is natural for her to obey her husband's orders. In feudal society, this may be the standard of "virtue" and it is also conducive to the ruler's ideological control. But nowadays, women not only have to work, but also pursue social status. Therefore, the saying "a woman's lack of talent is a virtue" cannot fully evaluate a woman's virtue.

An Internet celebrity emotional expert once taught girls: If you don’t know what to talk about with a man when you meet for the first time, just make a look of admiration and say, wow, is that right? Really? marvelous! But the reality is, will truly talented men appreciate such women?

I had dinner with a male classmate a few days ago to discuss the launch of a book club. This man read an amazing amount. He claimed that when he was in college, he knew the placement of each book better than the school librarian. . When it comes to women, he said: "What men admire most is a woman who can confront him, but most women simply do not have the thinking and ability to confront men."

The "confrontation" he talked about, It does not mean to debate with men, but it means that after a woman has read poetry and books, she has the same logical analysis ability as a man, can quickly see the essence of physical objects, and then express her own unique opinions.

I am reminded of a female classmate in high school, Ms. A. Her appearance was only about 6 points, and she looked elegant and refined because of her somewhat classical temperament. Miss A is very good at writing, reciting poems and painting, and writes excellent articles. She is a famous talented girl in the class. Not only did she successfully stay in school to teach during her second year of graduate school, she also ended a five-year long-distance relationship and got married to her handsome boyfriend who had returned from studying abroad. In the photo, her husband hugged her tightly and stared at her with eyes full of love and cherishment. Ms. A majored in jewelry design. At that time, she even designed her wedding ring herself.

Throughout ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, there are many women who are both talented and virtuous. Even if she doesn't look amazing, she can still stay with the best man for a lifetime.

Priscilla Chan, Zuckerberg’s wife, is one of them. With dark skin, a slightly chubby figure, slender and upturned red eyes, and a large and casual hoodie, he looks a bit "sloppy and rustic".

It is said that the two met at a party in 2004, when Zuckerberg was just a poor student. The two hit it off immediately and went on their first date. Priscilla has always been by Zuckerberg's side to support him during his entrepreneurial journey. In 2004, Zuckerberg founded Facebook in his dormitory, and Priscilla became the earliest user. In 2006, Yahoo proposed to acquire Facebook for US$1 billion. At that time, Zuckerberg was under great pressure. It was precisely because of a long talk with Priscilla that he insisted on refusing.

After Facebook became popular, Zuckerberg dropped out of Harvard and concentrated on his career. Priscilla always supported him behind the scenes. At this time, Zuckerberg had already earned the first pot of gold in her life, which allowed her to live comfortably, but she did not stop her progress.

After graduating with a bachelor's degree in biology from Harvard, she worked as a teacher at the prestigious Harker School in San Jose for two years, then enrolled in the medical major at the University of California, San Francisco, and became a student again. And all this stems from her childhood dream of becoming a doctor.

The personality charm exuded by women who have dreams, talents, and hard work is very attractive.

Chiang Kai-shek was extremely romantic before he met Soong Meiling. Let’s look at his rich love history:

At the age of 14, he married Mao Fumei from the same village as his wife through the advice of a matchmaker. Chiang Kai-shek and Mao Fumei had a son, Ching Kuo.

After Chiang Kai-shek separated from Mao Fumei, he married Yao Yecheng as his concubine in 1911. Yao Yecheng was originally a prostitute and lived with Chiang, but the Chiang family did not recognize it and they did not have any children after the marriage, but they adopted her a few years later. Chiang Kai-shek's son Chiang Weiguo was born in Japan. Yao later followed Jiang Weiguo to Taiwan to retire.

Chiang Kai-shek met Chen Jieru in 1919. After being introduced by Zhang Jingjiang and Sun Yat-sen, he and Chen Jieru got married on December 5, 1921. At that time, Chiang Kai-shek was 34 years old and Chen Jieru was 15 years old. Chen also failed to bear children for Chiang, but Chen adopted the daughter of an overseas Chinese and named her Yaoguang.

In 1927, Chiang Kai-shek published a newspaper statement announcing his separation from several ex-wives, and then married Soong Meiling in Shanghai on December 1, 1927. After marriage, she took great care of Soong Meiling and doted on her in every possible way.

In addition to her outstanding English skills, Song Meiling can also speak six languages. She also has considerable attainments in Chinese painting, and she can also write well. It is said that Soong Meiling also played the piano quite well, so Soong Meiling was a person who was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and was Chiang Kai-shek's diplomatic assistant.

Talent makes Soong Meiling irreplaceable, both in life and in Chiang Kai-shek's career.

History has explained the truth for us. "It is virtue for a woman to have no talent" can be understood as restraining her strong edge and remaining humble and low-key in front of people around her, especially in front of her family. Not without knowledge and insight. For a woman, the highest virtue is to "don't let your beauty show off".

There is a kind of beauty, which is to have a temperament as beautiful as an orchid and a talent as fragrant as an immortal.

Note from seniors: In an era where good looks are the rule, beauty and handsomeness are justice, but you have no right to beauties, and I’m afraid you can’t afford ugly ones either?

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