The best love is to love yourself.

On the last day of last month, Ruby Lin and Wallace Huo got married at Bulgari Hotel in Bali, and the whole Chinese world was filled with happiness. Ten years later, a best friend became true love. Although it is a "flash marriage", it is surprisingly harmonious and beautiful.

They have known each other for 10 years and witnessed each other's youth and maturity. They lived the life they wanted, and they succeeded in keeping pace with each other and complementing each other. So that we can walk together at the right time and in the right way.

Although they are both in the entertainment circle, they are all a clear stream in the circle: in the long single day before falling in love, the two lovers have been running themselves in no hurry, polishing themselves and loving themselves well until they shine in all aspects and amaze the other half who is also burning around.

Then why are we so eager for love? Want to seize every opportunity to express love and experience love?

To some extent, we are all orphans.

Indeed, each of us was born with a mother and father, and then we all grew up with the support of our parents.

But, think about it carefully, how accidental it is that our parents gave birth to us.

In the world, if they didn't know each other at the beginning, or met and didn't get married, or got married and didn't combine at that moment, you don't exist at all! This chain can be pushed all the way up. As long as your ancestors didn't combine at a certain moment, there would be no generation that led to your birth, and there would be no you.

From this point of view, each of us is an extremely accidental product in the vast universe.

Perhaps in the short time of childhood, we found a foolproof sense of security in the arms of our parents. However, one day, we will understand that we must bear all the sufferings that fall on us, whether it is illness, mental sadness or social frustration. We can do nothing to love our parents. Finally, when death calls us, no one in the world can stop us from dying.

Therefore, from the perspective of the vast universe, each of us is indeed a helpless orphan, who comes to this world by accident and will inevitably leave. It is precisely because of this fundamental loneliness that we have the value of love and the desire for love.

Everyone is an orphan, so everyone longs for love and pain.

Ruthless loneliness makes love an endless pursuit.

Because of this search, most of us project our energy on others and regard their needs as love. When people say "I love you" affectionately, the subtext is "I need you to love me and care for me in various ways."

But after all, everyone is physically and psychologically independent, and only they can truly feel the closest warmth and coldness. For everyone, he cares most about himself and is most capable of taking care of himself. It is against human survival instinct to ask others to care more about you than about themselves.

A person who doesn't love himself can neither be a lovely person nor really love others.

Why is the best love to love yourself? Because people who know how to love themselves have five abilities to love.

The first is the ability of emotional management. Only when people have this ability can they not lose their temper at will, and can they calm the emotions of people around them and let all conflicts disappear. People who love themselves will have this ability to detect and transform emotions in time.

The second is the ability of nonviolent communication. You can sincerely express your needs, thoughts and feelings in a way that doesn't hurt others, so that you won't suppress your needs and consider the feelings of others. Only those who love themselves have this kind of communication ability.

The third is * * * emotional ability, mutual understanding and mutual support. People who love themselves will know what they don't want them to do to others.

The fourth is to allow ability, respect each other's differences, and allow * * * to grow together. Only those who love themselves can accept their own shortcomings, so they can also accept the shortcomings of others and allow them to be themselves.

The fifth is the ability to influence. What can we do to make each other better and better? It depends on influence. People who love themselves will use their actions to influence each other's growth and make the intimate relationship better and better.

Many single female friends around me feel sad when they can't move their suitcases, when the sewers are blocked, and when life is boring. "If only I had a boyfriend."

But don't expect love to save you until you develop the ability to love yourself. Only you can make your life better.

Don't fall in love for the sake of falling in love until you meet someone you like. Spending time doing what we like, improving our knowledge and self-cultivation, and making progress and breakthroughs in our work can broaden our life and horizons and give us more opportunities to stand side by side with outstanding people.

The ideal love is that you live a colorful life alone and are attracted by a person with the same frequency. He came up to you with a smile and asked, Hi, can I join your life?

Whether you love someone or not, please love yourself.

Persistence in love is the greatest persistence of human beings, and all this begins with self-love and belongs to self-love.