Does anyone know the custom of engagement in Jinan?

The engagement custom in Jinan is generally to hold an engagement ceremony. Usually, this ceremony is mainly to inform relatives and friends that they have decided to be their other half, and they will exchange engagement gifts during this engagement ceremony. In fact, according to the traditional engagement ceremony, the relationship is not confirmed before the engagement, and at this time, they usually don't visit each other's home openly.

It is usually a person who is known to both parties. After the date of engagement is determined through communication, the middleman will usually take the man's parents to the woman's house to discuss the details such as betrothal gifts, banquets and wedding candy, and then set a date to the woman's house for betrothal gifts. These days are usually agreed by both parents.

On the day of engagement, the groom-to-be usually wears an engagement ring, as well as a gift (generally, according to different family conditions, the amount of the gift is different, and some lucky numbers are generally chosen), two red bags, two red belts, two sets of clothes (including a cotton-padded jacket inside the clothes), and the so-called six kinds, which include (six pounds of meat across the board, six fish with scales and six bottles of wine). Six sticks of vermicelli tied up with red lines and six boxes of snacks), in which the woman will return two copies of each kind to the man's house except meat, and the woman's house also needs to prepare something, and the woman should prepare a pair of new shoes for the man, which is also commonly known as the husband's shoes.

The remaining thing is that the woman's family will prepare tea and fruit snacks to entertain relatives and friends, and find a good emcee to adjust the atmosphere on the day of engagement, so that everyone can chat together, and then invite the man and the middleman to a good hotel for dinner. After dinner, the man will give the woman a red envelope and press the table. When she leaves, the woman will return five kinds except meat, two copies of each kind and a part of the down payment to the man as a gift. Then the man should leave soon, and the two sides are not allowed to each other when leaving.