What did Si Qi, the sage, talk about?

A wise man is a social animal, and it is impossible for a person to have no friends in society. Everyone's life is a struggle. In this struggle, if you don't have friends, you are alone, and there are few undefeated people. If you have friends, you are United, and there are few winners.

—— Ji Xianlin's Talking about Life

Interpretation of Mr. Ji Xianlin's life and academic achievements, and his personality and charm are more respected by people.

as everyone, he has superhuman diligence. He said: "I will never change the habits I have developed for decades. Get up at 4: 3 every morning, within five minutes. The ancients said' get up at dawn', which is appropriate for me in summer, and I get up a few hours before dawn in winter. "

He always treats himself and his academic research objectively. He said:

"I have been a teacher all my life, climbing the grid, teaching abroad for 1 years, and at home for 57 years, with no credit and hard work. It is not true that I have made great achievements in the research of humanities and social sciences. It is not true to say that I have no achievements at all. "

His success stems from his "lack of knowledge" spirit. In his own words, "the so-called" deficiency "here refers to" deficiency "and" imperfect place ".

Some people call it "dissatisfaction":

Mr. Lu Xun, who was called the leader of China Cultural Revolution by Mao Zedong, said: "Dissatisfaction is the upward wheel." No matter in natural science or social field, dissatisfaction is an upward wheel. Dissatisfaction promotes social development and human progress.

Because human beings were not satisfied with slash-and-burn cultivation, they invented the iron plow Niu Geng and developed it into today's mechanized farming.

Because human beings are not satisfied with eating and eating, they have the North-South cuisine and colorful food culture.

Because human beings are not satisfied with only moving on the earth, they extend their footprints to the moon, the universe and space ...

But they are also not satisfied. Some people regard it as a driving force for progress, while others regard it as a reason for being jealous of others, but they don't know that the latter can never promote social progress. If you know that you are not satisfied, you must find ways to improve. It's not good to complain about others, which will not only make progress, but will be pessimistic and disappointed because the ideal can't be realized. It's not good to dream of falling pies in the sky all day, because it's not only unrealistic, but also the chance of falling pies in the sky is too small, not to mention hitting you on the head.

Wei Zhi, the most famous remonstrator in the history of China, said, "You can't be proud, you can't control your desires, you can't be happy, and you can't be full of ambition."

Andersen, a Danish fairy tale writer, put it in a very realistic way: "It's totally out of my character to make no progress with some small achievements. Climbing up a ladder is certainly good. As long as there is strength, it means that we must continue to move forward. "

Throughout the ages, at home and abroad, seeing the sage Si Qi can always help others achieve great things.

After Qin Shihuang adopted Shang Yang's political reform proposal, he had the glory of sweeping the six countries and unifying China with a sword.

Napoleon asked the saints that with Napoleon's military life, he helped build a huge empire. Churchill's extensive concentration of people's wisdom gave Churchill the confidence to be calm and tear up the fascist nightmare.

These are all examples of "seeing Si Qi" and striving for great cause.

think about how we view other people's opinions in real life.

WTO guide: When you meet a person with both ability and political integrity, you want to look up to him; when you meet a person without virtue, you should reflect on your own shortcomings.

This is what Confucius said, and it is also the motto of Confucian self-cultivation and moral cultivation in later generations. "Seeing Si Qi" means that a good example will shock you and drive you to catch up; To "turn your back on yourself" is to look back and check your words and deeds.

"Meet Si Qi" is to learn from others' strengths in all aspects. But we can't learn rigidly and follow suit rigidly.

when you find the advantages of others, especially their specialties, don't rush to learn, you must first reflect on whether it suits you. There are differences between eastern and western cultures, and there are specialties in the arts. Westerners have blue eyes and orientals have black hair. It is not appropriate for Pan Changjiang to play basketball, and it is not humorous for Jay Chou to play skits. By the same token, if the advantages of others are not suitable for you, you will not become an advantage when you learn, but you will be laughed at and even hurt yourself. There is a fable that everyone knows. Mantis learns to sing from crickets. Crickets want Mantis to drink morning dew to moisten his throat every day. As a result, Mantis died of hunger instead of learning his song. It can be seen how important it is to choose an appropriate learning object and an appropriate advantage to "Si Qi". This requires us to deeply examine ourselves, find our weaknesses, and then strengthen them purposefully, so as to truly achieve the "qi" level.

There are people who understand "seeing the sage Si Qi, but not bowing to yourself" from the opposite side:

Zixia Mi was a courtier of Wei Linggong in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, and was very loved by Wei Linggong.

At that time, there was a law in Weiguo that anyone who used the monarch's car without approval would be tortured by cutting off his feet. On one occasion, when Zixia Mi heard that his mother was ill, he was anxious to go back to visit her. Because of Wei Linggong's love for him, he pretended to go home to visit her in Wei Linggong's car with Wei Linggong's permission. Later, someone denounced this matter. Wei Linggong not only did not add to the crime, but also was moved to admire and said, "Zixia Mi is really a dutiful son. Because he was worried about his mother's illness, he forgot that he would be sentenced to beheading."

On another occasion, Zixia Mi accompanied Wei Linggong to the orchard. Zixia Mi picked a ripe peach, ate two bites, felt sweet and fragrant, and gave it to Wei Linggong. Wei Linggong felt very comfortable at the moment and said, "Zixia Mi really loves me. When he eats something delicious, he will think of me, reluctant to eat it, and leave it to me."

Later, Zixia Mi fell out of favor for some reason, and what was praised by Wei Linggong before became a reason for reproach in Wei Linggong's mind: "This Zixia Mi has always been misbehaving and arrogant! He once drove my car home without authorization, and once stuffed me with peaches that he had eaten and stained with his saliva! "

It's ridiculous to think that the thinking mode of a generation of emperors is just like the injured animal below:

According to the fable, a fox slipped while crossing a fence, but fortunately, it caught a rose to keep it from falling, but its foot was pricked by the rose and it bled a lot. The injured fox complained to the rose and said, "You shouldn't have. I asked you for help. Why did you hurt me instead?" Rose replied, "Fox! You are wrong, the thorn on my body didn't grow when you caught me, but you were stabbed by me by carelessness! "

no matter whether it is a lower animal or a higher animal in nature-human beings, there will be differences in things like "going against the rules".

despicable person, impose the fault on others. A noble man perfects himself.

Professor Ji Xianlin's understanding of "vanity and sense of honor" has been vague. When he realized the subtle difference between the two, he immediately corrected what he had said. He once said:

"vanity is the key for me to change from inferiority to self-confidence, and never to study hard. Is it vanity? Or vanity? I think it is the latter. Vanity should not be belittled. Wang Zhuangyuan's commendation of students may be entirely accidental. He would never have imagined that a 15-year-old boy whom he called "the younger brother" was changed into another person because of this accident. I will never forget Mr. Shoupeng Wang. " Later, he corrected it in the article Vanity and Honor. He said:

"vanity" refers to the envy of high-ranking officials and their high reputation. Men dream of "reading at night with tea", while women dream of Prince Charming, and finally sit on top of thousands of people, while others stumble at their feet. If you can't reach the right path, you will go the wrong way, or even resort to deceit, blowing and patting at the same time. This is the performance of vanity, which harms both yourself and others, and it is not good at all. Honor is another matter. A person who has made achievements in a certain aspect shall be commended and honored by relevant persons. This kind of honor is not earned by the camp, it is completely natural. This is qualitatively different from vanity. I was commended by Wang Zhuangyuan in Beiyuan High School, which belongs to this category. It is inappropriate to use the word "vanity". Vanity can only cause trouble, and honor can be beautiful. "

Ji Lao's rigorous demeanor and magnanimity are well worth learning.

◆ Don't be afraid to face all kinds of troubles. The wise boss Ji will solve it by "going his own way". As the saying goes, "people are afraid of famous pigs and strong ones." Ji Xianlin said, "It is beyond the comprehension of those who don't experience the situation that a little false name can cause me such trouble. The trouble is complicated, and I can't figure it out myself. "

first, attend the meeting. Some meetings have little to do with the attendees. But you have to attend. It is said that this involves the specifications of the meeting.

He said, "Although I have so many troubles; But I'm not overwhelmed by trouble. I go my own way as usual and do my own work. I have always been concerned about academic developments at home and abroad. I take pains to encourage my students to read academic journals related to their research work at home and abroad. Generally, it is browsing, and the key points must be read carefully. Innovation is the key to learning. If you don't even know the new capitals at home and abroad, where will your new ones start? "

Actually, most people have some troubles. You might as well learn the mentality of dealing with troubles in the school season.

sacrificing other people's time is tantamount to killing people for money. For those things that "trouble" yourself, get out if you can, and get out if you can't, and do what you should do.

who doesn't have trouble in life? It's just different in form, one way or another.

try to get rid of people in the workplace, which often happens.

It's often helpless with a wry smile, which annoys anyone ...

For example, it's almost time to get off work, and my colleague suddenly asks, "Help me sort out this material, I need it for the meeting tomorrow afternoon! I'm in trouble now, and I really don't have time. " Hurriedly handed me a pile of black and white, smiling with a grimace: "you are the best, bye!" See you tomorrow. "

Another example is: "Oh, it's too late. My boyfriend invited me to dinner, and there is still a little finishing touch. Help me get it done today. Invite you to dinner later. " I can't say anything, but I turned around and left a big beach and ran away.

a lady in a company always encounters such embarrassment. She has a lovely baby face and is a natural optimist. When she joined the company, she was open-minded, studious, enthusiastic and diligent, and willing to help others, which was very popular with everyone. But after a long time, she encountered the sequela of "enthusiasm": some colleagues always asked her for help to "do odd jobs". Trivial events frequently hit her, and sometimes she came home from work and had to work overtime for others. In the eyes of some colleagues, she has become a docile "sheep" who won't say no.

she has made up her mind more than once that she can't help next time. Even prepared many good reasons for this, but it's not good to swallow the words on your lips and suddenly refuse others, right? This made her very helpless.

As a result, every day at 5 o'clock in the afternoon, a man calls her on time. Soon, my colleagues smiled and asked, "Talking about boyfriends?" She smiled without a word, pretending to pack her things in a hurry. One day, when another material was handed in at the same time, she replied awkwardly and generously: "There may be no time to help in the future!" " . Everyone knows that she is no longer embarrassed to let her "run errands".

If you can get rid of being often used by lazy and smooth people, there is nothing to be ashamed of by making up some short stories to refuse them, which cannot be associated with telling lies.

This is a wise and respected Ji Lao. At some symposiums, he is often "in Cao Ying's heart and in Han Dynasty".