Is it fate or doomed love?

My acquaintance with my husband was really destiny takes a hand. It happened that he broke up with his predecessor, came to Hunan from Guangdong and found a job at will. I also went to that company for some reasons, so we met. It wasn't long before I broke up with my predecessor. Probably two people without love will attract each other more, and we are together under his diligent efforts.

When we were together, he described many details of our marriage to me and told me how to marry me home after taking photos!

So the two of us live together and live a leisurely life. Apart from having no money, he later changed jobs several times. He is actually quite capable, but he can't be wronged, but who can't be wronged at work? At that time, when I was young, I thought it would be better to be happy at work, so I agreed. But then he felt that the pressure of living here was still too great, and his parents wanted him to go to Guangdong to develop. After repeated weighing, he went back and we started a long-distance relationship.

My parents don't want me to marry far away, because it's too far away. Naturally, they didn't agree to this marriage, but in the end, they couldn't stand my soft touch and agreed, because I thought my husband was really ok, so I resigned and came to his city. Life is also quite happy.

I should have got married at the end of 17, because I had to get pregnant early. The day his parents knew I was pregnant, my husband and I came back early to wait for them. When they came back, they slammed the door. They were not as happy as I expected, but came to ask me to be caring and attentive, but they soon got bored. His father entered the room without saying a word, and his mother came over and said, pregnant? I am so happy, but I really didn't hear her happy feeling at all! At that time, I was stupid and didn't take it to heart. Although I was a little unhappy, I soon disappeared. After all, I have never felt this way before. After all, I always get along well with his parents!

After pregnancy, I also quit my job to raise a baby at home because of the unstable fetal heart. My mother called me and said that since she was pregnant, the wedding would be advanced or the baby would be born at the end of the year. She asked me what his parents meant. But his parents didn't say anything about the wedding, so it was ridiculous that I took the initiative to bring up the wedding in advance. I said, my mother said, if you don't have time for a wedding on National Day, my parents will arrange it for us at my house. Having said that, I am not a door-to-door son-in-law. How can you have a wedding at my mother's house? I absolutely don't want to! I didn't expect his mother to agree immediately, saying, well, let's do it at your house. You have many relatives there, and we have no experience. We will ignore them in the future, but we will do it at your home. Hehe, does my family have any experience? It's just that my mother said that marrying my daughter would give me a sense of ceremony, so the wedding was arranged by our family from beginning to end, even the wedding was arranged by our family, and their family was only responsible for attending the wedding day. My mother is in poor health and asked for leave half a month in advance to get married. On the afternoon of the wedding, she was too tired to move in bed. In the afternoon, my father-in-law got as drunk as a fiddler. This is my wedding!

So at first, my husband and I described the wedding as gorgeous, and the scene where the scenery picked me up never happened. Instead, I took a bus to the hotel to pick them up and go back to their parents' home for a wedding. The wedding of my life was spent with regret.

After the marriage, my husband went back to Guangzhou to work, and I took care of the baby at my parents' home alone.

At the end of the year, the amniotic fluid broke in the middle of the night the next day after my husband came back, and the expected date of delivery was advanced by half a month. My mother, who is still at work, came to see me in the hospital in the middle of the night, and my father, who works far away from home, followed. While looking for a driver to pick up my mother from the company, she complained that my mother didn't ask for leave in advance to serve me. How can we two children have an experience? When our family was in a mess, my husband's parents still had good dreams.

As soon as the child was born, he was sent to the incubator because he was too anxious. My grandfather died on the third day after I gave birth to the child. My parents have to arrange his funeral and have no time to take care of me and the children. My mother suggested that my mother-in-law come and take care of me for a few days, and my husband called my mother-in-law. I heard my father-in-law talking loudly on the other end of the phone, meaning that they all took annual leave after half a month. Why do you call my mother-in-law to wait on me and scold my husband at this time? My husband was short of breath, so I didn't let them take care of him when he was pregnant. I spent most of my time at my parents' house and didn't come after giving birth. Now it's really a shame for me to let him take care of me for a week because of family affairs. Later, my mother-in-law came, stayed for a few days, and nursed her children at midnight every day. Soon after falling asleep, she woke me up for breakfast at six or seven in the morning, and did this for three days without changing the mode. It turned out that the child was told to sleep in bed after drinking milk. As a result, the mother-in-law insisted on holding him to sleep when she came, so she left later, and the child developed the habit of sleeping with her arms. Well, actually, it's best not to come.

When they came back, the child was full moon. Just after the full moon, they were in a hurry to take us to Changde, our hometown, to set wine. It's too cold. I naturally don't want to go that far when I first came out of the month. As a result, their family was unified and they had to go! So, I took my son, who just turned one month, by car all day. It's really not an exaggeration. One day I drove to their hometown, and the next day I went to the hotel to set wine non-stop. It's cold just after the month, and I'm not healthy after drinking. My husband gave me a lot of frustration with a hot towel and stayed in my hometown for a week because they didn't have it in their hometown. I took my son and my mother-in-law to sleep in a one-meter-two bed, not to mention how uncomfortable I was in those days. I couldn't sleep well at night, and I had to follow them to visit relatives and friends during the day. I didn't take it seriously at all. I lost my temper with my husband several times in their hometown, and my husband naturally stayed with me until I got home, but my mother-in-law nagged me to go back to Guangzhou in a few days, saying that I would start working soon and didn't want to take time off, but my husband was so bad to me that my mother-in-law was soft and hard. I have no choice. I naturally agreed. As a result, I was blocked by a car from Hunan for more than 20 hours and went to Dongguan. During the period, my husband was afraid that I couldn't stand it, so I took the emergency channel, so the problem of low back pain probably fell at that time!

Later, they went to work, and I took care of the baby at home alone. Living for two months is really boring, so I want to take my baby back to my parents' house for a while. My husband knew that I was wronged here and agreed. Since then, I have been running around my parents' house, staying in one place for a while, and it doesn't matter to me to take the high-speed train alone with my baby.

I thought life would be so dull. As a result, my in-laws and husband always went out without telling me last year. I was suspicious at first, but I didn't ask much. By the time I knew it, I had reached the point where I wanted to sell my house and car. So I began to know the reasons for a series of reactions after pregnancy, so it all happened before I got married. I just hid it. No wonder my mother gave a hundred thousand bride price and their family agreed. Because my mother thinks that I am married far away, and the other party doesn't know the root of the matter, so this 10 million is to protect me and leave me the last way out.

My father-in-law's reason for the debt is that the joint venture failed, but this is only my father-in-law's word. At the beginning, my husband asked my father-in-law to come out of the factory, and the two fathers and sons opened a small factory alone, but my father-in-law refused to live or die. How can he open a factory with others now? My mother-in-law doesn't know what my father-in-law is doing outside. She never cares about family affairs, even my father-in-law cares about his salary. My husband couldn't even manage him, and we didn't know where the factory was, so we dragged my husband to help him borrow usury, and his credit card was maxed out. He told me the truth after he found out the seriousness of the situation. After I calmed down, I asked my husband to sum up all the loans under his name and read them. Only then did I know that it was as high as 700,000 to 800,000, because his father had always promised to return it two months later and had been drawing cakes for him. Because my father-in-law is a factory director and has some financial ability, my husband also believes in what he said.

My mother-in-law asked her about her father-in-law after work, but she still didn't want to say anything. She still said you don't have to worry about it. After I told her about the debt my husband owed by his father's various paintings, she still looked unbelievable! This is the mode of getting along with their family! I asked my mother-in-law to calculate her debt, and the result was as high as hundreds of thousands! Together, they owe more than one million! Not to mention my father-in-law, since the accident, there has been no truth in his mouth! Only later, I didn't want to pursue it. I find it meaningless to pursue it. It is most important to fill it as soon as possible. So we sold the house, because without the land certificate, we couldn't sell it at a good price, and the result was a drop in the bucket.

Without a house, his parents rented a house and installed a new water heater, gas cooker and range hood. Later, I learned that he repainted the wall and changed a fingerprint lock for the rental house. I was almost mad at it. What time is it now? I'm still enjoying life! I think that if you have some money, you should pay off your debts as soon as possible. As long as everyone Qi Xin works together in Qixin, you can always pay it back soon! With this belief, when my mother knew that this made me ready for divorce, I refused and wanted to bear it together! But what his parents did really made me beg to differ!

Later, my husband and I left some money to sell the house. My husband wants to learn barbecue, and maybe he can earn more money. I forgot to mention that my husband was introduced by my father-in-law to work in the factory. Every day, he comes back from work dressed in dirty clothes. The clothes he washed were really darker than the water in the sewer, and his nose was covered with dust. My mother always wondered why his father, at least a factory director, would arrange such a job for his son! Therefore, my mother has always wanted my husband to change jobs. This kind of work is bad for health. Don't spoil your health when you are young. So my husband resigned, so we took our son to my sister's side, and my husband and my brother-in-law went to learn barbecue, but in the end, business was not good and partnership was not good. Later, my husband said that he had taken a fancy to a tea shop, but his parents disagreed, thinking that only working in a factory was the most stable and did not support us to start a business. So we only brushed out tens of thousands of credit cards and transferred to a tea shop. It happens that my dad has a construction site here, and everything in the shop is paid by my dad, and his parents don't even look at it!

We started to do business with our son, thinking about making more money to pay off debts, making milk tea during the day and selling barbecues outside at night. His parents came to help for two hours after work, which was really hard. My mother volunteered to take her children back to her hometown, and we made a lot of money here. Although she is desperate, her son has never left me since he was born, but there is no way but to do so.

In less than two months, my mother called and said that it was too pitiful to let the children see their mother all the time. When my son returned to his hometown, his personality changed a lot and he became timid. It makes sense to take over with his parents, and I can't stand being separated from my son all the time. So I thought about discussing the problem with his parents when his son came over, because my husband and I both lived in the attic above the store where groceries used to be kept, and it was inconvenient to get up and down, especially when the children came.

Then I went back to pick up my son alone. When I get home, I really don't want to go back to that sad place and live a messy life. Wechat had a quarrel with her husband. I really don't want to insist. I want a divorce. My husband comforted me and drove directly to Hunan to pick us up at midnight.

In the following days, we opened a shop with our son, but we didn't do the barbecue. My husband and I thought it over and over again, and decided to let my in-laws move in with us, so that they could occasionally take the children to cook a meal when we were busy after work, but later we were all wrong. There are more contradictions after cohabitation.

Life is like this. All kinds of debt collection calls are bursting all day long, and all kinds of threats and inducements. So as long as there is profitable money in the store, except for my son's milk powder diapers, I will take out a loan, and occasionally I really can't ask his parents for help. Sometimes a little, sometimes not. I asked again. His father said directly, don't push me, I have to die! Oh, that's ridiculous!

What about the mother-in-law My son is also conniving. My son is the most rude to her, and he wants to play mahjong as soon as he is free during the holiday. Once on Saturday night, my husband was not feeling well and went to the clinic for an intravenous drip. After we finished eating, my mother-in-law said to take her out to play, but her son refused to go with her and told her to go away. She just left and went to play mahjong. I took care of the baby alone. On Saturday, I was already very busy and my son was crying and angry. Cooking is also perfunctory. My son is not close to her at all. She also said that we adults taught him. That's ridiculous! Even my father-in-law told me that other people's children were taken to the park by grandma. Nobody asked you why you didn't bring your grandson when you played cards! Of course, they are almost identical. My father-in-law has been taking care of him for less than 24 hours since he was born, and now he is two and a half years old.

I don't care about being with them. The current state is that if you are willing to help, you can help. If you don't want to help or beg, we will pay back the money slowly. Because it's in my husband's name, I can't help it. And the credit card I owe in this store, we'll figure it out ourselves. Take it out if you have money. If you don't take it, you won't be forced. Patience!

I think the days pass slowly. My two-and-a-half-year-old child was sent to school. My husband found a job outside and earned more money. It's cold, and I'm too busy to look after the store alone, and I feel that life has hope again.

Tell me more about my husband. My husband once heard from a friend that there was a hotel with good business and wanted to transfer it to 200 thousand. He said he was going to move, but after I talked to him seriously, he also knew that the situation at home would be abandoned. Later, he told me that he wanted to take the B2 driver's license, so his salary would be higher, and he liked the feeling of traveling while driving. I said, what about the kid and me? He said, just follow my sports car. Many couples are like this. The child left his hometown and took it to your mother. I said, I don't want to take his own children, and later my mother said she agreed to let him take the exam. After all, there are many roads in the future. I thought it was enough to persuade him to find a job without running long distances after the exam. After all, we hope to get a higher salary after the exam. Knowing that we had no money, my mother promised to give 50 yuan for the New Year.

Then last night, my husband suddenly told me that he wanted to borrow money from his friends to open a factory, and everyone invested tens of thousands of dollars. I didn't agree. He still owes a lot of money. The children grew up and began to borrow money again. Really bet on all our exits. If we lose, it will be really fatal! I really don't want to live like this anymore. I said if you do, let's get a divorce. As a result, my husband said that he didn't want to work like this all his life, and there was no hope. He must do it as long as his friend sees it tomorrow. If he wants a divorce, respect me. .....

Now he is asleep and I am awake. ......

I know he is not willing to be mediocre. Maybe we have different values.

In this dead of night, what should I do to sort out the souvenirs of death in recent years?