The children brought back the small cards issued by the hotel, and the parents became anxious.

When my son came back from winter camp and was packing his clothes for laundry, he took out a card in his pocket, a small advertisement issued by the hotel.

On the first day, he lived with two brothers who were in fourth and fifth grade. The three boys thought it was very fun. The brothers told him that it was for massage. The son said it was fun and kept it in his bag. . To be honest, when I saw this picture with the revealing three-point-dressing picture and the explicit advertising slogan, I thought it had appeared in a room of a group of little boys...

Emotions emerged and anxiety began: "The hotel management is terrible. Most of the children come to participate in winter camp. Why are there such advertisements? Do the coaches know this situation? Why don't they prevent it or stop it? Oops, children If you think it’s funny, how should you guide it; what should you do to educate children about sex, etc.”

As soon as I think about it, children will always enter the society as they grow older, and they will constantly look for external reasons. Can it solve the underlying problem? It is human nature to have such an idea. How to look at this problem and solve it? It is impossible for parents to put their children into a vacuum hood.

There are more than three solutions to any problem! Since I didn’t know how to guide, I asked experienced teachers for advice, so I immediately edited the information and sent it to the Psychological Workers Association group for advice, looking forward to the teachers’ answers on how to guide.

A few minutes later, a teacher replied. There was no answer he was expecting, but he woke up in an instant.

I was relieved. It turned out that I was too anxious and defined this as a problem from an adult perspective!

I once read an article that a 4-year-old child likes to bite his nails and tear off the skin of his hands. He will tear it off whenever he sees a little bit of skin on his hands. Parents think this is a problem. Whenever the child bites Intervening by hitting, scolding and yelling with fingers has no effect, and even tying the hands is used. The consequences can be imagined and have a serious psychological impact on the children.

If you think it's a problem, it will be!

When you encounter a problem, it is the best time to solve it!

Everyone knows that when dealing with their own children's "problems", they will fall into a blind spot.

Fortunately, I understand that unscientific methods will aggravate the "problem".

Just like when you encounter a problem, if you have been struggling with how to guide your child and think it is a problem, you will continue to explore why the child is kept in your pocket? Why bring it back? Why do you find it fun? On the contrary, constant exploration will strengthen the child's impression of the card and make him more curious.

In the process from thinking this is a problem to actually becoming a problem, parents focus and magnify their children's "problems" and become more and more anxious, which does not help solve the problem.

Oddly enough, we are all very good at seeing the "problems", those bright spots in a child's growth; dressing oneself, doing homework, helping with housework, being polite, independent, adaptable, etc. , but not easy to see!

Everyone will encounter problems, so don’t worry too much. When you think it is a problem or you are not sure:

Stop and take a deep breath. Are our words, actions, etc. correct? Good for kids? If there is no better solution, it is recommended:

1. Consult professionals.

2. Read relevant books.

3. Pay attention to articles that focus on similar issues and have successful experience in handling them.