Happy marriages are all the same, and unhappy marriages are all different.

1. You are responsible for making money to support the family, and I am responsible for being beautiful.

My former friend Zhang Jia suddenly called me and cried: My husband beat me, and I want to come to Shenzhen.

Zhang Jia is a tall, fair-skinned and beautiful girl with a gentle personality. She used to work as a clerk in the sales department. Her family helped her find a human resources manager who worked in a hotel. The two fell in love and got married after a year. After Zhang Jia became pregnant, she resigned and went home to be a full-time housewife. We all envy that she has a good life and doesn't have to work as hard as us.

Zhang Jia takes care of the housework diligently every day, takes care of all the housework, and keeps the house in order and arranged properly. Taking care of her husband and children, honoring her parents-in-law, and trying to be a good wife and mother, her life is monotonous and busy.

Zhang Jia devoted herself wholeheartedly to her family. Her family was her whole world, and she gradually stopped contacting us. Half a year ago, she found out that her husband was having an affair, so she got into a fight with her husband, and he actually beat her.

She immediately ran back to her parents' home to complain, but her parents disapproved and advised her: All men have problems. As long as he doesn't talk about divorce, you can live a good life. Did you find a man with such good conditions after your divorce? What's more, you don't have the ability to support yourself now. Zhang Jia can't accept her husband's cheating and her family's incompetence, and wants to escape from her hometown.

We were all shocked when we saw Zhang Jia. After not seeing each other for several years, Zhang Jia seemed to have changed. The Zhang Jia in front of us: wide and fat, covered with brown spots, and depressed.

We all advised her to get a divorce, because if there is domestic violence the first time, there will be a second time. Don't waste your energy and time on a hopeless person. Suggest that she find a job first, make herself independent, and start living her own life again.

If a woman is usually too capable in marriage, her family will get used to your ability, your ability will spoil them, and they will not care about you as a person. All your efforts will become natural, especially when you have no financial ability, they will look down on you even more.

Women should not lose themselves for men after marriage and become free nannies. No matter at any time, women still have to work and have the ability to make money. No matter how much or how little money they have, only women who can make money have status in the family. Women who spend their own money are the most beautiful women.

Don’t believe that you are responsible for making money and supporting the family, and I am responsible for being beautiful. Women can only love themselves, enrich themselves, improve themselves, and make themselves better and stronger. Only when you have the feeling of being depressed after leaving a man, but also have the ability to live well after leaving him, will a man care about you, and only then will your family think highly of you.

2. Husband and wife are not enemies, and life is not a battlefield

I heard from a classmate: Xiao Qing, a manager, is divorced.

Xiaoqing is the pride of our classmates and was our monitor when we were studying. After graduation, I worked as a human resources manager in a company. I was decisive and strong in my work. Because she was busy with her career, she didn't get married until she was twenty-eight. Her family anxiously mobilized relatives to help her introduce a partner. A neighbor introduced her to a man who drove a bus in Shenzhen. Both of them were older youths, and they got married after being together for half a year.

Although they lived apart in two places after marriage. But there are constant conflicts and quarrels. Xiaofei likes to joke, but Xiaoqing has to analyze every word carefully. He will care about everything and argue about winning or losing. He even tells his parents some chat records between the couple and complains to his parents' family. , causing the two families to be filled with smoke.

In life, Xiaoqing is like a queen. She has the final say in everything at home. Xiaofei’s salary must be handed in every month and she never fails to do housework. One time, Xiao Fei was chatting with a bunch of neighbors, and Xiao Qing shouted at Xiao Fei to go to work. Although Xiao Fei is completely obedient to Xiao Qing, Xiao Qing often magnifies Xiao Fei's shortcomings and fails to see Xiao Fei's advantages. She always looks aloof and cool and never cares about Xiao Fei.

During the Spring Festival, Xiaofei said a joke in the chat, and Xiaoqing decided that Xiaofei was wrong and asked Xiaofei to apologize. He also asked Xiaofei to write a guarantee and have all his relatives sign it. Although it was raining heavily at the time, Xiaoqing still forced Xiaofei to find his relatives to sign.

Slowly, Xiaofei felt exhausted mentally and physically, and sooner or later Xiaoqing would drive him crazy. The strong-willed Xiao Qing became increasingly dissatisfied with Xiao Fei. After listening to Xiao Qing's complaints too much, her parents began to hate Xiao Fei more and more and forced Xiao Qing to divorce, so the two agreed to divorce.

It is easy to fall in love but difficult to get along. Marriage is originally a matter between two people. If parents interfere too much in their marriage, it becomes a matter between two families. Women should not be too sober in marriage. They can be confused about small things, but they should be serious about big things. If Xiaoqing's queen-like character does not change, no one will dare to approach her. For a person who does not know how to reflect, the road in life will only become narrower and narrower.

In a marriage relationship, husband and wife are not enemies, and life is not a battlefield. Women, there is no need to fight to win or lose in everything, and there is no need to let your parents worry about everything. A family must be run by two people working together. Only by cherishing each other, respecting each other, and seeking common ground while reserving differences can happiness last forever.

3. Love needs to be constantly warmed up, and marriage needs to be managed

Ahua and Amin work in the same company, and they are in free love. Ahua has been married for 15 years, and there is a She loves her husband and her well-behaved and sensible son.

When they first got married, A Ming never did housework because most men in Guangdong were chauvinistic and did not do housework. Ah Hua discussed with A Ming: We both have to go to work, and both of us should do the housework.

A Ming said: Aren’t all housework done by women? Ahua said: Yes, but now is a new society. You have to go to work, and I have to go to work. You are tired from work, and I am tired too. You can choose between cooking and washing clothes.

A Ming couldn’t cook, so he had to do laundry. So, Ahua was responsible for cooking, and Amin was responsible for washing clothes. Ah Hua often invited A Ming to help him when cooking and taught him how to cook. At first, A Ming’s cooking was very difficult to eat. Ah Hua was not angry and taught him patiently. He also kept praising A Ming for his delicious cooking. Ming likes to cook more and more. Now, the food cooked by A Ming is more delicious than that cooked by A Hua.

They run and exercise together every morning, cook together after get off work, do housework together, and take a walk together as a family after meals. On weekends, Xiaohua does the cleaning, Amin cooks, and his son washes the dishes.

Although he is nearly 40 years old, Ah Hua is still charming and his complexion and skin are better than before marriage. Their life is getting better and better. The family often travels abroad and bought two bags in Shenzhen. suite.

Some women complain that men are lazy and don’t do housework. In fact, it is all caused by women. If you want to be a good wife and mother, take care of all the housework, and men will be happy and free. Once a habit becomes natural, it will be difficult to change it in the future. The two of them should have made an appointment when they first got married. Since they were destined to become a family, they should live a good life together, discuss everything, face and solve problems together. A happy life requires contributions from both parties. It requires two people to work together so that the marriage relationship can be stable.

In life, we must learn to change for love, understand each other, and make progress together so that we can grow together. Only if *** can run the family well together will the career develop better.

4. Good marriages are all the same, but bad marriages are all kinds of strange things

I once watched a dating show. A woman in her forties was in high spirits. She accompanied her daughter on a blind date. The woman wore a well-fitting suit. She wears a long white dress and has glossy black hair. She is slimmer than her daughter and full of fairy spirit. Everyone curiously asked her how she maintained it, and she happily introduced that after she got married, her husband raised her as a daughter and never let her do housework... A woman who is pampered by a man is the happiest.

Whether a marriage is happy or not can be seen from a person's mental outlook. A happy marriage is like a woman's fresh food, as if time has left no trace on her body. No matter what age you are, you still have an elegant temperament and a soft body.

An unhappy marriage is the greatest harm to a woman. An unhappy marriage will consume her enthusiasm, patience, and beauty, and eventually turn them into "yellow-faced women" or "tigresses" that men despise. ".

In a happy marriage, each person should respect each other's interests and hobbies.

It is the most absurd idea to think that two people can have the same thoughts, the same judgments, and the same desires. ——Molwa Law

Happy marriages are all the same, and unhappy marriages are all kinds of weird, it just depends on how they manage them.

Men are superior to women, queenism, and male chauvinism are extremely wrong and harmful. No matter how high your status is in society, in the family, everyone’s status is equal, and she is just yours Wife, you are just her husband. Only by respecting each other, helping each other, and tolerating each other can we grow together.

Mature people in marriage will recognize themselves and understand each other. The two understand and consider each other. Seek common ground while reserving minor differences, respect each other's lifestyle, maintain equal independence, learn from each other's strengths, and work together to maintain family harmony.

Marriage is like a small boat, and the man and woman on the boat are the helmsmen. Only when two people work together to row in one direction can the boat move forward. The various accidents encountered in life are like the ups and downs of the waves of the sea. Only by experiencing the waves together can the relationship last longer.

Marriage is a book, the first chapter is poetry, and the rest is plain prose. ——Bafali Nix

Love can be romantic and vigorous. Marriage is the oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in life. It cannot be dull anymore. Only by being dull can water flow. Maybe a dull marriage makes people feel boring, just like boiled water, but you can add seasonings to the boiled water. What do you want to drink? The taste depends on what you add? If you add sugar, the glass of water will become sweet; if you add bitterness, the glass of water will become bitter and difficult to swallow.