Etiquette classic story

Classic story of etiquette 1 52 BC1In the spring of, Confucius learned that his students had been ordered by the king of Lu and went to Luoyang, Kyoto, in the Zhou Dynasty to pay homage to the emperor. He thought it was a good opportunity to learn etiquette knowledge from Laozi, the guardian of Tibetan history in Zhou Dynasty, so he got Lu's permission and went with the palace. The day after Confucius arrived in Kyoto, he went to the Tibetan History Museum on foot to visit Laozi. Lao Zi, who is writing the Tao Te Ching, heard that the world-famous Kong Qiu came to consult, so he quickly put down his knife and pencil and adjusted his clothes. Confucius saw a healthy old man coming out of the gate, thinking it was Laozi. He hurried forward and respectfully paid tribute to one of Lao Zi's disciples. After entering the hall, Confucius bowed again before sitting down. Laozi asked Confucius why he came. Confucius left his seat and replied, "I have little knowledge and know nothing about the ancient' etiquette system', so I specially asked the teacher." Seeing that Confucius was so sincere, Lao Tzu expressed his views in detail. After returning to Lu, Confucius' students asked him to explain Laozi's knowledge. Confucius said, "I am a good teacher, knowing the past and the present, the source of rites and music, and the return of virtue." At the same time, I praise Laozi as an example. He said: "bird, I know it can fly;" Fish, I know it can swim; Beast, I know it can run. I can weave a net to catch a running beast, I can tie a swimming fish to a hook to catch it, and I can shoot a flying bird with a good arrow. As for the dragon, I can't know how it took the wind and cloud to heaven. Laozi, it's still evil! "

Etiquette classic story 2 was moved out of Meng Changjun, and King Qi Min and Chu and Wei together destroyed the Song State and became more arrogant. He was bent on annexing the nations and came to heaven himself. Gal, governors of all countries are not satisfied with him; Yan, especially the northern part of Qi, was bullied by Qi and wanted revenge. Yan is a big country. Later, it spread to kuài, and after listening to the bad guys' ideas, he actually learned the legendary method of Yao Shun's abdication and gave the throne to Xiangguozi. General Yan and Prince Ping attacked the son, and the state of Yan was in chaos. In the name of pacifying the civil strife in Yan State, Qi State entered Yan State, and Yan State almost perished. Later, the soldiers and civilians of Yan made the prince the monarch, rose up and drove the army of Qi out.

Prince Ping acceded to the throne, that is. He made up his mind to make Yan strong. He made up his mind to find talents to govern the country, but he didn't find the right person. He was reminded that Guo Kun, an old minister, was quite knowledgeable, so it was better to ask him.

Yan Zhaowang personally went to see Guo Kun and said to him, "I will never forget the humiliation of Qi invading us during the civil strife in our country. But now Yan's national strength is weak, and it is not yet possible to avenge it. If a wise man comes to avenge me, I would rather wait on him. Can you recommend such talents? "

Guo Kun touched his beard and said thoughtfully, "It's hard for me to recommend ready-made talents. Please allow me to tell a story first. " Then, he told a story:

In ancient times, there was a monarch who liked swift horses. He sent people everywhere to look for it, but he couldn't find it for three years. A courtier found a precious swift horse somewhere far away and told the monarch that he could buy it back by giving him 1200 gold. The monarch was very happy and sent his courtiers to buy it with 1200 gold. Unexpectedly, when the courtiers arrived, Maxima had died of illness. The courtiers thought it was not good to go back empty-handed, so they took out half the gold they brought and bought the horse bones back.

The courtiers presented the horse bones to the monarch, who was furious and said, "I want you to buy a live horse." Who asked you to spend money to buy back the useless horse bones? " The courtier said unhurriedly, "People have heard that you are willing to spend money to buy a dead horse, and you are afraid that no one will send a live horse?"

You presided over the skepticism and no longer blamed the courtiers. As soon as the news spread, everyone thought that the monarch really loved swift horses. Within a year, several swift horses were sent from all directions.

After telling this story, Guo Kun said, "Your Majesty must be thirsty for talents. It is better to try me as a horse bone."

Yan Zhaowang was greatly encouraged. After he came back, he immediately sent someone to build a very exquisite house for Guo Kun to live in and worshipped Guo Kun as his teacher. When the world's talents heard that they were sincerely recruiting talents, they ran to Yan to inquire. One of the most famous is Zhao. Yan Zhaowang worshipped Le Yi as Yaqing and asked him to rectify the state affairs.

Etiquette classic story 3 tells you a story: there is a foreign-funded enterprise in Beijing, which has high requirements for academic qualifications, foreign languages, height and appearance, but the salary is quite high, so many high-quality talents come to apply.

These young people, with five passes and six generals, reached the last pass: the general manager interview. These young people feel very simple, just going through the motions, and they are sure to win.

Unexpectedly, something went wrong in this interview. As soon as we met, the general manager said, "Sorry, young man, I'm in a hurry. I'm going out 10 minutes. Can you wait for me? "

The young man said, "No problem, you go first and we'll wait for you."

When the boss left, the young people were full of pride and complacency. When they looked around the boss's big desk, they saw piles of documents, letters and materials. Young man, look at this pile. I'll just look at this pile. After reading it, I'll communicate: Oh, this looks good.

10 minutes later, the general manager came back and said, "The interview is over."

"No? We are still waiting for you. " The boss said, "When I am away, your performance is an interview. It's a pity that none of you passed the exam. Because our company never accepts people who turn over other people's things. "

Oh, these young people beat their chests.

Why are they so emotional? They said, "We have never heard of not rummaging through other people's things."

Classic etiquette story 4 An acrobatic troupe plans to perform in America next month. Liu Ming, head of the art troupe, asked the Municipal Cultural Bureau for instructions on this matter, so he dialed the telephone of the office of the director of the Cultural Bureau.

But the phone rang for more than half a minute, and no one answered. Liu was wondering when suddenly an impatient soprano came from the other end of the phone: "What's the matter?" Liu Ming paused and thought he had dialed the wrong number: "Excuse me, is this the Cultural Bureau?" "Nonsense, you don't know where you are calling?" "Oh, hello, I'm from City Song Song and Dance Troupe. Is director Wang there? " "Who are you?" The other party asked angrily. Liu Ming muttered to himself, "My name is Liu Ming, and I am the head of the Acrobatic Troupe."

"Liu Ming? What is your relationship with our director? "

"Relationship?" Liu Ming was puzzled by Zhang Er monks;

"I have no personal relationship with Wang, I just want to ask for instructions.

Talk about the performance of our group abroad. ""performance abroad? Director Wang is not in, please call again another day. " Before Liu Ming could say anything, the other party hung up the phone. Liu Ming felt as if he had been teased, and he didn't return to absolute being with the phone for a long time.

A mother gave an orange to her neighbor's two children. Two children discuss how to divide oranges. Two people quarreled and finally reached an agreement. One child was responsible for cutting oranges and the other chose oranges. As a result, the two children each got half an orange according to the agreed method and took it home happily.

The first child took half an orange home, peeled it, threw it into the trash can, and put the pulp in the blender to make juice. Another child came home, dug out the pulp and threw it into the trash can, leaving the orange peel to be ground and mixed with flour to bake the cake.

From the above situation, we can see that although the two children each got a seemingly fair half, they each got their place. This shows that they did not communicate well in advance, that is, the two children did not explain their respective interests. Failure to state the value in advance leads to blind pursuit of fairness in form and position, and as a result, their respective interests are not maximized in the negotiations.

If we imagine that two children fully communicate their needs, there may be many schemes and situations. One possibility is that according to the above situation, two children try to separate the skin from the pulp. One drinks fruit juice with pulp, and the other makes scones with skin. However, after communication, it may be another situation. There is a child who wants to make cakes with skins and drink orange juice. At this time, how to create value is very important.

As a result, the child who wants the whole orange puts forward that other issues can be discussed together. He said, "If you give me all these oranges, you won't have to pay back the lollipop you owed me last time." . In fact, his teeth were so decayed that his parents didn't let him eat sugar last week.

Image is the basis of etiquette.

Once I went to a banquet, a girl opposite me stunned me and wore four rings, one of which was emerald, the other was black tortoise shell, the other was brown agate and the other was rose gold. I didn't see the necklace because I was wearing a turtle neck. There are two groups of earrings: one is purple and the other is blue. People generously asked me, "Is it nice?"

I said, "Do you listen to the truth or not?"

She said, "What do you mean?"

I said, "I'll make it simple. Anyway, you are a good thing. "

She said, "What does that mean?"

I said, "It's not nice to put a piece!"

She said, "Why?"

I said, "it looks like a Christmas tree from a distance and a grocery store from a close look." The decorative materials you are wearing are mixed and smelly! "

Analysis:

Image design is actually a kind of dress, a kind of speech and a kind of behavior. Pay attention to the principle of homogeneity and color, that is, the texture and color should be consistent and the collocation should be coordinated.

Etiquette skills of speech

I went to a unit that day, but the person in charge didn't come back, and the female secretary just came back. This female secretary is probably a college student who has just joined the work and has little experience. Panting, she came over and said, "Professor Jin, our head is still behind us. I came back first and explained it to my head. Let me treat you well and give you anything you want. "

I said, "You exaggerate. Aren't you sacrificing? " You can't say that. Don't tell me anything else. Let's have a drink. "Because it was in a hotel lobby, it was inappropriate for two people to stand by.

She really asked me, "What would Professor Jin like to drink?"

Experienced people don't ask this question. what would you like to drink? What to eat? Where do you want to play? This is called open-ended questioning, and you will give your guests unlimited choices!

If you are a father and you spoil your child, you ask him, "Son, where are you going to play this Saturday?" American Disney! Can you fly there? When the girl asked me this question, I said, "You're welcome. Come to Louis XIII. "

Her eyes were straight: "Do you really want it?"

I said, "Why?"

She said, "A bottle costs more than 10,000 yuan. I don't have that much money. I have more than three thousand dollars in my pocket. "

I said, "I tell you, experienced people must ask closed questions at this time."

Analysis: What is a closed question? Give all the choices and let the other person choose from them. For example, if you invite Professor Jin to drink water, you should say, "Does Professor Jin drink tea or mineral water?" It is equivalent to telling Laojin that if you don't drink tea, you can only drink mineral water, and don't think about Louis XIII. Therefore, the operational situation of "doing something and not doing something" is very strong. What can be said, what can't be said, what can be done and what can't be done are all exquisite.

Etiquette classic story 6 Speaking of civilized etiquette, I'll tell you a little story.

On a sunny Sunday. Lele and her parents go to her mother-in-law's house for dinner by bus. Lele got on the bus from Li Tao Station. After getting on the bus, Lele found a seat and sat down. When the bus arrived at the four major stations, many people got on the bus. One of them is a white-haired old woman who looks very kind. The car was full at that time. When the car was moving, the old woman shook and almost fell down. Lele saw it and quickly stood up and said, "Hello grandma! Please come to my seat! " Grandma said gratefully, "thank you, little friend, that's very kind of you!" " "Lele said," grandma, you're welcome. This is what I should do. "The bus soon drove to Longcheng Station, and grandma raised her hand to get off. Lele quickly caught up with her and said, "I'll help you get off." Grandma smiled and said, "Good! Very good! "Lele held grandma step by step to the door, and the uncles and aunts in the car took the initiative to make way. Lele helped grandma get off the bus. Lele said, "Grandma, go well. Bye!" " Grandma said, "goodbye, little friend!" " "Suddenly, there was a big round of applause in the car.

Civilized etiquette is like the grass in spring, fresh and full of vitality; Civilized etiquette is like a bridge, which brings us closer together. Civilized etiquette is like the light of the sun, which makes people feel extremely warm.

Etiquette classic story 7 Jiang Kemei, director of the Finance Bureau, and his colleagues went out to attend a banquet and behaved badly. Therefore,

It attracted everyone's criticism.

At that time, in order to enjoy himself at the party, Jiang Kemei began to eat, and then repeatedly relieved his "burden". He loosened his tie first, then his collar button, his belt and rolled up his sleeves. Finally, he quietly took off his shoes. What is particularly unpleasant is that Jiang Kemei always likes to smack his lips intentionally or unintentionally when eating, and when eating, he will make a loud noise, which is "wave after wave" and "wave after wave". Jiang Kemei's behavior at the banquet not only shocked the people around him, but also made his colleagues feel ashamed. Everyone accused Jiang Kemei of losing his own people, his company's people and everyone's people.

Etiquette classic story 8 9, Zhu De respects the teacher

At the beginning of 1957, Zhu De watched a play with everyone in the auditorium of Yunnan Political School. Before the performance, Comrade Zhu De had a pleasant exchange with the surrounding audience. At this time, an old man in his late teens walked into the auditorium with the help of others. When Zhu De saw the old man coming, he got up and stood at attention and gave a military-like salute. After the ceremony, he kindly called "Teacher Ye". Then, Zhu De asked the old man to sit down. After the old man sat down, he also sat down. It turns out that this old man named Ye was Zhu De's instructor when he was studying in Yunnan Military Academy in his early years.

Etiquette classic story 9 "Sending goose feathers a thousand miles away" took place in the Tang Dynasty. At that time, a minority leader in Yunnan expressed support for the Tang Dynasty and sent a special envoy to let Mian Bogao contribute swans to Emperor Taizong. When passing by Mianyang, kind Mian Bogao released the swan from its cage and wanted to give it a bath.

Unexpectedly, the swan soared into the sky. Mian Bogao was busy reaching for it, only pulling out a few goose feathers. Mian Bogao was so anxious that he stamped his feet and beat his chest, crying bitterly. His entourage advised him, "It's no use crying because it has already flown away. Let's think of a remedy. " Mian Bogao thought, also can only be so. In Chang 'an, Mian Bogao met with Emperor Taizong and presented a gift. Emperor Taizong saw that it was a delicate satin bag and opened it. At first glance, it is just a few goose feathers and a poem. The poem says: "Swan pays tribute to Tang Dynasty, the mountain is high and the road is far. Mianyang River lost its treasure and fell on the ground crying. After the Emperor of Heaven, Mian Bogao was spared. The ceremony is light and affectionate, and the goose feathers are sent thousands of miles. " Emperor Taizong was puzzled, and Mian Bogao immediately told the story. Emperor Taizong repeatedly said, "What a treat! It's commendable! Send goose feathers a thousand miles away, and the ceremony is light and affectionate! " This story embodies the precious virtue of the giver's honesty. Today, people use "a thousand miles to send goose feathers" to describe the gift as thin, but the affection is extremely deep.

Etiquette classic story 10 4, the origin of the grievance award

Ke Liping, the conductor of Shanghai No.22 bus, once won a very special award-the "grievance award". One day, when a young man bought a ticket, he deliberately spat on a fifty-cent bill and threw it on the floor of the carriage. While other passengers accused the young man, they also quietly looked at Ke Liping. She bent down to pick up the paper money, wiped her phlegm with a napkin, and then politely handed the ticket to the young man. Ke Liping's behavior was praised by the passengers. The young man felt ashamed and apologized to Ke Liping. Afterwards, colleagues reported the matter to the team, and the team leader specially awarded Ke Liping the "grievance award" to encourage the team's ticket sellers.

Etiquette classic story 1 1 7, model of civilized etiquette

Dr. Sun Yat-sen is a pioneer of bourgeois revolution in China and a model of civility and courtesy. He believes that bad habits such as spitting, growing nails and not brushing your teeth are all acts that violate civilization and manners and are not commensurate with the civilized tradition of our Chinese nation. He advocates the civilization of "sincerity and loyalty" and pays attention to "every move is subtle"