Is engagement alliance or adoption?

Let's correct the word first. It is "engaged" rather than "engaged". "Order" only means that both parties have an agreement in advance, regardless of whether the agreement can be guaranteed to remain unchanged, emphasizing the process; "Fixed" means that the matter has been settled, and it will not be changed easily, but the result is important. In layman's terms, this procedure is "determined to marry the other party", not "promised but not necessarily married".

"Bridal gift" is one of the ancient "six gifts", commonly known as "betrothal gift". The matchmaker is both male and female, and the woman's family has promised that the man's family will only accept (take) the woman's gifts.

"betrothal" generally chooses auspicious days such as 3rd, 6th and 9th in the summer calendar, and parents of both sides should hold banquets for relatives and friends on the selected days, which is called "betrothal banquet". The staple food is generally noodles, which means that men and women have become affectionate children's in-laws, so it is also called "eating noodles".

Yuci's engagement is also called "Ding Meng". The man brought "four ornaments" (four ornaments) to the woman's house, and the woman received gifts to entertain the man. In Qixian and other places, men and women should give each other "four-color gifts". The man gave the woman "engagement clothes", rings, earrings, bracelets and other things, and the woman also gave him Four Treasures of the Study, a fan, a wallet and a belt. Among them, the belt is particularly indispensable, which means "I will tie you up from now on" or "I will take off your clothes".

In Qixian and Pingyao, when engaged, people also pay attention to exchanging "dragon and phoenix stickers", that is, red paper stickers with dragons and phoenixes printed on them. The "dragon post" given by the man to the woman is written with the words "good luck", also called "sincere post", which is roughly written as follows: "I am ashamed of my lack of jade, and I pray for my promise. XXX bow. " The "Phoenix Post" given by the woman to the man is widely written with the words "Ji Yun", also called "Cloud Post", which roughly reads: "I am ashamed to compare with the phoenix, and I am willing to behead Lapras. Foolish brother (brother) is embarrassed. " "。 " Dragon and phoenix stickers are generally red and gold, folded in half. The year, month, day and time of birth of men and women are written around the middle seam, just overlapping.

Different counties have different customs, so it is better to respect local customs.