How do Huian Chongwu people get married?

The traditional marriage customs in southern Fujian are extremely complicated, and now they are omitted a lot, which can only be considered rough, because the details of each household are different. The so-called "ten miles different customs", even the next-door neighbors may be different.

First of all, they are engaged. On this day, the man will pay the dowry and give away jewelry. The woman's family should invite guests, generally only relatives. Engagement is very important in southern Fujian, and it is difficult to return the engagement money after engagement. I tell such a true story. The heroine is the headmaster of a primary school. After getting engaged to a rich family. Once I went to the hospital for a physical examination, and the doctor said there was something wrong. As a result, the people who went with her heard that there was a problem with fertility. After the news spread, the man strongly demanded the dissolution of the marriage. As it was proposed by the man, the engagement fee is not refundable. Later, the heroine remarried with a large dowry (including the dowry she didn't want), and her husband was nicknamed "Zheng Million" (the husband's surname was "Zheng").

And then the wedding day. There are many taboos in choosing a date. I am dizzy. If you don't understand, don't say much. When the date is chosen, the dowry will be ready. As you may know, the dowry in Jinjiang area is doubled. For example, if the man pays an engagement fee of 80,000 yuan, the woman must accompany at least 1.6 million yuan. Rich people may not only have this number, but also accompany millions, plus Mercedes-Benz BMW. This is just cash, and the actual dowry is far more than that. Because all the furniture (except beds) and electrical appliances are bought by the woman's family, and there are tens of thousands. What will people do if they have no money? People who have no money should not only buy these home appliances, but also return the employment money intact at the worst. * * * * To marry your daughter, spending money is certain. There is also an exaggeration to say that the dowry of a woman, usually a bank passbook, should be printed and enlarged, framed and put in a new house for people to see. So people who go to the wedding reception look at the bride at first sight and the passbook at second sight.

The dowry is still unfinished, and there are many other necessities. What I know is seven buckets (washbasin, bucket, bedpan and future children's bathtub, etc.). ), lead, tea stalks, bamboo leaves (these are chopped and scattered on the bride when she gets on the wedding car). Lead is homophonic with "fate" in southern Fujian, and the clothes worn by the bride on the wedding day should be sewn with round lead pieces from the inside out), two boxes (the bride should prepare at least 7 sets of clothes, change them every day within 7 days of marriage, and put money at the bottom of the box), as well as scattered things such as cosmetics and perfume.

Busy two or three days before marriage. Because to prepare trays, trays are nothing more than candy, biscuits, cakes, fish and so on. They should be packaged one by one and distributed to relatives and friends. Decide how much to bear according to the intimacy of the relationship. Generally, the largest share of the burden is given to grandparents, grandparents and uncles; Followed by uncles, aunts and aunts; Then there are distant relatives and friends. There are more than one hundred books, large and small. The next day, I will go to every household in the village to distribute candy and biscuits. What a bother.

Finally, it's time to treat. This has to start from the day before the wedding, and the woman's family must treat first. On the wedding day, please invite the man's home, and on the second day of the wedding, the bride will go back to her mother's house and invite her son-in-law. It is equivalent to hosting two banquets at the woman's house.

Having said that, we finally got married. Near noon that day, the groom came with a group of people, and the woman wanted to cook a bowl of sweet eggs for each of them. At the same time, the bride began to dress up and wear gold jewelry. These beautiful gold ornaments are also a major feature of southern Fujian, such as chains, Der goldene Handschuh and golden crowns. It is estimated that few people in other places will bring it, or even have never heard of it. The more brides here, the better, especially those with thick necks and thick arms.

Next, the bride is going out. Newlyweds are expensive, so you can't just meet people. So the bride came out with her face covered.

Then touch the onion, garlic and radish. Then the brother covered his head with black gauze. Brother in front, brother in the back. When crossing the brazier, you must hold a red umbrella and sprinkle salt, tea stems and bamboo leaves on the bride.

Then the bride was picked up. At the same time, my brother-in-law, brother or elder brother should also accompany me. When you arrive at the man's house, the relatives of the groom should avoid it (this is called avoiding relatives, which can avoid quarreling in the future). Go out with the woman's house, first go through the brazier, then touch the onion and garlic, and then go straight into the new house. The bride is not allowed to eat at the wedding reception, but the woman's family sends someone to deliver the meal.

Until the wedding reception is over. It's time for the bride to come out for tea The matchmaker introduced the relatives of the groom's family one by one, and then the bride offered tea and gifts, and the other party also gave gifts in return. These gifts are usually jewels and red envelopes, and shirts have been given in the past. There are also many customs in the evening, such as the bride and groom walking around the house with water, the bride and groom exchanging clothes and so on, but they are basically preserved now. One thing to remember is to put your clothes on your husband's clothes when you sleep at night, so that your husband will be afraid of you being in charge in the future. Hey hey.

It's not over yet. The next day, the bride's brother took her home. After lunch, the groom came to the bride's house. On this day, guests will be invited as usual, only the relatives of the bride and groom will be invited. Generally speaking, the groom won't take the bride home until dark. The bride's family should prepare two pairs of sugar cane and two leading chickens (one male and one female) for the couple to take back. I heard that I have to put the bibcock under the bed when I go back. The cock comes out first and gives birth to a boy, while the hen comes out and gives birth to a girl. Isn't that interesting?

At this time, we are all very busy. The bride and groom can still be tired, and they can still make trouble in the bridal chamber for seven days. Within seven days, anyone can be no big or small to the bride and groom, and the bride can't be angry if she is wronged.

It's finally over. Are you dizzy? But the marriage customs in southern Fujian are really so complicated and tiring, and there are still many things I don't know that I haven't written yet. Ha ha. I guess everyone is tired of watching it.

2. What should Huian prepare for her engagement?

In view of the fact that many young people don't understand the status quo of engagement and marriage, I will introduce them to you according to the preparations before engagement and the situation on the wedding day:

Engagement:

1. Both parents meet to discuss their engagement, mainly to determine the amount of the yellow calendar and the man's dowry. At present, it is 6.5438+0.08 million, but it mainly depends on the economic conditions of both sides. The gift money received is returned according to the economic situation. If the woman's condition is generally 88888, it will be returned to the man, ranging from 38888 to 58888. If the woman's conditions are good, she will accept all the gifts and buy a car for the man.

There must be plenty of time before the engagement day. During this time, we need to buy what two people need to get engaged. Let's talk about what the man gave the woman first.

(1) A set of gold ornaments. Including earrings, bracelets, (anklets), necklaces, a pair of rings and a diamond ring (the price of a diamond ring is about 15000). In fact, you can also go to the goldsmith shop to buy a bare diamond and choose your favorite style to make it. The price varies greatly, which can save about 35%. Note: If you ask your parents first, some parents like to buy 24K pure gold, thinking that it can preserve the value, but young people don't like it.

(2) like candy. Include a pair of sugar, gold and apricots. Wenzhou wedding candy is divided into different sizes, and the man is responsible for all the wedding candy that the woman needs, including the red envelope in the wedding candy (at present, it is given at 50- 100, depending on the conditions of both parties and the number of wedding candy).

(3) watches. It used to be to adjust the watch. Now that all kinds of electronic products have the function of watches, it is very common to buy only one for the woman. The price depends on their preference for styles and economic conditions, generally around 10 thousand.

What this woman wants to buy is:

(1) When the man got engaged, he wore a suit, two shirts, two ties, two pairs of shoes (a pair of casual shoes), two sets of casual clothes, a dozen socks, a gold bracelet and a necklace (if the red envelope for the best man is less than 580, you need to buy another shirt for the best man). I didn't know about gold, and I didn't do it at that time.

(2) A set of dishes with 88 pieces, 98 pieces and 108 pieces can be purchased as appropriate. It is recommended to shop around and compare more, otherwise the price difference between the two sides is not small. You must choose a date to deliver the bowl. There is a saying that "stability" is a homophonic "bowl" in Wenzhou dialect. At present, bowls on the market are divided into bone China and ceramics. It is recommended to buy ceramics, which are resistant to high temperature and not easy to crack, and are not as easy to scale as bone China after a long time. There is also attention, it is best to buy a microwave oven, which will be very practical in the future.

(3) Six samples were divided into oranges, cakes, dates, longan, lotus seeds and peanuts. Then send a preserved apricot sent by the man back to the man (six kinds can be bought in specialty stores, which saves a lot of time and effort, and are specially wrapped in washbasin and wrapping paper, which needs to be booked about a week in advance).

3. Engagement Day: There are two kinds of engagement parties at present. One is that the woman's family holds a banquet at noon to entertain the man's parents and best man, and the man invites the woman back in the evening. The other is that both parents and close relatives and friends hold a banquet in the hotel to get engaged. Generally, there are many people who choose the latter in urban areas now. In the afternoon, the man drove to the woman's house to greet her and her parents, and gave the woman's brother or sister a box of money (carrying a box of money means that the woman's brother or sister won't let her go until you give him money. According to the explanation of the older generation, if the woman is an only child, she will give it to her mother). About the suitcase money, some were given on the wedding day. The suitcase cost is about 5800- 10800. After arriving at the hotel, give tea to both parents and a gift to relatives and friends.