What is it like to marry into a family with two brothers?

Women who marry two brothers are braver, because they have to face the situation where the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and sister-in-law is a drama for three women. Women who marry into families with two brothers are relatively stupid. Mother-in-law will always have problems with her two sons. Don’t be partial or have too many grievances. I married into a family with two brothers. If you asked me if I would marry into such a family again, my answer would be "no".

Before I married my husband, there was already a sister-in-law in my husband’s family. My husband respected this sister-in-law very much, because my mother-in-law had an eldest daughter-in-law and an eldest grandson. I didn't care about the marriage, and I didn't want to give an engagement or a bride price. During that time, my sister-in-law took the children and my mother-in-law on vacation. When I got angry, I called my sister-in-law and asked her to tell her mother-in-law to cancel the engagement. Then I turned off my phone and went out. After playing for a day, I came back and turned on my phone to see a number of missed calls. When my husband called me, he asked me why I just broke off the engagement without discussing it. Maybe this was a bit extreme. In the end, my mother-in-law was dissatisfied with me after we got married. She was so close to my sister-in-law. Be distant from me.

My mother-in-law is a very strong woman and takes care of everything in the family. My eldest sister-in-law’s natal family has better financial conditions than mine. My eldest brother is a cadre of the work unit and my eldest sister-in-law is very good at talking. My mother-in-law always calls me stupid. . One time, my mother-in-law was hospitalized for physiotherapy for back pain. Even though her sister-in-law was at home, she had to ask me to take leave to go to the hospital. I couldn't take leave from work. After get off work, I went to the hospital to see my mother-in-law. I also prepared two thousand yuan for my mother-in-law. Later, my mother-in-law gave her husband They complained that I didn't respect them by dumping all my money. My husband believed such a trick and insisted on making me apologize. My sister-in-law was delighted. Another time, my eldest brother’s child celebrated his birthday. My father was also hospitalized during those days and I had to go to the hospital. I had already bought a birthday gift for my eldest brother’s child. On the birthday, the whole family went to celebrate the child’s birthday. I I went to the hospital and didn't make it to the birthday party. My husband slapped me for this and said I didn't know how to do things. When my mother-in-law found out, she said that I didn’t know what to do without a tutor.

My mother-in-law likes that my eldest sister-in-law helps her eldest brother and sister-in-law a lot. Not only does she help with the children, but my father-in-law secretly gives money to my eldest brother. When we need help buying a car or a house, he says we have no money and we can rely on ourselves. . Once, I needed help from my eldest brother and sister-in-law for a job transfer because of my eldest brother's connections, but she didn't take it seriously and didn't take care of it at all, which made me suffer a lot. Finally, I figured it out. In this family, except for the children and husband, who belong to me, the mother-in-law and sister-in-law are other people after all. They will only make things difficult for you, make trouble for you, and make fun of you. I have been married to my husband in the past few years, and all the grievances I have suffered are due to the water in my head before getting married.

It is reasonable to say that the pressure of caring for the two sons can be alleviated. My mother-in-law wants to move to a bigger house so that each of the two sons can pay half of it. If she wants to be hospitalized and each of the two sons has to pay half of it, she still talks about impartiality. My sister-in-law came to tell me. If we were asked to pay for it first and give it to us later, my sister-in-law had not repaid the money she lent us before, but my eldest brother’s family only has a few houses and shops. Their financial situation is much better than ours, but they still claim to be poor. My mother-in-law also told me to listen to your sister-in-law, she has a good financial mind. I think my sister-in-law is too smart.

The story is still going on, but I am tired. I really don’t want to play tricks with a group of people like my husband’s family until I get married. I realized that love and marriage are really two different things after getting married. If I go back to the past, I will definitely not When I marry my husband, I will not marry into a family with two sons like this.

Regarding this point, I must say that I advise unmarried girls to never look for a family with two brothers. My husband is the eldest, and we got married in love. I am from the north and my husband is from the south. When you get married, your parents-in-law don't care about anything. I bought the wedding bed, quilt, and sheets myself. Not even a penny was given as a bride price. My mother-in-law said that money was tight at home, so I thought to forget it. I thought that when two people got married, they came together because they loved each other, so I didn’t care too much. My parents didn't care that much.

When I gave birth to my child, my mother-in-law took care of me during the confinement period. My parents' family is far away and they can't take care of me. I take care of the child myself. During the two years I was raising children, my mother-in-law said nicely, saying that one of us would have to take care of the children while the other would go to work. My maternal family members all advised me to let my mother-in-law take care of the children, saying that I should work and make money and keep it in my own hands. I didn't listen, and I didn't want to owe the elderly for taking care of the children. Take care of your own children. However, I have been raising children for more than two years. I have no job, and my husband doesn’t earn much by himself. It’s okay if my parents-in-law don’t help, and they still have to ask for money from my husband. Because he had no money to give, his father-in-law scolded his husband.

I'm really speechless. Later, I gave the ten thousand I had just saved to my father-in-law. We didn't have any money at that time. We understand deeply that a child will be poor for three years.

The year before last, my brother-in-law was looking for a wife. Because he was relatively introverted, he had never been in love. It's like buying a wife. It cost 300,000. At that time, my mother-in-law was also sick. Heart disease is more serious. While he was hospitalized, his brother-in-law never visited his wife once. I've been to the hospital a few times because I had to go to work. My mother-in-law stayed in the hospital for a month, all at my husband's expense. After I was discharged from the hospital, I complained to my father-in-law with tears in my eyes that I would not wash her clothes. When she said she would take care of me, she took care of me so well. I just asked her to take care of me during my confinement period. Because my parents’ home is too far away. My husband retorted and said, doesn’t he have a daughter-in-law who spent 300,000 yuan? The mother-in-law stopped talking.

My mother-in-law has been taking medicine, which costs at least 7,000 to 8,000 yuan a month for almost two years, and my husband is paying for it. It cost at least more than 100,000 yuan. My brother-in-law didn't pay either. My eldest sister-in-law told her mother-in-law one day that I was doing well. It cost me 300,000 to find a wife for my youngest son, but I didn’t spend any money, so I had no complaints. I heard my mother-in-law say, no matter what, I spent money on your eldest brother before. I heard it in my heart and was very angry. The money you spent on your son was spent on your son, and it was spent before we got married. As your daughter-in-law, I didn’t get a cent of your bride price. My mother-in-law is a very verbose person. She is in poor health and likes to meddle in some things. So sometimes, when she couldn't stand her, she complained to her father-in-law that I didn't respect her.

At present, the child is 7 years old and still lives with his brother-in-law. Several times before, I told my husband that I would ask my father-in-law to sell the 130-square-meter house and divide the money equally, and the two brothers would buy one each. We can't live together forever. The child is also older. My father-in-law never sold it. Not saying why. My husband said that he would buy a house by himself without his parents having to pay for it. I feel really wronged. That’s all if there’s no betrothal gift. The house should also be unfavorable at all. I really regret marrying into a family of two brothers.

I am also married to two brothers. We live together every day, across from each other. Before, my eldest brother was not at home and I was pregnant at home, so I helped take care of my sister-in-law’s two children and taught them homework. One day Around the year and a half, I treated my two children as my own, celebrated their birthdays, bought them gifts, and bought toys. Later, my children were born, and my sister-in-law didn’t even look at my children. At first, I thought The child was young and she loved to be clean. She was afraid of being pooped or peed on her, so I didn’t think much about it. After all, I had my mother-in-law to help take care of her. Later, when my brother came back, I stopped teaching my child to do homework. My child gradually When I grew up, I heard her scolding my children more than once, saying they were disobedient and so on. I told my parents-in-law not to let the children play in her yard all the time. My sister-in-law seemed to dislike it and let the children play here. Just play while playing. Once, I was undressing my child at night, and the child suddenly cried. I asked why she was crying, and the child said that the mother-in-law asked her to go home and find her grandma today, and she was not allowed to play at her brother's house. Grandma was not at home, and I had nowhere to go. After hearing this, I was very angry, and I carried the child to find my parents-in-law. My parents-in-law and mother-in-law were also sad after hearing this. From then on, I stopped talking to my sister-in-law. If she came to talk to me about anything, I wouldn’t talk. My brother and my parents-in-law told me anything about her family, but I didn’t listen or ask. ,

What is written above is basically that the second child’s family has been wronged, so let me tell you what the situation is like for us being the boss? As a sister-in-law, I can say how much I have sacrificed for my husband’s family.

My husband and I arranged the marriage for his younger brother on behalf of my father-in-law and mother-in-law. All the pressure was borne on the two of us. I want everyone to comment on me. I can change it with such efforts. What kind of reward?

We paid more than 80,000 yuan for the down payment of the house, 13,000 yuan for tobacco and alcohol, 18,000 yuan for the meeting, 7,300 yuan for furniture, and more than 10,000 yuan for home appliances. There are a lot of trivial things that cost money that I don’t care about.

Yes, we are caterers. How much can we earn in the countryside? Plus, I have three children. Although we took 60,000 yuan from my parents-in-law when we opened the restaurant, everything about getting married is Is it okay for us to be the boss if we are the contractors?

For his brother, we are burdened with debt again. Do we deserve this?

I understand very well that if my mother-in-law and father-in-law don’t regard me as their own, what will you do if you are the boss? My parents-in-law are from rural areas and they don’t have much savings. I am also very grateful to my parents-in-law for helping me raise my children. I also consider that my husband is the only younger brother because I also have a younger brother. I understand my husband’s difficulties. We are all part of the same family. People want peace and harmony.

Although this brother has been married for more than two years, they have not helped us. I will not care about them. Since I have paid, I don’t want anything in return. It is for the sake of harmony in this family. I believe They understand in their hearts, even though their parents-in-law don’t have as many children to look after as we do, they should also understand in their hearts, right?

My husband and I have been married for nine years! Every year, I buy clothes and shoes for my parents-in-law. My child’s aunt has been married for more than two years, and I haven’t bought any clothes for my parents-in-law. I understand that every family has its own problems, let alone people. It’s not the same as humans!

I just want to be myself, no matter what others say about us!

Some people think we are stupid, but they don’t know that a family should be happy. Maybe one day we are in trouble, I believe they will lend a helping hand, right? Why should you get rewarded immediately if you pay?

I believe they will understand me one day, right?

The suffering and fatigue I have endured in the past few years are beyond the reach of ordinary people. If I were a rich man, I would not say anything.

It’s not easy for me to earn this hard-earned money. Do you know how much I have to work in this store? Mixing cold dishes, serving hot dishes, wiping tables, pulling plates, sweeping, mopping, and then washing dishes. If I make a lot of money, won't I find a regular waiter?

So for some things, don’t just look at the present but think about the future. If the two brothers get along well, wouldn’t the family be fine? Besides, doesn’t the old man just want to see such a result in his life?

Maybe I have experienced too much. I really know what is important in some matters. I don’t care about small things. Big things still need to be discussed between the two parties, right? For the sake of children's future life, adults must also set an example for their children. They will also live in harmony, right?

Just be happy and be yourself! Don't think about things that you don't want to change. Just do your own thing well. Change the word "filial piety" to the word "help". I am thirty years old and I still feel very young. I still have a lot of time to fight! Thinking of this, I feel that the effort is worth it. Being able to accomplish big things for my family at the age of thirty is considered my own success, right?

I am the most qualified to answer this! Because I am from a rural area and married to the second son of two brothers. I can't stop talking about this matter. I have been bullied enough for more than ten years. I was so angry that I was like Mrs. Xianglin, who would tell anyone I met. Even though he knew that it would be useless to say it, it would only become the subject of conversation and jokes among the villagers, but he still couldn't help but want to say it. Looking back now, I think I was mentally disturbed at that time!

Because my family conditions were average, I went to Zhengzhou to work after graduating from high school. As I got older and older, my parents kept urging me to get married. I met a few people back home, but I was not very satisfied. At this time, someone mentioned my husband, and the meeting was quite satisfying. The other person was divorced, and at that time he thought that since I had been in a big city for a few years, I wouldn't care about it like my family did. The matchmaker said at that time that his family was very powerful and his mother was so powerful that it was his mother who asked him to get divorced. But I thought that if I opened my mouth and called mom, and let her eat if she had anything to eat, nothing would happen. Now think about it, if you don't listen to the old man's words, you will suffer a lot.

The first year of marriage, Chinese New Year. They came to our house and asked for money to buy clothes, and we gave them. After a while, everyone asked us if we had given the elderly money. I said I would give it, and the boss said that he would go to their house early in the morning to ask for money, and they didn’t even have anything to wear! He also said that we gave him money because he was rich, and he deliberately took advantage of her! But you’ve already given it, so you can’t ask for it again! After a few days, the curtains hanging in front of my house and my house were broken. The boss's children have all gone to school, and they are playing cards at home. The old man was on the stone table nearby helping to repair the curtains of his house.

I quickly said, "Mom, fix ours too." Who would have thought that people would say, "Hers is easy to fix, but yours is not. There is a car in front and a rut in the back. I didn't fix it for you, but I won't fix it for you." I feel so angry! She asked, "There is a car in front and a car in the back. You didn't get the money from the boss's house, so why did you take my money?" She said, "The boss gave me 500, and I'm so angry with you!

Our house The door is never locked. Because we are the only one of the three houses in the hospital who has a refrigerator, we are afraid that if we are not at home, others will not be able to access the food. However, the house for the elderly and the elderly are both locked, so sometimes the food for cooking cannot be accessed. We didn't have the key to the house, so we had to climb over the wall of someone else's house to give birth, but she said she wouldn't come again after the birth. I asked my husband to go back and get some chicken soup. My husband probably didn’t dare to tell his mother to cut it into chicken legs, but the old man automatically reduced it to a chicken drumstick for me.

My husband and sister-in-law both praised the old man for taking care of the children. But she had never taken care of my children before, and she said that I didn’t know how to bake or bake, so I ate them separately when I ate with her.

We ate separately and asked her to look after her for a while, but she decided not to talk to her again. Now the point is, she used to treat her sister-in-law badly, but now she treats her well. It’s incredible. I made pancakes and braised noodles for a family of five to eat. I made my husband eat them in the courtyard, but she didn’t let me eat them myself. The boss gave birth to three more children, and she was responsible for their food and clothing. I was also angry, but I was afraid that I would get sick from being so angry, so I would move out and live with you, face to face, and butt to kiss. , I won’t even look at you if you kiss me from behind to face. I won’t leave you either. It’s been more than ten years and I’m living a good life now.

So, the two brothers and their parents can’t understand. Don't marry someone who is a troublemaker, otherwise you will be hurt internally.

Xiaojing married a family named Zhong in a neighboring village.

The Zhong family has two sons. The eldest graduated from a university in Beijing and was admitted to the postgraduate program. After completing graduate school, he stayed in the university to engage in scientific research. He was very busy and earned about 200,000 yuan a year. He was introduced to a fellow villager. Xiao Jing, the two of them are very happy with each other. Although the age difference is a bit big, seven years apart, the 32-year-old eldest brother has a young look and does not look old at all. He is a good match for Xiao Jing. With the help of the two elders, they soon became friends. They got married right away.

The second child also graduated from college, so he got married right after graduation, and has given birth to two children. In the past few years, his parents have left the family farm and have been living in Fuzhou, the second child. The second daughter-in-law works in Fuzhou City and goes home to eat every day, but the second daughter-in-law works in Ningde and only returns home once a week.

Last winter, Xiaojing also gave birth. However, her mother-in-law was unable to find time to go to Beijing to take care of her eldest daughter-in-law in Fuzhou. Xiaojing had to ask her mother in the countryside to take care of herself. After she was one month old, she returned to her hometown in the countryside with her mother in her arms. Her parents took good care of her and her children.

As her maternity leave was coming to an end, Xiaojing was worried about raising a child. Her parents have a small shop in the countryside, and they cannot live without people. Besides, for a daughter who is married off, it is not a problem for the child to be taken care of by her grandmother for a long time. She is still breastfeeding, and it is still early to be weaned. People will say, let the mother-in-law take care of her. There is no need for two people to take care of her in Fuzhou. The second son’s eldest son is already five years old and can go to daycare. It’s perfectly fine for the father-in-law to take care of his three-year-old granddaughter!

But things are not that simple, the second daughter-in-law disagrees! She said it was inconvenient for her father-in-law to stay in Fuzhou because her husband was not around! She proposed that her parents-in-law take their 3-year-old daughter to Beijing with them, so that they could take care of both Xiaojing's children and her own daughter, and her 5-year-old son could be picked up and dropped off by herself when going to and from get off work.

At this time, Xiaojing felt that her head was getting bigger. In order to take care of her children, there were suddenly three more people. Not only did she have to find a big house, but she also had to increase their food expenses. , it’s a lot of pressure! Xiaojing said dejectedly, no matter what, she could take it by herself, and her mother-in-law wouldn't have to go out. But I couldn't bear to part with my job, even though it only paid five to six thousand yuan a month.

It is really difficult to marry into a family with two sons. Every family has sutras that are difficult to recite, that’s right.

I see that everyone is telling other people’s stories, so let me tell you my own story.

I am marrying a woman from a family with two brothers!

1. What is the life experience like with two brothers?

My husband’s family is from Hunan and I am from Sichuan. First of all, my husband is the eldest son in the family. Our career moved from Guangdong to Jiangxi. Now we can say that we have settled down in Jiangxi. We still rent a house and bought a property in Jiangxi. My husband means that the baby will study in Jiangxi in the future. Well, although I hate Jiangxi very much, the winter here is too cold. This is the biggest reason why I don’t like it.

My mother-in-law’s second son bought a house and settled down in Changsha, Hunan. My mother-in-law spends most of her time living in the house we bought in the county town of Hunan. In a small amount of time, she will tidy up her hometown and take care of the elderly. I occasionally come to Nanchang to stay for a while, but there is no permanent place to stay. There are many unoccupied houses and no one has cleaned them.

In other words, the two brothers from the husband's family are in different cities and they don't live together, so there is not much conflict. No clear problem has been found yet. If we live together, there will definitely be conflicts.

It can be said that my mother-in-law’s two sons are very dependent on their mother, because her mother-in-law is a full-time housewife and spends her whole life cooking and doing housework. Everyone in the family likes to eat the food cooked by her mother-in-law, so she goes wherever she goes. is welcome. But my mother-in-law's health is not very good. She has pain here and there. She has many old-age problems and is very painful. But in order to cook for her son, she was willing to be a mother, so she didn’t complain at all.

The problem is that the two sons are in different places. Both sons have their own homes and children. They both need their mother to help cook, but there is only one mother. How should they be divided? Now the old woman can still cook, and she is in high demand. If in a few years she can no longer walk and cook, and becomes an old woman who cannot take care of herself and needs someone to take care of her, then who will rush to take over? Do you want the old woman to go back to the country and stay alone?

As a daughter-in-law, I am very worried. I feel that my mother-in-law is also a person who has worked hard all her life. I welcome her as long as she is willing to come. However, the old lady needs someone to take care of her as she gets older, and our husband and wife are busy with work. My own My parents have to help me take care of the children, which is quite stressful. I don’t know what my husband will think in the future?

My request to my parents is not to think about making money. Let us young people make money. As long as you don’t get sick or get into trouble, it will be fine. Not causing us trouble is the greatest support. But there is an 80-year-old grandmother in my family. Now my mother’s time is also limited. She has to take care of her mother-in-law, and I have to take care of my own children.

My grandma is also difficult to get along with. She gets confused as she gets older. She can be said to be unreasonable and often gets into trouble. I can still tolerate her because I am not her daughter-in-law, but my mother is very kind. Annoying.

I suddenly feel that old people are very boring, and my own pain also makes young people suffer, which is very troublesome anyway.

If I disobey and get sick when I get older, I will just take euthanasia.

It’s a bit negative, so I won’t say it anymore.

I am also married into a family with two sons. When we got married, my in-laws gave us a gift of 20,000 yuan, and my mother returned it to us. My husband’s parents gave us 200,000 yuan and we added some to make the down payment. My mother gave us 50,000 yuan as a down payment. We spent some money on renovations. His younger brother still doesn’t have a girlfriend. He goes on blind dates every year. When they got married, they agreed that no matter who the parents-in-law were to buy a house, they would all contribute 200,000 yuan. But I knew it was impossible for his younger brother to spend just over 200,000 yuan on his marriage, not even the bride price. I knew how much they wanted, not counting drinks and so on. My wedding was held in a very small restaurant. I didn’t care about anything. I didn’t know if it was a lie or if it was true that I couldn’t find a hotel. Can't find the hotel! Now I have figured out that even if his brother's marriage costs his parents 300,000 to 400,000, I won't care. I have two sons, and my parents are heartbroken and disadvantaged children! Caring about these things destroys the brotherhood and sets a bad example for the children! It is said that your parents will accompany you for the first half of your life, your partner will accompany you for the second half of your life, and only brothers and sisters can accompany you for your whole life.

My eldest brother chose to buy a house in the county town. My husband and I built a three-story house in the countryside under the overt and covert pressure of the elders at home. Now the whole family lives here when they come back from abroad (father-in-law, mother-in-law, mother-in-law, The eldest brother’s family consists of four, including my husband, uncle, grandma, and ourselves). Everyone was here during the Chinese New Year, and the room was enough for sleeping, but there were a lot of problems. Anyway, I felt that my face-loving father-in-law had everything covered, and I didn’t bother to say anything. We just came back during the Chinese New Year, so the conflict didn’t arise.

When my second child was born last year, the original balance was completely broken. My mother-in-law has been helping my sister-in-law take care of the children, now fourteen and nine years old. They have been with her for a few months now. When I was in confinement, my mother-in-law had to send my niece to school in the morning and come back from school in the afternoon, or sometimes not come back at all. My mother-in-law usually puts a bone or a pot of chicken in the pot to cook in the morning and then leaves. Sometimes there is no salt. Several times I peeled peanuts and added them to cook when I was hungry. Not to mention the children, prenatal check-ups and preparations Everything was done by myself and my husband. Except for the two days of immobility during the cesarean section, I took care of the child day and night.

I remember that on the first and second day after cesarean delivery, the doctor told my mother-in-law that she could only drink soup before farting. I eat meat, but my husband says I can’t do it now and will tell her later when I can eat it again. But for some reason she always made me eat. I was hungry and wanted to eat. She was simply tempting me. Later, on the third day, he told her that she could eat it, but instead, she was brought with her soup every day without even a piece of meat residue. Moreover, it was not delivered until her niece was sent to school, and it was also delivered at noon on the fourth day. In the afternoon, I was hungry and bloated. I felt like I was full of soup. I scolded my husband and went to buy steamed buns for me. I bought a corn dumpling, two barbecued pork buns, a steamed bun, and a white rice porridge, all of which were eaten in my stomach. It filled my stomach, which had not eaten rice since the day before giving birth.

Just like now, my mother-in-law’s main job is to take care of my eldest brother’s child, and I have to take care of my own child. My father-in-law also asked me for money to buy a car, saying that he wanted to pick up and drop off the child. He said that each of the two brothers would contribute 15,000, so give it to him. When I bought an electric car for my mother-in-law to pick up the kids, I immediately replied that I had no money. I take care of my children one at my parents’ house and the other by myself. This is such a shameless reason. My eldest brother sometimes wins and loses thousands in a day playing mahjong, and he takes care of the kids for him. Why should I be the one who takes care of the kids when I buy them? And I am now a stay-at-home mom with no income.

I used to not care about anything. People said that marrying two brothers into a family was not good, but I didn’t believe it. Now I know that I am really heartbroken!

First, let’s talk about a family around me. Two brothers married their wives in the same year. However, the mother-in-law obviously treats the two daughters-in-law differently. The eldest daughter-in-law couldn't speak and was straight-tempered. Not long after she got married, she completely offended her mother-in-law. As a result, her mother-in-law never paid attention to the children of the eldest son's family. Even if there was food at home, she would secretly give it to the children of her younger son's family.

The eldest daughter-in-law also cried and made trouble, but in return she was scolded by her mother-in-law and incomprehensible by the man. Later, she stopped making trouble, just ignored her mother-in-law and did whatever she wanted. Now that the mother-in-law is old and it is her turn to take care of her, the eldest daughter-in-law refuses to take her mother-in-law over no matter what. Now the two families are quarreling.

If you have two brothers at home, if you can meet an old man who is sensible and unbiased, your life will definitely be very happy. But if you meet a partial mother-in-law, the brothers will turn against each other. No matter what it is, life has to be lived, so it is better to choose a happy way.