Is the engagement fee for the man or the woman?

Whether the engagement fee is paid by the man or the woman can refer to the following points:

First, the engagement ceremony is usually held in the woman's home or wedding hotel, so the expenses are generally borne by the woman's home.

Secondly, it is believed that when a woman is engaged, the man will give the bride price money to her, which usually includes the cost of holding an engagement party.

Thirdly, in some local customs, the woman will invite the man and his colleagues to the hotel for dinner, and the expenses will be borne by the woman. In some areas, women also hold engagement parties, and men pay for them. This form is called "banquet ceremony".

Fourth, the two sides can also discuss that the woman provides a specific amount of fees and the man pays the fees to the woman. If the fee still exists, the woman can refund it, and vice versa.

If there are differences between the two sides, how to solve them is as follows:

In most cases, the husband and wife are in the same place, and they may choose to hold a banquet together. In this case, the expenses are generally borne by both parents.

On the issue of the betrothed party, if there are differences between the two sides, we should first conduct full communication and consultation and try our best to reach an understanding. If it still can't be solved, you can consider seeking judicial relief. When handling the wedding, both parties should pay attention to sign a clear contract, stipulate the cost, time, venue and related matters, and keep the evidence for future reference.

To sum up, the specific situation of engagement fee payment varies according to regional and family customs, and it is suggested to decide according to local customs and personal circumstances.

Legal basis:

People's Republic of China (PRC) Civil Code

Article 1042

Arranging, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are prohibited. It is forbidden to ask for property through marriage. Bigamy is prohibited. Spouses are prohibited from living together with others. Domestic violence is prohibited. Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.

The people's court shall support the request of the parties to return the bride price paid according to the custom if it is found that it belongs to the following circumstances:

(1) Both parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities;

(2) Both parties have gone through the marriage registration formalities, but they have not lived together;

(3) premarital payment, causing difficulties to the payer. The application of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph is conditional on the divorce of both parties. "