Should the bridesmaid be chosen by the man or the woman?

The man.

The best man is usually the man’s brother, so the man chooses it. The bridesmaid is usually the woman’s sister, so the woman chooses it. However, this is not a rule and can be negotiated by both parties. If the man does not have a suitable best man, he can also ask the woman to find one. If the woman does not have a suitable bridesmaid, the man can also be responsible.