Idolated Andy Lau 13 forced his father to jump into the sea, Yang Lijuan: If he had his life over, he wouldn't make that mistake again.

This is a story of losing one's soul in the wind of idolization and then realizing self-salvation in pain. -inscription

In August 2009, Andy Lau was photographed by the media on a private jet with a woman. They are so close that their fingers are always clasped.

The next day, Andy Lau personally left an apology letter on the official website of Huazai Tiandi:

The content is roughly as follows:

Andy Lau was a perfect idol at that time, and it was the first time in his 40-year acting career that he publicly apologized to the media.

The reason is: hidden marriage.

In the early years, Jackie Chan talked about Andy Lau's hidden marriage in an interview:

"In fact, many people in the circle know that Andy Lau is married, but everyone is keeping it a secret, and no one dares to disclose it.

Because there are so many female fans in Andy Lau, if this secret becomes public, someone will really commit suicide for him. "

In fact, I really can't blame Andy Lau's hidden marriage.

It all started with the news that sensationalized the whole country in 2007: female fans were obsessed with Andy Lau, and 69-year-old father committed suicide by jumping into the sea.

At that time, 17-year-old Yang Lijuan went to Beijing six times and went to Hong Kong three times for the sake of Andy Lau. In order to show his daughter Andy Lau, the 69-year-old father did not hesitate to sell his house to have his kidney cut off and go to Hong Kong, so he still owed a high-interest loan of 1 1000 yuan.

Finally, the day after my daughter met Andy Lau, my old father jumped in a remote dock in Hong Kong, leaving only a 70,000-word suicide note.

This "daughter-loving" old father sacrificed his life just to let his daughter Yang Lijuan meet his idol Andy Lau alone.

Yang Lijuan finally lost his favorite father because of idolization. At this time, Andy Lau refused to meet Yang Lijuan again and was labeled as "cold-blooded and heartless" by the media.

At that time, this farce ended in "both losses."

Only a few people know that this story has a real ending after 14 years.

1978, Andy Lau 17 years old.

That year, Yang Lijuan was born in an ordinary teacher's family in Agan Town, Lanzhou.

My father, Yang, got a daughter when he was almost 40 years old. He regards his daughter as a treasure and is almost obedient to her.

The old father once said, "As long as his daughter is happy, he can do anything".

At that time, Southern Weekend reported about the father and daughter.

The first thing was that my daughter Yang Lijuan wanted to drink Red Bull, so my penniless old father went to the store and stole it. I was caught stealing for the second time.

The second thing is that my father Yang will personally bathe and rub the 20-year-old, and the family doesn't feel anything wrong.

During the period of 1994, Andy Lau became famous for a long time, and was nominated for the Golden Awards many times, with many fans.

In this year, Yang Lijuan dreamed of Andy Lau.

No one expected that this dream changed the trajectory of her life.

One night in 1994, 16-year-old Yang Lijuan had such a dream: "There is a picture on the wall, on both sides of the head of the portrait, which reads: You came to see me especially, and you came to see me with true feelings."

Later, I saw my classmates holding posters of Andy Lau. Later, after repeated memories by Yang Lijuan, it was confirmed that the person on the portrait was Andy Lau.

In the days that followed, Yang Lijuan often dreamed of Andy Lau.

She believes that Andy is the only thrill for her. As long as Andy Lau sees her, he will fly with her.

So, Yang Lijuan began her crazy worship journey. The wall of her house was covered with posters of the King of Heaven, and she made a heavy vow: she would never get married until she met Andy Lau.

I don't know if it's a real coincidence or if the father wants to please his daughter. On the day when her daughter told her father that she dreamed of Andy Lau, her father Yang told her daughter:

I had the same dream.

At this time, Yang Lijuan felt that Andy Lau was the only thrill for her.

In order to worship the star Andy Lau, Yang Lijuan, who is still in junior high school, even asked to drop out of school. The old father was eager to protect his daughter and finally agreed to her unreasonable request.

At that time, my daughter dropped out of school at home, did not go out, did not find a job, and did not make friends. She watched all the movies in Andy Lau and sang all the songs in Andy Lau.

My mother is just a housewife, and my old father retired in advance in order to realize his daughter's wish to see Andy Lau.

Since then, helping my daughter to idolize has become my father's only occupation.

However, in order to idolize, the originally poor family has now become destitute.

1997, my father borrowed1.10,000 yuan at high interest rate to support Yang Lijuan's dream of idolization, and reported it to Hong Kong Tourist Group.

The tour group's itinerary is tight and orderly, and they go home after each scenic spot. How can you meet a busy man like Andy Lau?

I didn't see Andy Lau during this trip to Hong Kong, so my family went home on a whim and was depressed.

In this regard, Yang Lijuan is extremely disappointed.

However, this pot of cold water, not only did not douse the flame that she sought audience with Andy Lau, but the raging fire that she wanted to see the king in her heart was even more prosperous.

In 2003, in order to satisfy his daughter's idol wish, my father even sold his family's house, and the family moved to the house rented by 400 yuan every month.

In order to see Andy Lau, father and daughter often disappear.

In 2004, after learning that Andy Lau was going to Gansu to shoot world without thieves, Yang Lijuan stood on the eighth floor of her house from morning till night, expecting to meet Andy Lau, but she didn't wait for Andy Lau until the crew's car left Gansu.

How much hope there is, how much disappointment there is.

I thought I could meet my idol, but I didn't succeed. Yang Lijuan, who had a nervous breakdown, made a scene at home all day.

Not long after, Yang Lijuan heard that Andy Lau was going to give a concert at the Workers' Stadium.

Her father bought her a ticket for 1, Zone A in 680 yuan, but it was not until the concert scene that Yang Lijuan discovered that the seat she bought was in row 1, which was too far away from the stage in Andy Lau, and it was impossible to get close to Tianwang.

The next day, the unwilling father and daughter tried to stay in Andy Lau's hotel, hoping to meet the heavenly king.

But the result is still disappointing.

Yang Lijuan, who lost control, committed suicide at home and was rescued by her mother.

Yang Lijuan's parents were very upset when they saw their daughter's infatuation and failure to get what she wanted.

In order to satisfy her daughter's wish, Yang's father borrowed money to sell the house in idolatry to pay her daughter's daily expenses. Yang Lijuan doesn't seem to feel the helplessness of his parents.

In the process of searching for Andy Lau everywhere, she told her parents: You don't care about me now, and I won't care about you if I follow Andy Lau.

The house was sold, and everything that could be borrowed was borrowed. Now my old father can't think of any other way to provide idolatry for Yang Lijuan. In desperation, he thought of selling Shen.

In 2005, in order to satisfy his daughter's idolization, Yang's father even decided to sell Shen to raise money.

When Yang Fu's words came out, a stone stirred up a thousand waves, and public opinion was in an uproar, and various media in the country rushed to report them.

I heard that my old father supported me like this, and Yang Lijuan thought very "thoughtful":

It is too risky to sell Shen, so it is better to borrow money.

At this point, Andy Lau's agent saw relevant reports and rushed to Gansu overnight to persuade Yang Lijuan to treat idolization rationally and not to be confused for a moment.

Andy Lau himself also publicly responded: "It is disloyal and unfilial to ask my father to sell the house and come to see me."

At this point, Yang Lijuan seems to see a wave of dividends brought to her by the media effect.

She frantically contacted the media, trying to pressure Andy Lau through the media.

During this period, the media did make a lot of efforts for her.

Some media said that Wu Ke, whose figure is body double, is from Andy Lau, hoping to bring her some comfort.

But when Yang Lijuan saw that it wasn't the real Andy Lau, he was very angry.

Her parents were very angry and said that it was disrespectful. You are deceiving us with a fake Andy Lau!

Everything comes to him who waits, and all kinds of extreme events finally caught Andy Lau's attention.

On March 25th, 2007, with the help of the media, Yang Lijuan, who struggled for more than ten years in idolization, finally got in touch with his idol at a fan meeting in Andy Lau.

This time, she was arranged by the staff to go on stage to talk with Andy Lau and take photos.

Although their meeting only lasted 10 seconds, it can be seen from the photos taken by them that Yang Lijuan was very happy.

However, the next day, March 26th, 2007, a news that Yang's father jumped into the sea in Hong Kong was widely published.

Along with the newspaper, Yang Lijuan's father left a seven-page suicide note.

In the suicide note, Yang's father cursed Andy Lau, saying that he was "like many people" to his daughter, "he didn't see her alone and sign her name", "it's unfair" and "it's cruel". He doesn't know how much we've paid. "

It turned out that Yang Lijuan was not satisfied with the meeting, thinking that the meeting time was too short, and it ended before he could see Andy's face clearly.

She asked the media to send a message to Andy Lau to spend 90 minutes alone with him.

But this request was rejected by Andy Lau.

After that, she compressed the time to 10 minutes, but Andy Lau still disagreed.

However, no one expected that this farce turned into a tragedy.

Yang Fu was forced to die just to let her daughter see Andy Lau.

At the end of the suicide note, Yang Lijuan's father wrote:

"I'm dead, you Andy Lau also want to see our children, or die unsatisfied. If you can't see it, God bless. "

Yang Lijuan's father's last wish was: "You should visit Yang Lijuan, sign her name and save her. Except for you, she has been isolated from the world, and only you are her inner call. "

And Yang Lijuan's mother, while crying, said "justice" for her daughter:

My husband can't die in vain. My daughter must see Andy again.

But his father's death didn't awaken Yang Lijuan from the dream of idolatry.

She put all the blame on Andy Lau and asked Andy Lau to take responsibility for her father's death.

This incident shocked the whole country, and Andy Lau here fell into the trough of his life, becoming the target of public criticism, being attacked and drowned by public opinion.

He also receives many phone calls from fans every day: If we don't see Yang Lijuan, we will follow in her father's footsteps. It's up to you.

Years later, Andy Lau mentioned it in a program and told the truth about it, which made him depressed and unable to work normally. Later, he saw a psychiatrist and walked out slowly.

In fact, Andy Lau also paid off Yang Lijuan's debt anonymously, but didn't tell her.

Later, Yang Lijuan's wish to see Andy Lau failed, and she began to sue Andy Lau for compensation of 300,000 yuan, but she finally lost.

In the film "Later Us" directed by Rene Liu, there is a classic line:

Later, we had everything except us.

Yang Lijuan's later, 12 years later, entered the age of no doubt and was met by Lu Yu.

Now, she is still alone, working as a gold medal promoter in the supermarket. Her colleagues rated her as easy-going, kind and hardworking.

She and her mother rented a humble public rental house, with a rent of 1000 yuan a year. On the concrete floor, there is only a coffee table, a sofa and a bed.

Apart from her mother, she has few friends to communicate with, and she doesn't play mobile phones or watch media networks. Her work and family have a straight life track every day.

Lu Yu asked her, "Don't you think he is innocent? He was dragged into something, and he was dragged in without asking his advice. "

Yang Lijuan did not give a definite answer. Perhaps the "bad feelings" in her heart have not really been put down.

In the program, talking about idolatry in the past, Yang Lijuan confronted the mistakes she made when she was young, saying that if she had to live again, she would never do that.

She said: "I ignored the feelings of my family at that time and made them bear too much for me, both economically and spiritually."

Now, she has learned to be self-reliant, take care of and cherish her mother, live a simple life and have her own beliefs. This is not a sober and calm self-salvation.

Lu Yu's interview with Yang Lijuan coincided with the release of Nezha.

Lu Yu and watched the film together, when the villain "Shen" in the film said:

When "prejudice in people's hearts is a mountain", Yang Lijuan sitting in the audience could not help crying.

Yang Lijuan's tragedy is that she is caught in a strong idolization trend, but lost in the absurd idolization trend, and takes the illusory life as a reality.

What's more sad is that as a teacher and good friend who has been engaged in education for many years, he should have been wise and rational, should have poured out his heart and been the guide of his daughter's life, but he chose to indulge and get lost with her.

In the end, my father achieved the same goal by hook or by crook, and left her cruelly, leaving her completely helpless.

Everyone has dreams at every stage. Your dreams can't hurt others, and you can't let others pay for yourself.

At the end of the program, Yang Lijuan once asked Lu Yu a question: Who will really care about me?

In fact, in the era of traffic changes, no one will remember this tragedy 14 years ago, and no one will think about what kind of life she lived after 14 years.

Fortunately, after experiencing chaos and accidents, Yang Lijuan, now in his thirties, understands himself and lives in the present, which is a kind of redemption.

Yang Lijuan's life also tells us:

The real wisdom in life is to stay awake in the confusion of desire.

Life is not to let the past go, but to correct the future with the past.

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