How can I be a good wife?

Good women thrive, and bad women destroy three generations.

As the saying goes, "a good seedling is half a grain, and a good wife is half a blessing." When transplanting rice seedlings, if the seedlings are excellent, the yield of millet can be increased by half; A good wife is a blessing for the rest of my life.

In this regard, grandma said: women are feng shui at home, women are safe, families are prosperous, and families are prosperous. So, you must find a good woman to marry.

The nephew was puzzled and asked, "What kind of woman is a good woman? Good-looking genes are good for the next generation. Now is the era of Yan value. "

Grandma smiled and said:

If you marry a wife, you don't marry a woman. A good woman is not a beauty, but a heart color. A good wife is not her appearance, but her heart.

Here, grandma earnestly warned her nephew that a good woman has three signs:

Be considerate and reasonable

In love, when the woman is in a temper, you will have the patience to coax. However, after marriage, the daily necessities in life and the contradiction between parents can all cause quarrels between the two.

In addition, married men bear heavier responsibilities and naturally have no extra energy to take care of women's unreasonable troubles. Therefore, you must find a good woman who is considerate and reasonable when you get married.

A considerate and considerate woman is a healing medicine in marriage. They are rational, moderate and know how to control their emotions.

More importantly, she can honor her in-laws, know your warmth and coldness, and teach her children well. With such a woman at home, the family atmosphere must be very harmonious and warm.

Diligent housekeeping can make a living.

Now that men and women are equal, the division of labor between men and women is no longer obvious. Without strict requirements, a woman must be able to do housework and cook well, but she must be able to keep the house.

Wealth is the material guarantee of a family. A woman who knows how to keep a house, rich or poor, will try her best to keep the house in order and have a planned life.

On the contrary, a woman who spends a lot of money doesn't know how to keep a house, and she will only waste her husband's hard money. Dress up all day, but the house is in a mess and nobody cares. Such a woman is defeated when she marries back.

Enough trust and love

Trust is the foundation of all feelings. A good woman will give her husband enough trust and love.

If your work is very busy, your wife can't understand your busyness, always being suspicious, questioning the time when you go home, not replying to information in time, etc. Such a life is like being privatized without freedom.

So: "Three generations of good women prosper, and three generations of bad women perish". Marriage is to marry a woman and go home as the "fresh blood" of the family.

If a good woman, like a lotus, takes root in the family pool and brings a fragrance. But if it is a bad woman, it is like a drop of ink dripping into a glass of water, hurting one piece.

After listening to grandma, the nephew seems to understand why his parents are so opposed to his marriage.

Although today's marriage events are no longer the words of parents' matchmakers. But marriage is a family event after all, which affects the life of the whole family in the future. It is really selfish to decide to get married so impulsively.

A good husband with a mistress has fewer disasters. If you marry a good husband, you must marry a good one.

After seeing my nephew realize his problems, my grandmother went on to say, "If a wife is virtuous, her husband will suffer less. If you marry a wife, you must be virtuous. "

In a family, if a woman is virtuous, her husband is unlikely to run errands and make mistakes.

What is a good wife? That is, filial piety to parents, raising children and helping husbands; Husband has mistakes to correct, husband has negligence, husband has help and husband has difficulties to bear.

Women play multiple roles in the family, not only as husbands' wives, but also as children's mothers and in-laws' daughters-in-law. Having a good wife at home can not only make her husband have no worries, but also help her to make suggestions on her career.

Here, grandma told her nephew a story from Historical Records:

As we all know, Yan Zi, the prime minister of Qi State, is short and plain. But his coachman is handsome and burly.

Because Stefanie often sits in the car, no one sees her. Coaches always sit in front of the carriage and show off all day.

One day, the driver came home and his wife asked him to write a divorce letter to avoid being implicated in the future. The coachman was puzzled and asked his wife why.

The lady said that a great man like Yan Zi always has a humble attitude and no shelf, but you are just a small coachman, but you are self-righteous and arrogant, which shows that you have no ambition. If this continues, it will cause great disaster.

Hearing this, the coachman felt ashamed and began to restrain himself and become humble and generous. Yan Zi also saw the change of coachman. It didn't take long to promote him and become his right-hand man.

This story just confirms a well-known saying: behind a successful man, there must be a great woman.

In other words, a reasonable and caring wife can achieve her husband's career by going up a storey still higher. And a domineering and vain wife will often harm her husband and even the whole family.

Grandma's words are not against her nephew's marriage. Just, patiently persuade him to realize how important it is to choose a woman to get married, and don't act impulsively.

After hearing this, my nephew decided to take one year as the deadline to get to know each other again. But when the woman heard about it, she immediately broke up. The nephew is not annoyed, but he is glad that he got grandma's advice and didn't make a wrong decision.

I hope everyone can understand that whether a family is happy, whether future generations can grow up and whether parents can live in their old age is closely related to the hostess in this family. Therefore, when choosing a wife, we must keep our eyes open and be cautious.