Third, you have grown up. August 12- 13 lesson 1

On August 12~ 13, the first active parenting class led by Xie Yuting was held in the public conference room of Hongbo Hotel, Shenzhen Overseas Chinese Town. The students were all very young, with children under two years old, three fathers and one expectant mother. I'm glad to see more young parents and unmarried students coming to the classroom of positive discipline.

For a long time, parents and teachers have generally implemented a discipline method based on rewards and punishments, with the aim of controlling children. Active discipline is a different way, which allows children to concentrate on solving problems instead of passively accepting punishment and reward. Children who grow up in a positive way are more emotional and have the ability to think independently.

In the "ability giant" activity, the friends exchanged roles, and each experienced the feeling of being scolded by a child and being scolded by a parent, which was unpleasant; Followed by four R activities to recover from mistakes and repair parent-child relationship; We are all human beings, we are all angry and we all make mistakes. When we scold our children and even can't help hitting them, we can immediately detect, apologize to our children, tell what we have done that may hurt each other, and provide solutions to the problems and implement them immediately. Our parents have demonstrated that children will imitate their parents' behavior and actively solve problems.

Tutor Xie Yuting shared the knowledge of "the brain in the palm" with his friends. Positive discipline does not require parents not to lose their temper, because it is impossible. What we can do is: when we are angry, take a few deep breaths and wait until we feel better.

The "Choice Wheel" activity allows parents and children to brainstorm and make a "choice wheel". When children are challenging, they can choose the advice on the "wheel of choice" instead of losing their temper, swearing or throwing things, hitting people and so on.

The two-day course ended in a blink of an eye, friends, we don't need perfect parents or perfect children!

Remember, you are not alone in practicing positive discipline! We've always been here!