Why are travel disappointments always greater than expectations?

I always feel that the disappointment in travel is greater than the hope. It is a matter of mentality. Lower your expectations.

Lower your expectations. One scene, one culture. Don’t always ask every scenic spot to suit your needs. Travel for everyone. Purposes, requirements, and hopes are different. Each scenic spot cannot satisfy everyone who comes to visit. Just like eating, tastes are different and needs are different. Meat is delicious, but some people don’t eat it. Wine is delicious, but some people don’t. People don’t drink. The principle is the same.

Another situation is that you go traveling and you are in the mood to go happily when you have time. When you go to the scenic spot, you will imagine something different, with a high degree of commercialization and noisy crowds. Food bags and sundries thrown everywhere, expensive snacks, souvenirs, and all kinds of uncivilized phenomena will make you disappointed and leave disappointed.

Another situation is that you have been to some scenic spots with particularly beautiful scenery, and an idea arises in your mind that this is the best scenic spot you have seen, so you have a weight and measure, look there. It's not as good as what you've seen, so I'm disappointed.

In fact, there is no need to compare when traveling. Each scenic spot has its own characteristics and cultural heritage. It is just a change of taste, and there is no need to feel disappointed.

The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment.

@ often see this sentence: "Either travel or study, both body and soul must be on the road. I feel that life is a process of experience, and traveling and studying are indeed the two things that we cannot live up to. Something." Four years ago, a female teacher hurt the hearts of countless office workers when she said, "The world is so big, I want to see it." Music talent teacher Gao Xiaosong said: "Life is not only about the present, but also poetry and distance." We often confuse travel with tourism. What is tourism? Go to a certain scenic spot, sleep in a hotel, take a car to the scenic spot, and then walk around mechanically to take pictures. Finally, when you go home and ask questions, you only know where you went and nothing else. What is travel? Let’s use an advertising slogan to describe it: Life is a journey. It doesn’t matter the destination. What matters is the scenery along the way and the mood of seeing the scenery. There are always disappointments and surprises in life. Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: If you don’t study, you will be just a postman after traveling thousands of miles.

Indeed, some people will feel this way after traveling. After analysis,

The reasons are nothing more than the following: On the one hand, it is related to the high expectations before traveling.

Such people often do not understand the scenery they will see, the people they will meet, and the things they will experience during the journey. Instead, they think too much about the journey, which leads to confusion after the journey. A relatively large gap. The second is the psychological reason why listening to the scenery is not as good as listening to the scenery.

This is a real and regular phenomenon.

When we listen to the scenery, it is easier for us to use our imagination, subjectively add some beautiful things, and create feelings of yearning. But in the actual process of traveling, we are often too lazy to think and imagine, and just walk around aimlessly. And when encountering difficulties, there is also a lack of ways to solve problems. Without constant experience, encouragement, and knowledge, it is impossible to cultivate new points of interest, so such a journey will be relatively boring. Third, it is true that the environment, landscape, infrastructure, and core attractions of some tourist destinations are not as beautiful as advertised.

This is bound to be an exaggeration, and when tourists really face it Produce a large gap.

In this case, excessive publicity of the scenic spot led to tourists' high expectations, which actually caused a greater gap after the visit and aggravated tourists' dissatisfaction. Fourth, there is another situation where tourists’ travel planning itself is not scientific, but they travel passively

For example, during the Golden Week, which has been prominent in recent years, everyone takes vacations intensively and travels in spurts. The travel time, accommodation time, dining time, and sightseeing time are all almost the same, causing a blowout.

The passenger flow capacity of a scenic spot far exceeds the comfort level of tourism, and the sense of experience drops sharply, making these tourists suffer from all kinds of troubles and miserable. Finally, I returned home exhausted. It’s inevitable to feel disappointed and dissatisfied with travel.

To avoid this situation, you can make targeted preparations in the following aspects, which will definitely change the travel experience:

First, develop the habit of scientific travel every time Make scientific plans before traveling. Make good arrangements for time, financial resources, whom to go with, and achieve a balance between work and rest. The travel route experience and consumption level must be planned and targeted.

The second is to try your best to cultivate your own ability to appreciate the beauty of travel, improve your ability to feel the beauty of the journey, supplement your knowledge system in all aspects, and make yourself a relatively knowledgeable person.

For example, when traveling, we will easily encounter knowledge about geology and geography, knowledge about national culture, knowledge about intangible cultural heritage, worldliness, literacy in poetry, literature, and prose, and knowledge about collections. Archaeological knowledge, history and culture, natural history knowledge...as well as knowledge of landscapes, geography, and climate.

You also need to master certain skills necessary for modern travel, such as booking cars, booking tickets, booking rooms, ordering meals... These will greatly improve your travel experience when used in the future. Spend.

For example, Confucius actually had a very insightful discussion on tourism and landscape. These are the general guidelines for Chinese landscape tourism for thousands of years. Just imagine, if you can get this kind of knowledge from the place where your ancestors were, and trigger a buzz, then you will undoubtedly become an expert in tourism.

For another example, my country's "Book of Songs" and "Chu Ci" contain a large number of sentences describing natural features, some of which are very beautiful, such as "Guan Guan Ju Jiu, in the river island". Another example is the description of "Kunpeng" and "Jiuzhou" in "Zhuangzi", which is very arousing people's imagination. There are a large number of descriptions of historical features in other historical classics. If you study these regularly, your interest in traveling will undoubtedly be greatly enhanced. The last way is to make yourself a thoughtful person, write travel notes at any time, and record your experiences, experiences, inspirations, harvests, etc. It is better to be able to form "beautiful articles" and even better to be able to take beautiful photos. In this way, over time, you will definitely be able to greatly improve your experience in travel.

That's because you set your expectations too high.

Because I am used to self-challenging travel, I set my goals relatively low before each trip, so it is easier to be satisfied and not disappointed.

In addition, if you make adequate preparations or mental preparations for various unexpected situations during the trip, you will not ruin your mood when encountering things.

I don’t know if everyone will feel that this place is just like this when they return from their trip, and it often fails to meet their expectations when they first arrived. Why is this? I think it's often a psychological effect. Nowadays, urban work and life are fast-paced and stressful. Traveling is no longer about looking at the local customs and customs as in the past, but about relaxing, regardless of the specific place. After the trip, the mentality will naturally change. I think:

Because after returning from the trip, I have to face the continued work/busy/tired life. Traveling is a reason to temporarily escape reality and live a contented life. During travel, we don’t have to consider interpersonal relationships, rush between bosses and subordinates, have meals in a hurry for meetings, and live wearing masks. Travel allows us to face our own hearts, slow down life, and feel the beauty of nature.

In my daily work, I rush around in various departments and activities every day, and my energy is easily exhausted. So I go out to travel every long vacation. I went to Tianyuan Expo on New Year’s Day, Zhengzhou on Labor Day, Wuhan on Dragon Boat Festival, and Vietnam on National Day.

Every trip allows me to quickly plunge into an unfamiliar environment without having to worry about any trivial matters at work. I am who I am and I play well on my own. It can be said that traveling is my energy refueling station, allowing me to re-adjust my state and be full of energy to continue facing things at work. And every time I go back to work and look forward to the next trip, I still feel quite reluctant to start working again. So it is inevitable to be disappointed.

What is the purpose of traveling? People often say that if you have no desires, you will be strong. Without hobbies and desires, there will be no weaknesses. How much hope do you have in a simple trip? Just be happy every day! Traveling: Eat different things, see different things, and experience different things is the daily routine of traveling. Do you expect to get spiritual solace from a trip? It’s a bit difficult! Even if you don't go out and stay at home, isn't your life full of disappointments? Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, except for life and death, which are trivial matters. Go out and play a few more times, and you will find that the last time was not the worst! Haha!

People who really like traveling love the feeling of traveling. No matter what kind of scenery they see, they will not be disappointed.

One is the feeling of relaxation.

The second is the feeling of sharing happiness with friends.

The third is the joy of discovering beautiful scenery during the journey.

The fourth is the feeling of being in love with the scenery you see.

The fifth is the feeling of understanding history and savoring the past and remembering the present.

Sixth, different customs give people a sense of novelty and joy. etc.

People who don’t like traveling will not be passionate when they are in the scene, and will not take the initiative to discover beauty. They always passively compare the scenery in front of them with someone’s description. , contrasting imaginary scenery with real scenery, so they will be disappointed. It will give rise to the feeling of regretting for life for not getting here, and regret for life for arriving here!

It’s normal to have more disappointments than expectations when traveling. We always have beautiful conjectures and longings for unknown things, but the facts may not be consistent with the popular saying, "Ideals are full, reality is skinny."

We usually choose travel destinations based on word-of-mouth and pictures, and some information is unreliable. For example, you buy a product in an online store. The quality and price are not what the store claims. You want to give a negative review, but the customer service lady says that if you give a positive review, she will give you cash back. Assess the situation and make a deal. There are also people who fall in love online. They are fascinated by the person in the photo or video, and only after meeting in person do they realize that the "photo scam" is true. The same goes for traveling. If you raise your expectations based on someone else's recommendation, you will definitely be disappointed.

Because we add content to a certain landscape on our own and beautify it deep in our hearts. When we arrive at the scene, we discover the so-called majestic momentum, the so-called majestic mountains and rivers, and the so-called scenery. It is picturesque, just ordinary, no different from where I am. In fact, if a hundred people look at a scenery, they are destined to have mixed opinions because of different perspectives and different perceptions. The scenery is still the same, but the people are not the same people.

In fact, when we travel and choose a certain place as a travel destination, we must have our own requirements, whether to emphasize culture or scenery. As long as it can satisfy the original intention, there is no need to demand perfection. In this way, disappointment will be reduced and the journey will be more enjoyable. It will be more interesting.