Boys who kneel easily, please stay away from them!

There is a hot search topic that I still remember. A sophomore met her ex-boyfriend in a hotel. Although accompanied by three female companions, the girl was brutally killed and the boy chose to commit suicide.

The boyfriend of the party asked the girl to meet at the hotel on the grounds of returning something.

The boy knelt on the ground, pulled out a knife from his body and pointed it at himself, apologized to the girl and threatened her to get back together. The girl strongly disagreed, and the boy immediately stabbed the girl's carotid artery with the prepared knife. The girl died after being rescued, and the boy committed suicide.

At that time, the school had just started. In her sophomore year, her classmates rated her as "kind" and "easy to get along with others" and so on.

I feel sorry for the loss of this young life, but I want to remind those girls that boys who kneel easily should stay away as soon as possible-they are terrible!

The deceased is gone, and it is difficult for us to know from the parties how they usually get along. However, from a psychological point of view, it is very likely that boys' "kneeling" and "threatening with a knife" have also occurred in previous relationships, and girls may also choose to forgive because of kneeling.

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This scene reminds me of the cases I have contacted.

After a girl fell in love with her boyfriend, she found that the boy was too suspicious and controlling, and often checked his mobile phone.

She couldn't stand it. She broke up. But the boys repeatedly promised that it wouldn't happen again.

After the two made up, the boys strengthened the monitoring of the girl's mobile phone and whereabouts. The girl broke up again.

The boy disagreed, knelt down and begged the girl to forgive him, and suggested that "two people try for another month, and if it is really inappropriate, let go." At the same time, he threatened to "follow her if you don't want to get back together." Anyway, your home address and work unit all know. "

The girl was soft-hearted and worried about being retaliated by her boyfriend, so she finally chose to try with him for a month. But after a few days of getting back together, the girl couldn't bear it, broke up again, and the boys began to harass her.

Look, another boy is kneeling.

In these cases, contradictions always seem to exist: on the one hand, kneeling seems to be extremely sincere, on the other hand, there are threats and intimidation, which makes people feel scared and scared.

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Many girls are soft-hearted and are deeply moved when they see their boyfriends kneeling.

Thinking, "As the saying goes, there is gold under one's knee. Look, he's willing to kneel down and save me. I really should know that I was wrong and I will forgive him again. " So, two people got back together.

Kneeling seems to be the most sincere expression of understanding mistakes. These girls are often only moved by the sincerity on the surface, but they don't know that there is a kind of control behind the action of "kneeling down".

These silly girls mistakenly take "kneeling" as a sign of love, and unconsciously become the puppets of others.

This kind of control is very subtle, it has no blatant instructions and orders, and even makes you feel powerless.

He made a mistake and he wanted to ask for forgiveness. Apologize, always have some sincerity, and this kind of boy who likes to kneel down, he firmly believes that "kneeling down" is always uncomfortable, and when he wants to ask for forgiveness, they often use "kneeling down" as a killer.

He is sounding out whether you will change your mind.

If you forgive him, he will succeed. After that, he will use countless times to "kneel down" to repeat the trick of demanding reunification.

Repeating the trick of kneeling will only make him fall into paranoid and intense emotions and forget to think about the root of the problem.

Once you are not moved by his "kneeling", his lost face will be exposed: intimidation, threats, extremes, larger foe. ...

He can't think of any other way to make you accept him except kneeling down. If "kneeling down" fails, he will surely become angry from embarrassment.

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It happened that I came into contact with some cases, all about the thoughts of male parties.

His girlfriend wants to break up with him. He was very sad and wanted to save her. The two of them often quarrel, and in serious cases, they break the furniture at home.

Afterwards, boys will kneel down and beg for mercy, saying that they are "not human".

The girl chose to forgive and to be together. Quarrels are constantly being staged, and more and more people are "kneeling".

Girlfriend can't stand it, and resolutely break up. After the separation, he cut his wrist with a blade and sent photos to his girlfriend to take care of him.

As soon as his girlfriend saw it, she rushed him to the hospital. When he recovered, he did it again, even hitting his head against the wall, torturing himself and attracting his girlfriend's attention.

He said frankly: this is just to keep his girlfriend around. He-he knows that his girlfriend is kind-hearted and will come. Invisible, the girl is under his control and at his disposal.

Girl, if a boy easily kneels to you and asks for forgiveness, please leave as soon as possible.

You know, you don't need him to kneel down, but you want to communicate with him and reach an understanding of the problems between you.

If a person easily kneels down to you, he is rigid and inflexible in solving your problems. He didn't know what else to do but kneel.

Kneeling is often considered as "giving up dignity". Imagine a person can give up his dignity. When you stop accepting it, what extreme method will he impose on you?

Don't "control" in the name of "apology".

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Behind the action of kneeling is a person's cognitive thinking, which is usually distorted and rigid.

In the face of breaking up, he wants to get back together, and an idea will appear in his mind: "How could I be broken up?"

Under the control of this idea, he felt angry, worried and scared, so he tried his best to keep the other half with him. Kneeling became his first choice.

His thoughts, behaviors and emotions are all expressed by his firm belief that "no one likes me".

Based on this belief, he will try his best to prevent her from leaving. There are many ways to stop it, including intimidation and kneeling.

His views on himself are ingrained and unshakable.

Once rejected, the belief that "nobody likes me" hidden in his body was activated, and he fell into deep fear.

He thought, you see, he turned me down, and no one really likes me.

Being rejected is a kind of dislike, which strengthens his idea that "no one likes me"

His idea was rejected again and again and deviated from the track. He didn't try to think that this person doesn't like him, and others can like him.

It is bound that he will become more and more extreme.

Girl, if your boyfriend always kneels down to you, asking for forgiveness and getting back together, please leave him as soon as possible.

A person who admits his mistakes and expresses his love to you is more manifested in his actions and emotions.

Kneeling or self-mutilation is just a way of control. He saw your weakness, saw your hesitation, and its deterrence is not simply measurable.

Once it breaks out one day, it will bring you destruction.