Kirio Hotel

0 1.

"If you become more and more indifferent, you think you have grown up, but you haven't. Be gentle when you grow up and be gentle with the whole world. "

Seeing this passage in Andy's circle of friends, my heart was instantly poked.

I found myself getting colder and colder and thought I had grown up. The more you grow up, the more mature you are, the more indifferent you are and the harder you work, thinking that this is what it is like to grow up.

This passage is accompanied by a photo. In the photo, Andy's sister is wearing a white cloth skirt, and her hair is a little messy by the sea breeze, which is quite beautiful. Behind her are houses with white walls and blue roofs and the sea of San Togno. She closed her eyes and immersed herself in it, with a quiet and comfortable smile on her face. The picture is really gentle and beautiful.

Actually, I just met Sister Andy. She is several years older than me, but she looks very mature. She started a business in Beijing before, and just came back for a few months to develop a branch. She has an international style as a whole, probably because of her frequent contact with foreigners because of her work nature, and she often went abroad when she was a graduate student. In short, she can feel that she has seen the world and experienced great storms.

Looking back on the last conversation with her, I can feel the tenderness in mature character from her, not the appearance and femininity, but a kind of cultivation and mind integrated into the bones. Talking about modesty and normality is too superficial. Let's call it the personality charm that makes people feel like spring breeze.

I think to grow up is to have a indestructible body and be invulnerable to diamonds. But in fact, having such a body and mind, while protecting yourself, also lost the interest in embracing the world.

Real growth and maturity will make people more and more gentle to the whole world.

02.

When I was a freshman, a little thing impressed me deeply. At that time, the school was in the suburbs and could only travel by bus. Friday night is usually the rush hour of the bus. One Friday, I squeezed into the car and found the counselor Miss Zhou and her boyfriend in the crowd.

The reason why it can be found is because the driver rudely shouted to a man in front of a bus full of students: "stand inside!" " That's the one with glasses! Say you! "

Everyone looked at him ... Sitting next to him was Miss Zhou. Miss Zhou has been separated from her boyfriend for a long time. I heard from my classmates that her boyfriend came to see her recently. Judging from their interaction, it must be her boyfriend.

After being yelled at for no reason, he went in for a while. They looked at each other and said nothing.

I was particularly puzzled at that time. What a shame to be yelled at by the driver. Who can stand it? If I were you, I would go back to export natural gas. But I saw that they looked relaxed and peaceful, as if talking about others.

Many years later, I was offended by the words of the front desk in a foreign hotel because of the trivial matter of meal coupons. I am angry and sad, but the other party is getting worse. Finally, I was hurt ten thousand times, and the good mood of the day was destroyed.

When I calmed down, I suddenly understood one thing. In fact, my mentality is still immature, hard but fragile, easily angered and easily injured, just like when I first met the counselor and his wife.

Real growth should not be more and more aggressive, but comfortable and arrogant. The more you grow up, the more cold and inviolable you should be, but gentle. People who are not gentle to the world are unlikely to be treated gently by the world.

03.

I once wrote an article in a newspaper that I thought was good, and both the reading volume and the praise volume reached a record high. However, many people in the comments said that it was shit, chicken soup, garbage, and words could not bear to look straight.

I felt very hurt when I first saw it, and then I couldn't help thinking about how to explain, how to refute, and how to fight back gracefully. But on second thought, no, it should not be such a reaction. I calm down and feel my emotions.

Why should I be angry? Because he's judging me? No, he is evaluating this article. I took the course of literary criticism in college, and I was deeply impressed by one class. The teacher said that once a literary work is completed, it is divorced from the author's own will, and the reader's interpretation of it has nothing to do with the author.

I'm relieved to think about it. It is wiser to find a way to accept yourself than to attack yourself. Although after a long time, I was worried that it was a bad review as soon as I saw the red dot on the comment, I accepted it all.

Acceptance does not mean acceptance, but once accepted, there will be no opposition and people will not become violent.

Maturity, to a certain extent, also means that you can convince yourself to understand the people and things around you. Acceptance is a compulsory course for every adult. The more you grow up, the more you can accept reality, not more and more realistic.

04.

People who are gentle and kind to others actually have great wisdom in their hearts because they are indifferent.

In life, when someone speaks ill of you or is offended intentionally or unintentionally, we will be very unhappy and want to have an attack. This is because we are separated.

The so-called separation means that you always feel different from others. How can he do this to me? Why did he do this to me? At this time, your sense of importance, superiority and dominance begin to encourage you to attack.

But what if you know who he did it to? Or maybe the other person happened to be upset, and you hit the gun? This is a probabilistic event at best.

In fact, we will be angry and want to attack, not because he did this to me, but because he did this to many people. Others may not feel it, but I feel it because I have a different heart. If you think so, you won't take it seriously.

When your separation heart rises, you should be aware of it. When you know that moment, the parting heart is weakening. For example, when you are angry, you realize "Oh, I am angry again", so you are not so angry.

I once saw a sentence that impressed me deeply-"anything that can make you feel strongly will control you in turn." How to look at things actually comes from ourselves. When we face others and the world with a peaceful mind, our hearts are actually more free, because we are not easily controlled by things.

Writer Kirio said: "Maturity means that you can let go of many things, be compassionate and be willing to look at the world with a good eye."

The more you grow up, the more you should be compassionate, kind and gentle. When we grow up to be real adults and have some experience, we will know more and more about everything in the world, and it is not easy for people. A mature person often finds that there are fewer and fewer strange people, and everyone has his difficulties.

May we be more and more gentle with the whole world in the process of growing up. May we all be treated gently by the world.

End.

Day 9 of the 365-day day shift camp without warning and extreme challenge