When someone comes to your hometown in the countryside, do you want to stay at home or in a hotel?

My wife told me something last night. A colleague in their company is about to give birth to a second child. My colleague and his wife came from the countryside and settled in the city, but their house was very small. When a child is born, four elderly people from both parties will come to take care of her. But he can't live at home, and now he is worried about where the old man will live. A group of colleagues in the city where he was born gave him advice in a few words.

Some people say, let the old people stay in hotels.

He said that was not possible. In rural areas, when relatives and friends came, they had to live at home no matter what they tried. When people come from the countryside and you let them stay in a hotel, they will think that you don't pay attention to them, don't respect them, and don't take good care of them. Will leave within two days.

Colleagues said that since they came to the city, they must abide by the rules of the city. You should tell them that staying in a hotel in the city means high treatment, not lax treatment.

That won't do, he replied.

Colleagues also said, let your parents stay in a hotel.

He thought for a while and said, no.

This matter was not resolved until after get off work.

Some colleagues said that if the two elderly people are together, there will definitely be conflicts.

He replied, No, the four old people on both sides get along very well together, there is no conflict at all, but there are conflicts when they are with my wife.

Colleagues asked, whose reason is this? Who is the troublemaker?

My wife has many things to do, he replied.

Now the colleagues have nothing to say.

As a rural person who has settled in the city. I understand the concerns of my wife, a colleague. I also understand the thinking of his colleagues. Because I have experienced the dual life of urban and rural areas, I feel the same way, and I know very well what people in these two groups think.

The above is a typical example of the collision between rural concepts and urban concepts. It is very interesting, but of course the person involved may not think so.

I remember my father told me something before. After my neighbor retired from a small position in the township, he took several friends and local specialties from his hometown in rural Shandong to Guangzhou to visit him. Uncle. The group was extremely disappointed when they returned and vowed never to go there again. According to them, after arriving in Guangzhou, they met the old man and he was very enthusiastic. But what they couldn't accept was that their uncle's family arranged for them to stay in a hotel that night instead of staying at home. This is one of them. The second thing is that they waited for a long time, and the cousins ??only showed up once and were never seen again, and they were also very cold. They feel they are being treated poorly. Before I came to the city, I heard about this, and I also felt that what his cousin's family did was not honest.

Actually, now that I think about it, I can particularly understand the elderly family. The old man must be very happy to see people from his hometown and his nephews from his hometown coming to visit him. I am in a different place, thinking about my hometown. How can you not be happy to see people from your hometown! As for not being allowed to live at home, they had three or four people there that time. Generally, housing in the city is quite tight, and there is a possibility that they won’t be able to live there at all. Their cousins, on the other hand, may have jobs and official duties and cannot arrange time at all. Unlike rural people, the most indispensable thing is time.

But from the perspective of rural people, they cannot be said to be wrong. In their concept, living at home means you are at home. Even if it is a little crowded, it doesn't matter. In other words, it seems more friendly and lively.

This is the contradiction, collision and misunderstanding caused by rural concepts encountering urban life.

However, with the development of society, more and more rural people have to leave their hometowns to make a living in cities, and they have more and more contact with urban people. They are also getting to know and experience more and more the way urbanites think, behave and live. At the same time, city people, especially those in big cities, have to rely on rural people who come to cities to work to survive. In contact with each other, they are also learning about ideas and practices that they originally thought were incredible. Although most of the time they just use the things they see and hear as conversation topics and jokes after dinner.

But after all, they are all understanding each other, whether both parties are willing or not. Both groups know that there are not only themselves in this society, but also other existences. We all know that there are other ideas and ways to deal with the same thing.

Hopefully this process will be faster.

For example, more and more Phoenix men or Phoenix women take their significant other back to their hometown in the countryside during the Chinese New Year and holidays. Relatives are increasingly choosing to arrange for them to stay in hotels in towns or counties.

In addition, thankfully, my parents are very reasonable. My mother came to the city to visit us. She couldn't live in a small place at home, so we arranged for her to live in a hotel. My mother was very understanding.

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