What are the misunderstandings of the Japanese in China?

China people have a deep misunderstanding about Japanese women. They think that Japanese women are gentle, have no opinions and listen to men, but this is not the case at all. Japanese women are gentle on the surface, but in fact they are very independent. I used to think that Japanese women had no status, but they were not. They pay attention to family status. She may not have a position in the company, but she has a position in the family, because the family is a woman's world. Japanese men are money-making machines. Go and have a look at it at noon. All the people who eat Italian food and French food in Japanese western restaurants are women. What about men? In Lamian Noodles's shop, you can eat Lamian Noodles in a sweat, or eat two Leng Fantuan in a taxi. Men and women are completely different.

Photos of Japanese male office workers in a hurry circulated on Twitter

Wan Zeng, a columnist who has been walking in Japan all the year round, said that in the past, Japanese women quit their jobs after getting married and concentrated on educating their husbands and children at home. However, due to the long-term economic depression in Japan, which directly affects her husband's income and leads to difficulties in family life, many young women now generally choose to continue to work to supplement their families after marriage, or earn pocket money by themselves.

Even so, there are still a considerable proportion of stay-at-home mothers in Japan, and the elderly in Japan hardly help their children with their children, and generally do not live with their children.

In contrast, in China, 80% or even 90% of middle-class women go to work, and by the time they retire, they have entered the rhythm of helping their children with their babies. Who is bitter and sweet for Chinese and Japanese women?

Yesterday, I went to Mei Tian in Osaka. Because I didn't have lunch, I was a little hungry at three o'clock in the afternoon, so I went to a new French bakery, asked for a piece of freshly baked handmade bread and ordered a cup of coffee.

This is a branch of a bakery, which is very popular in France and opened in Japan. Because the bread is delicious, there are often long queues. The people lining up in this bakery are basically women, except for young Japanese girls who are well dressed, who are fashionable and decent Japanese ladies.

When I started to take a sip of coffee, two Japanese ladies sitting next to me were talking and carefully cutting a sandwich cake with a knife and fork. This Japanese lady, who looks about 60 years old, seems to have just come back from a department store with a big discount, with N shopping paper bags from Mitsukoshi Isetan Department Store next to her. Both of them are well dressed, and one of them is wearing a handmade hat, which is very expensive at first sight. She has a delicate pink corsage on her chest. Their chat is about a recent trip to Australia and the smell of matcha chocolate in a fruit shop in Kobe 1050 yen. (1050 yen is about 80-85 RMB)

This morning, as usual, after running in the morning, I went to sweep the fallen leaves outside the courtyard wall. During this time, Japan is particularly cold, windy, and has a lot of fallen leaves, which seems to be endless every day. While I was diligently sweeping the floor, my Japanese neighbor's wife, who lives opposite my house, happened to be wearing a gorgeous kimono and was ready to go out. Looking at the back of my neighbor's 60-year-old wife from a distance, perhaps because of wearing a kimono, the small steps when walking are particularly soft and special, and I can't help but stay for a while.

Japanese women basically wear kimonos for adults, weddings, graduations or other formal ceremonies.

The neighbor's wife is a lecturer in Japanese kimono school, and she has profound attainments in wearing kimono and how to show its beauty. Her husband is tall and fierce. He must have been a handsome boy when he was young. According to her husband's self-introduction, when he was young, he played in a band and made several records. So far, he likes guitar, foreign languages and occasionally Chinese. Now, this handsome young man is obviously old and retired. Every day at home, he basically does nothing except take a walk in the morning and evening.

As for the wife, since her husband retired at home, she also retired from the post of "housewife" and left home. She also became a lecturer at the kimono school. She is very busy and is absent every day. Every time I go out to do business, my husband will drive the car out of the garage early, turn on the air conditioner and wait in the driver's seat devoutly.

Japanese women know how to enjoy life.

In our impression of China, Japan is a society where men are superior to women, and the social status of Japanese women is not high. There is nothing wrong with this understanding. Not long ago, I received a call from the global Chinese broadcasting network asking about maternity leave for Japanese women. I remember I answered that Japanese society and companies were not as good as China in this respect, because they didn't care much about women. Some conservative Japanese companies even hinted that female employees were pregnant or even resigned.

I'm telling the truth. There is indeed some preference for boys in Japanese society. But it is a big mistake to think that Japanese women have no status. Japanese women have status, but their status is not in society, but in family. In other words: men are superior to women in Japanese society, but women are superior to men in Japanese families. Japanese men are responsible for making money to support their families. Men are in charge of making money, but how to use and distribute the money they earn is entirely up to the hostess at home, and men can't get a word in.

Therefore, a Japanese man's pocket money may be only 30,000-50,000 yen a month, and he just stands in a crowded shop and eats a bowl of Lamian Noodles at noon, while a Japanese wife who arranges her life well, when her man is very busy in the morning and has Lamian Noodles or a dinner party for lunch, she may also sit in a fashionable coffee shop and have a leisurely coffee with her girlfriends after a busy morning's housework.

In a Japanese program, a man claimed that he only had pocket money of 100 yen a day (about 6 yuan RMB), and he often went hungry at noon.

People who have lived in Japan for a long time will know that Japanese restaurants are also gender-differentiated: those greasy Lamian Noodles shops, cheap barbecue shops, curry fast food, 1.2-hour convenience store lunches-all belong to Japanese men; Exquisite bakeries, fashionable cafes and western restaurants with various themes and customs are places where Japanese women have dinner and chat. Unless it is a rest day, men are rarely seen on weekdays.

In a Japanese program, a man claimed that he only had pocket money of 100 yen a day (about 6 yuan RMB), and he often went hungry at noon.

It is a shame for Japanese men to go home early. In the eyes of neighbors and family members, one is that there is no social circle, and the other is that the work is not busy enough and the career is not successful. So many people plunge into izakaya after work.

Born in 1890, Yamagata Jurong is one of the earliest women's liberation activists in Japan. She not only married Shanchuan Jun, who believed in socialism, but also founded Chilan Society, the earliest socialist women's group in Japan. In modern Japanese history, she was called a female liberation fighter. However, it is such a pioneer of feminist movement. In her book "Women of Martial Arts", it is described that Japanese women in the Edo period in Japan had strong spirituality and self-reliance. According to the thinking logic of modern people, Japan in the Edo era was still in a typical feudal society. Women are supported by men, which is undoubtedly less important than now. Men are superior to women. How can it have strong spirituality and self-reliance ability?

But the fact is: Japanese women's hearts have always been strong. This strength is due to the fact that Japanese family ethics has never changed from the past to the present: men are the masters and women are the masters. Women have absolute power at home, are in charge of family economic power, and have a sense of family management and family responsibility for family affairs, regardless of size. Therefore, observing Japanese families, we often find an interesting phenomenon: those Japanese men who can have the final say in the company, once they return to China, are either taken care of by their wives or reduced to "vulgar garbage" of their families. Japanese men seem powerful, but in fact, in front of Japanese women, they are always passive.