Danyang marriage custom

1, propose, in the old marriage, "you can't get married without a matchmaker." The so-called matchmaker, that is, taking the man as the matchmaker and the woman as the matchmaker, means "matching two surnames to get married." The marriage proposal was sent by the matchmaker to the woman by post. If the woman agrees, it is convenient for the man to prepare a gift to propose to the woman's family, which is the "acceptance" in the six gifts. From marriage proposal to engagement, there is a complicated marriage negotiation process.

Modern marriage, because men and women are socially open and free in love and marriage, basically gets rid of the shackles of parents' orders and matchmakers' words. The complicated procedures in marriage negotiation have gradually disappeared. However, it is quite common to make friends first and then fall in love and get married after being introduced. There are also open marriage recruitment in newspapers and magazines, and marriage agencies have appeared in society.

2, engagement, commonly known as "engagement." There are complicated etiquette in the engagement process. The procedure is: first, the men and women exchange wedding invitations (also known as "dragon and phoenix invitations"), and then formally establish the engagement. At the same time, the Cambodian ceremony should send invitations, which is commonly known as "making a decision", that is, "taking a levy". The date of engagement is chosen by the man, and the married girl, her parents, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts will all hold banquets. In the past, banquet venues were all located at home, but now many hotels have them, and they also take engagement photos. The man also wants to buy clothes, gold and silver ornaments and other things for the woman.

After engagement, her fiance always visits her parents with gifts during the Spring Festival, especially during the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival.

3, the date of delivery, called "please" in the six gifts, that is, choose the engagement date. And choosing a date depends on asking a fortune teller. Choose auspicious day, the wedding date is recorded in Khmer Rouge, and the man chooses bimonthly and bimonthly to inform the woman. The woman agreed to accept the man's invitation and gift, and wrote down the words "Allow Taiwan to ascend to the top" and brought them back to the matchmaker, indicating that she would never reschedule. When preparing to get married, the matchmaker acts as an intermediary to discuss how to hold a banquet and decide the expenses for the man to give the woman food and clothing.

Before the wedding, in order to have a boy early after marriage, there is a folk custom of making and warming the bed. Generally, a couple with many children should be invited to the man's house to make the bed. When making the bed, two people can't talk and move in sequence, which is called "black hair at the same time". When you make the bed, you should first lay a mat, then a quilt. Five red eggs and four jiaozi are placed in the quilt, and Qinglong (copper hair Lu, copper ingot and copper coin string) is hung on both sides of the bed, with auspicious embroidery on the surface and hair Lu Bao in the middle. Warm bed, also known as press bed, is to invite a boy with living parents and complete brothers and sisters to sleep in a bed with the groom on the eve of marriage. The boy who presses the bed will eat all the chestnuts and dates in the corner. Commonly known as "the boy presses the bed before marriage, and the child is full after marriage."

5. Visit the church and carry the sedan chair to the man's door. The bride walked out of the sedan chair with firecrackers and drums, was helped by the bride, and walked to the living room on the sack. It means "handed down from generation to generation". After a series of procedures, such as paying homage to the church, sitting on the rich, sharing accounts, tying the knot, and quarreling, the wedding was pushed to a climax. There are different procedures in four townships and eight gates in Danyang, some of which are complicated and some are simple. In Lin Jing, Danyang, after the bride and groom worship heaven and earth, the proprietors hand sacks all the way to make them enter the bridal chamber, which is called "handing bags", which means "carrying on the family line".

6. Wedding reception. Hold a big wedding reception when you get married, called "drinking a wedding banquet". This custom is getting worse and worse. Whether you hold a banquet at home or in a restaurant, the host must stand outside the door. The bride and groom greeted the guests in formal dresses. Banquets generally have dozens or even dozens of tables, ranging from eight dishes and eight bowls to shark fin seafood, which is becoming more and more luxurious. The bride and groom, accompanied by the best man and bridesmaid, toasted table by table, and now they want the bride to propose a cigarette. When toasting, the wine will push the wedding to a climax, and the guests will make things difficult for the bride and groom and fill each other's glasses. It is considered unlucky not to get into trouble. The more trouble, the happier men and women are.

7. Returning to the door, the bride and groom usually return to the door in the three dynasties, and there are also six or seven days or after the full moon. When the groom enters the Yue family, he should greet his parents and elders in front of the hall and pay a visit to relatives and friends. At lunch, the groom sits in the first seat. You must go back to your mother's house on the same day, and don't spend the night at your mother's house, because there was a custom in the old society that you wouldn't open a room for one month after you got married.