What would you do if you ran into your ex in public?

Although we all want to pretend that our ex doesn't exist after breaking up, the cruel reality is that even if they are no longer a part of us, they still live a daily life.

Think about what to do when you meet your ex. It's not that simple.

Cutting off communication after breaking up is a necessary condition for the healing process of both parties, but unfortunately, you can't control whether (or when) you will meet face to face again. In a study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology on October 20th, when participants saw photos of their predecessors, they found that a part of their brains recorded physical pain. ?

This means that you have to meet someone you once loved, and he turned you down, which will actually hurt your health, which is why it is so difficult to meet face to face. You can try your best to delay the invasion, but in most cases, it is almost inevitable.

Fortunately, when you meet your ex-partner, you can do something to make yourself look calm, calm and calm-even if you are scared under all this. Remember: you are not the only one who feels this way. Your ex was nervous to see you, too.

After breaking up, it's easy to imagine what we met for the first time. Can I have a hug? What are you going to say? They will tell you how great you look and how much they regret breaking up. Decide in advance how to survive the invasion with your predecessor, stick to the plan and avoid being completely at a loss and unprepared.

Even if you still have a lot to say to your ex, an unexpected run-in is not a matter of time and place. Say hello, write down how great you did, and try to end the conversation with a good note. It is possible that you have decided whether you and your ex should get back together. If your answer is "no", pretend you have somewhere else to go.

If your breakup is more or less mutual, and you know that you will meet your ex socially (for example, you are in the same circle of friends or often go to the same place), then it may be wise to fall into a situation that you must be together before you meet, and your ex may have coffee. Whether you and your ex are ready to be friends depends on you, but control is very important here. This gives you a chance to plan ahead and disperse some stress related to the situation. This is especially important when you are involved in both career and personal affairs, because you want to keep proper boundaries after breaking up.