Do you insist on buying high-speed rail tickets for your parents or ordinary train tickets they want?

My dad went back and forth from Hunan to Suzhou and asked me to buy a ticket and choose an ordinary train. Every time I offered to buy a high-speed rail ticket, my dad refused, saying it was unnecessary. My partner said that I should buy my dad a high-speed rail ticket directly, so should I respect my dad's idea or help him make a decision directly?

1, the essence of the problem

First of all, parents deserve a high-speed rail ticket, which is beyond doubt. His old man thinks it is unnecessary and just wants to save money. So the essence of the problem is the problem of consumption view.

People born in 1960' s were short of food and clothing and had to be thrifty. In addition, they were in a farming society, making money entirely by manual labor, earning hard-earned money, and the hardships of eating were several times that of our generation. It is this hard-won job that makes them know how to cherish and understand that thrift is the way to survive.

2. Can this concept of thrift be changed?

Maybe, but it's hard. My dad said that when I made a lot of money, he would spend money, too. So what is making big money? Old entrepreneurs like Ren and Cao Wangde are already rich, and they also squeeze buses to eat staff canteens.

My grandmother's generation is generally more frugal than my parents'. They never waste food, but they will eat and pick up the rice that has fallen on the table. So these ideas are the product of the times, and it is difficult to change them in a short time.

3. What should I do and what can I do?

Filial piety comes first, but what is filial piety? This is not against my father's orders, or advice when most needed is least heeded. I think it is the latter. We should do it when we can provide better conditions for our parents. Although I am not happy in my mouth, I am happy in my heart.

The first one is to be tough, just buy it and tell him that we have the ability to spend, and we can make money after consumption.

The second is a white lie. You can buy first, lie that there is no ticket or the refund fee is high, or tell them that the price is discounted. Parents don't think it's expensive, but they think they can't afford it. I believe many people have this experience. Give your parents a discount on what you buy, and they will be happy, otherwise they will complain that you are not frugal and spend money indiscriminately.

The third is to influence and change them slowly. For example, this time I bought my dad a mobile phone that is twice as expensive as their heart. By telling a lot of reasons, I broke through his consumption concept and reshaped their consumption concept. The so-called "no breaking, no standing".

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4, my point of view, take its essence and discard its dross.

First of all, save money. Our parents really scrimped and saved, which gave our three children the opportunity to go to college for further study, and also gave us the opportunity to settle in big cities, which had a better foundation than those families whose parents were mainly families.

Many financial management methods have mentioned that when there is no better way to make money, we can realize the original accumulation of capital by saving money, have our first bucket of gold, use these assets to invest and buy assets, reduce unnecessary expenses, delay consumption, start from thrift and gain wealth freedom.

Secondly, there must be principles to save money. Saving money can only save yourself. In social relations, you need to be generous, be kind to others and make people profit. Only in this way can someone follow you, save yourself, set an example and influence the people around you.

Saving money is not to reduce the quality of life, but there are better ways, such as online shopping, running a subway pricing card, buying fresh food at home, duty-free shops, special hotel flights in JD.COM, buying out-of-season clothes, using credit card wool, buying low-frequency items without rent, minimalist life, etc., which can save money but will not reduce the quality of life too much.

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Finally, you can't just save money. When time is less than money, you need to save money. When time is more important than money, you should learn to save time instead of money.

The thinking of the rich can spend money to solve problems and never spend their own time, because in the eyes of the rich, time is more important than money. As Li Xiaolai mentioned in his Road to Wealth and Freedom, personal business model is a way for a person to sell his time, which well illustrates the relationship between time and money.

Retail time is part-time and the whole sales time is full-time. Hiring people to spend money to buy other people's time and then selling it to make a difference is entrepreneurship and investment.

If you want to optimize your business model, first, when you only sell it once, you should try to raise your price per unit time; Second, learn to sell your time many times, such as writing bestsellers and doing online classes;

The third is to spend money to buy other people's time and then sell it. For example, bosses hire employees to create value. For example, paying for knowledge is sometimes more expensive than spending money on it. Spending money on the knowledge compiled or verified by others can reduce detours and spend less time. For example, in order to save money, you go to many clothing stores to compare prices. Although you buy the goods with the lowest price, you will consume more time and energy, and the shopping experience will be greatly reduced. Many times, it is more cost-effective to buy other people's services and time with money than to save money with our own time.

If you want to devote your time to your growth, don't delay your growth in order to save money, because when you firmly believe that you can make big money and your wealth will increase exponentially, all that remains before you look back is "small money".

Time is money, so some of us are saving money, while others are saving time, telling us to make different choices on different occasions and at different stages. Both of them are right, but don't just focus on saving money and fall into the trap of saving money called poor thinking.