How to find the chat topic library

The first priority in interpersonal communication is sincerity. Authenticity is the first step in developing future intimacy. The so-called sincerity should be to express one's feelings without any concealment, but expressing one's feelings and purposes immediately on the first date may be too abrupt and leave the impression of being too proactive and frivolous. Therefore, you might as well show that you have a good impression of the other person first, and then use a relaxed and natural conversation to "lure" the topic of conversation that the other person is interested in. Usually, what everyone is most concerned about is their own problems. As long as we ask the right questions and listen attentively, the other party will definitely regard us as a close friend and then reciprocate, giving us the opportunity to express ourselves, interact back and forth, and become a stranger on a first date. Awkward, it becomes a long conversation. The following are topics that can promote intimacy:

1. What do you do? (Why do you like this job? What are the biggest challenges? What are the biggest setbacks? What are your hopes for work and the future?)

2. What achievements have you made in your life so far? (Are there any major setbacks?)

3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested)

4. What was the most impressive happy event last year? (Or something unfortunate?)

5. What do you do at work?

6. How do you like to spend your vacation?

7. Do you want to become famous? (Why)

8. If you had one million, how would you use it?

9. How was your upbringing in your family from childhood to adulthood?

10. What personal strengths did you have while growing up? (Are there any shortcomings of fear?)

11. What kind of relationship do you want to develop?

12. Are you romantic? (How to be romantic?)

13. What do you think are the differences between men and women?

14. What makes you happy?

15. What makes you sad?

16. When you were a child, what did you hope to do when you grew up?

17. What do you think is different from others?

18. Do you believe in gods? (What are your views on gods?)

19. To what extent do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society?

20. What do you think are the important events in society right now? (If possible, what would you do?)

Some of the above topics may seem overly personal, especially for a first date, but remember, few people don’t. Caring about yourself, everyone is happy to discuss their own problems as long as they don't question each other rigidly like checking household registration.

And there are three topics that can be used in any situation: food, family, and philosophy.

Perhaps it is a Chinese custom that the protagonist of the first date should be the man, while the woman is more reserved. The man should take the initiative to ask some questions to stir up conversation. Both sides should avoid long periods of silence. The topic of the date should preferably be one that creates a pleasant atmosphere. The content of the conversation should be popular and broad, and the questions should be short so that the other person is willing to answer and able to answer. You can talk about work, study, hobbies, and trivial matters in life. Don't embarrass the other person because they don't know, let alone ask questions that make it difficult for the other person to talk. If the other person is silent and unresponsive, you should quickly change the topic. Both men and women can consciously introduce themselves, including their family members, personal hobbies, specialties, etc., but avoid bragging. Don't let it spoil the first date. Don't use dirty words, otherwise it will be seen as disrespectful, uncivilized, and impolite to the other party.

When dating, you must be happy, in a happy mood and state of mind. Because dating is not a class, there is no need to preach or inspire personality, so the topic must be light-hearted.

If she likes to talk, don't interrupt her. Might as well just be a loyal listener. At the same time, you should not talk about academic topics yourself.

When dating, it is best to take the topic from things that often happen around you, such as TV programs, newspaper social pages, etc., or music-related topics, and use cute pets around you like cats, Dogs, tropical fish, pigeons, birds, etc., because talking about some relaxed and interesting topics can bring you two strangers closer together.

After meeting for the first time, you will inevitably face a common troublesome problem: after asking questions that you already know (some personal situations have been introduced to each other in advance), you don’t know what to talk about next. So, you might as well try the following aspects.

1: Focus on the pursuit of career and look for the "sparkling point" of the topic:

Career is the foundation for a person to settle down and live his life. Any young person who works hard in his career and pursues life without slacking off will become very energetic once he talks about work and life with others. So grab some of his "sparkling points" in this area to explore the topic, and you will definitely have a lively conversation. The topic could be, for example: What do you do? Your job must be very hard, right? I have a hard time understanding your work. Can you tell me about it? Wait for the topic.

2: Focus on hobbies and look for the "hot spots" of the topic:

Everyone has his or her own hobbies, even a taciturn person, as long as he communicates with others He is also eloquent when talking about his hobbies. However, what should you do when you meet him for the first time and you don’t know what his hobbies are? It doesn't matter, you might as well talk about your own interests and hobbies first, and then seek out the hot spots in each other's interests and hobbies, so as to increase understanding and deepen feelings. We should expand each other's interests and hobbies to a broad field, so as to find the calling point of "one family". Topics could include: Do you like reading and writing? I like music, music and writing, culture and art. It’s like a ‘family’!

3: Focus on the environmental atmosphere and find the "focus" of the topic

Environmental atmosphere is a topic that is dynamic, random and rich in connotation. It is not just a play on the occasion, but it reflects a person's level and taste in terms of thoughts, moral character, wisdom, and behavior by capturing this kind of topic. It can be said that as long as a person who is good at observing things, analyzing problems, and handling conflicts focuses on the environment and atmosphere when looking for topics, there will be an inexhaustible supply of topics. For example: If there is a TV in the place where you are dating, you can say: Nowadays, there are many TV channels, but there is a lack of exciting programs. Just watch this TV series. The whole plot is slapstick, has no taste at all, and doesn’t have much practical significance. Then ask him to express his opinion.

4: Focus on social life and look for the "exciting point" of the topic

Social life is all-encompassing. You always have some of your deepest experiences, most wanted to say, and most disgusted things in your life. Or your favorite people and things, what you care about most or what you hope for most. Then, when your conversation with your friends gets stuck, just pick one of the "points" that you are most excited about and talk about it. For example, the topic is: Can you say what book you are holding? Or you can say that the clothes you are wearing today are very good, etc., and then you can say/didn’t you see that you have done a lot of research on this, and then ask him to talk about it. Didn’t the topic come up?

How to find opportunities to start dating the person you like? This also has a lot to do with the topic!

The so-called people you like can have various situations, so I will explain it a little below.

1: If you want to find opportunities to interact with people you meet at work, the easiest way is to join the clubs or activities that this person participates in. If the other person is not interested in this area, and if they are colleagues in the same work place, you can start the conversation with work matters. If the work place is different, you can start the conversation by talking to the other person about the place where they work and what they like. Establish friendships with colleagues of the same sex who are close to you, so that you can have the opportunity to get close to the person you like.

2: If two people know each other before, it should be easy to find an opportunity to talk. At this time, don't use "I want to date you" as the content of the conversation. Instead, you should use topics such as work or same friends to gradually get closer to the other person naturally. The more difficult situation is, for example, when you meet someone you like on your daily commute and how do you start dating that person?

One way is to get as close to the other person as possible while waiting for the bus at the bus stop. Over time, the other person will naturally have an impression of you.

Do this every morning to make an impression on the other person, and the time to go home will also match the other person's time (of course you have to spend some time for this, and ask at the station at a fixed time to find out the specific time for the other person to go home). After a long time, You can take the opportunity to say hello gently to the other person when you meet him. First, nod and smile. If the other person responds, then whisper to him: "Do you always go home at this time?" or "Hi! We meet again." If this trick works, then Half the battle is over. When we met at the stop sign the next morning, we could say hello to him comfortably. If you are embarrassed to say hello or nod and smile to the other person, you might as well try the old method that has been passed down since ancient times, which is to deliberately open your bag to take something in front of the other person, and then deliberately pretend to accidentally let anything that is not broken fall. Even if you are not waiting for the bus, you can deliberately walk in front of the other person on the road he is passing by and then deliberately let things drop. If the other person notices and picks it up for you, you can take the opportunity to thank him, and while looking at the other person's face, say: "Ah, it's you, do we see each other often?"

After that, at the stop sign the next day, be sure to say hello: "Good morning! Thank you so much for yesterday." "Where do you work!" Don't forget to talk to others. .

The above is just an example of creating a topic. No matter what kind of situation you encounter, you should be able to use the methods mentioned above to come up with the method that suits you best. Of course, if you want to be good at creating topics, you must have a certain level of hard work and courage. If you want to directly say "Can I be friends with you?" This way of expression not only requires extraordinary courage, but also allows only success and no failure, so I do not encourage this method.

I have to talk about the topic issue here:

When I was dating, I talked about some topics that I read in the book: For example, I only know that there is a feeling called attachment when I get to know you. , there is a feeling called love. The other party will ask me why I said that. I will tell her a bunch of reasons incessantly, and the atmosphere will become very good immediately!

There was another situation like this: She said to me: "I really don't understand. Of all the people who pursue me, no one is richer than you, but why do I like you so much?" Me Said: "That's because poor people care more about women than rich people, at least more about women's figures. Follow me and you will never have to worry about your waistline."

Some good people have asked me this: He's older than you, and the age difference is too big. "I said, "That would be better. If I were not younger than you, no one would provide you with the resources to laugh at me.

There is also this situation: Liangjia said: "I am not very satisfied with your appearance. You are not a handsome guy." I said: "That is where I am superior to handsome guys. Handsome guys can only use fashionable words." My beautiful clothes and beautiful complexion compete with you for your reputation, but I always wear common clothes and am willing to be your foil. When people see me, they think I am your driver. "